Saturday, March 15, 2014

"Property does need some work but could be a beauty"

So says the MLS listing for my mother's home. I think she'd like that. She loved that old ranch so much.

It's been empty for more than a year. It's taken that long for her reverse mortgage to wend its way through the courts. But now the house is up for sale, realtor owned and less than appraised value.

My mother's parents built this house and she moved in when my uncle was in 8th grade and she was a senior in high school. It's the house where she had her tiny wedding reception (20 people) and where she left for her honeymoon. When I was a toddler, my parents bought the house from my grandparents for just $1* and she was home.

Her pride in her yard was enormous. She was never happier than when she was tending that garden.

I was not happy in there. The village is too white-bread. Some damaging things happened to me while I was living in that town and in that house.

But it was her home. It's 3BR (the realtor is calling the big fourth bedroom a family room) and 1.5 BA and it's walking distance to two grammar schools and one junior high. I hope a young family sees the potential in it, buys it, and lives the happy life my mother liked to pretend we had.

Both she and the house deserve that.



*The story is that my grandparents didn't want that big yard anymore, but that doesn't explain why they gave it to my parents. Yes, my mom and dad took over the mortgage, but $1 is a very sweet down payment. I suspect my dad was in financial trouble and his in laws fished him out. But my family thrived on secrets, so I'll never know.

Saturday 9

"The Unicorn" was selected because Monday is St. Patrick's Day. Unfamiliar with this week's song? Hear it here.

1) This song was recorded by The Irish Rovers. While it's said that on St. Patrick's Day everyone is Irish, can you honestly claim Irish heritage? A wee bit. My grandma was 1/2 Irish, which makes me 1/8th.

2) According to the 2000 Census, Massachusetts is the state with the largest percentage of residents of Irish descent. Have you ever been to The Bay State? Yes, twice. I really enjoyed it. A charming, historic and very walkable city.  I would love to go back!

3) Other than St. Patrick, what is Ireland famous for? Belleek pottery and china, wool sweaters.


4) St. Patrick's Day is celebrated the world over. They even watch marching bands and wave Irish flags on St. Patrick's Day in Moscow. Does your town have a St. Patrick's Day parade? Puh-leez! I live in Chicago! The river is dyed green, there are Irish dance demonstrations and jig lessons under the Picasso at the Daley Center, and there's a parade through the city.

5) "The wearing o' the green" is one way to celebrate St. Patrick's Day. Will you wear something green in honor of the day? If I remember. So many celebrations are going on this weekend it may slip my mind that Monday is the actual day.

6) Have you ever had green beer? No, and I'm not interested.

7) Have you ever ordered a Shamrock Shake at McDonald's? Just had my first one at work on Friday! (McDonald's is a client and they sent shakes and apple pies over for Pi Day.)

8) A four-leaf clover is considered good luck. Do you have a lucky charm? Yes, and it's literally a charm. It's small and poorly made, but it depicts the Virgin Mary holding Baby Jesus. I found it on the carpet as I was waiting to board a recent flight. I fingered it during take off and landing and it really made me feel better.

BTW, I'm a white knuckle flier, and this Malaysia Flight 370 story is frightening and fascinating me. WHAT HAPPENED? Who would kill 239 people that way? Why?

9) Speaking of Lucky Charms, they are magically delicious.  What brand of cereal is in your kitchen right now? Rice Krispies.


Friday, March 14, 2014

Universality

This is why I like reading biographies. I always learn something, even if it's not what I expected. For example, I now know Johnny Carson had a lot in common with my Cousin Rose.

No, she doesn't smoke or drink. She's not a night owl and she doesn't have a quick wit. He was not a good Catholic who never missed mass, nor was he fascinated by her passion, genealogy.

But they both suffered through bitter divorces, and were permanently damaged by the experience. This passage, from the biography Johnny Carson by Henry Bushkin, has stayed with me since I read it four months ago because it reminds me of Rose:

"Johnny changed during the divorce proceedings, and I don't know if he ever entirely changed back … stormy moments came more frequently, and there was an overall harshness, an impatient intolerance that wasn't there before."

Rose waited a long time to marry and it ended horribly. It's left her sharp-tongued, with her temper always close to the surface. It's what Bushkin saw in Johnny, "an overall harshness" and intolerance.

As hard as it can be to be around her, I imagine that it's harder to be her. I must remember that and stay compassionate.

March Challenge -- Day 14


Day 14 -- What is your dream vacation? 

This one kinda hurts, since I'm not taking a spa getaway this year. For this first time since Bill Clinton was in office, I'm not escaping, all by myself, for seclusion and pampering. Instead I'm taking the
Look closely! She's in a bathrobe! I love this place.
money that would go to that and putting it into my bathroom. Yea, me! I'm so mature. 

Then why am I so wistful?

I wish I was at Chateau Elan, a destination spa outside of Atlanta. I'd stay in one of the guest suites, right on the spa premises, so I could go days without wearing anything but a bathrobe. Of course, the grounds are beautiful -- there's a winery right there -- so when I'm not being massaged or exfoliated, when I'm not dining on gourmet fare or getting make up tips, when I'm reading and relaxing in my suite, I can go wandering. Sigh. 
I've been spa-ing Hot Springs and Colonial Williamsburg, and they were beautiful, but if money is no object, Chateau Elan is the happy place I send my mind to.


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Thursday, March 13, 2014

March Challenge


Day 13 -- How do you pamper yourself?
 
I really look forward to my weekly coffee shop breakfast, eggs benedict is my favorite. Just me and my book. Great food, no clean up. The perfect way to start the weekend.
 
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Wednesday, March 12, 2014

WWW.WEDNESDAY

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• What are you currently reading? After Visiting Friends by Michael Haney. A reporter wants to know the truth about how his father died many years ago at the young age of 35. It's gotten terrific reviews, but since I just picked it up this morning, I don't have much to say about it yet.
 
• What did you recently finish reading? Top Down by Jim Lehrer. It's the story of Van Walters, a fictitious Secret Service agent who made the decision on 11/22/63 -- the plastic bubble top stays down and President Kennedy rides through Dallas in a completely open car. For a story that has so much human drama baked right in, it was a surprisingly ho-hum affair. I was especially disappointed because Mr. Lehrer was actually there, as a reporter at Love Field in Dallas 50 years ago. I thought his personal insight and involvement would add some passion to this novel. I was wrong.

• What do you think you’ll read next? The Country Girls Trilogy by Edna O'Brien. A novel about a pair of Irish schoolgirls set in the 1940s. I began it a couple weeks ago and was enjoying it. I'll return to it after After Visiting Friends.

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March Challenge -- Days 11 and 12


Day 11 -- What is in your wallet, other than money?

Lots of ATM receipts, random business cards, coupons and my frequent shopper cards (Walgreens, CVS, Petco ...)

Day 12 -- What do you do to cheer someone up?

I go to Macy's. It's attached to my office building by the Pedway, so I don't even have to go outdoors to get there. And they have EVERYTHING you could think of to cheer someone up. There's a card shop, Frango Mints (an individual mint cookie is like $1) and just last week I bought a coworker a baby present. It was a Healthtex onesie and matching cap on sale for less than $4 and made her sooooo happy.

A quick jaunt to Macy's is an easy and inexpensive way to spread a little joy.

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Monday, March 10, 2014

March Challenge -- Day 10


Day 10 -- Tell a joke or a funny story
It's embarrassing how this always cracks me up
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Pretty new necklace

A cherry bomb against a field of Cubbie blue!

"I feel pretty, oh so pretty!"

Sunday, March 09, 2014

13 ounces!

That's how much my cat Charlotte has gained in the last month. Very good, very exciting news.

The weather and her health have both improved to the extent that I was able to walk us back from the vet (her in the carrier, of course), saving me $7-$10 in cab fare.

Last month, when she was so sick, I was afraid of losing both my job and my diva cat. What a difference 30 days make! I'm very grateful.


March Challege -- Day 9


Day 9 -- Describe a routine or ritual you have
 
In the shower, I wash my face with a gentle, sudsy cleanser. Then I either deep cleanse with a pore refining mask or exfoliate with a scrub. After my shower, I apply anti-oxidants (usually Body Shop Vitamin C) to my face and decolletage and serum to the sensitive skin around my eyes. I give it a minute to absorb when I do my hair. Then I slather rich moisturizers to my face, chest and around my eyes.

It sounds like a lot, but I have been doing it so consistently, so long, that I'm not even aware I'm doing it anymore.
 
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Sunday Stealing

Because I've been through the desert on a Meme with No Name

1. Have you ever pretended to read a book to impress someone? Not quite. I have pretended to have finished a book I didn't to impress someone.

2. Have you ever pretended not to read a book in order to avoid embarrassment?
No. And I can't imagine what situation this would be.

3. What’s your worst reading habit?
When I read biographies, I frequently jump around based on the index.

4. What book are you most proud of having read?
None, particularly.

5. Do you buy most of your books new, second-hand, electronically or borrow via the library?
All of the above, except electronically.

6. Have you ever pretended to watch a film to impress someone?
No.

7. Have you ever pretended not to have watched a film in order to avoid embarrassment?
Again, I don't know why I would do this.

8. What movie have you watched the most? 



9. What film do you tell people is your favorite ever?




10. What film is actually your favorite ever?

I ran out of The Way We Were posters in English


11. What time do you usually wake up and get up in the mornings?
6:00 AM on weekdays. Whenever on weekends.

12. Do you wake naturally or does something/someone wake you up?
My cat Reynaldo takes charge if the alarm doesn't beat him to it.

13. How many snooze alarms do you need?
No snooze.

14. What’s your routine on a workday/work at home morning?
Feed cats. Check my email. Shower. Makeup. Clothes. Decide if I'm packing my lunch. Make sure I have my ID and train pass. Catch the train.

15. What’s your routine on a non-workday morning?
In the words of my all-time idol ...


March Challenge -- Day 8


Day 8 -- Your exercise philosophy

Get my heart rate up to 100 or more and keep it here for at least 20 minutes. Follow with some weight training. Do this 3x week. Eventually I will get stronger and maybe even a bit thinner.
 
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Friday, March 07, 2014

Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Theme from Peyton Place ("Wonderful Season of Love")

Unfamiliar with this week's song? Hear it here.

1) Spring, summer, fall or winter: which season do you consider most wonderful? I'm a fan of fall.

2) Crazy Sam learned this song when she played flute in the high school orchestra. Did you participate in many after-school activities? I wrote for the school paper and was a member of Spanish Club as a freshman and sophomore. Then when I got to my junior year I quit them both. I realized how little I really had in common with my rah-rah classmates. I really didn't enjoy high school very much.

3) The flautist next to her in the orchestra was Jeanne Pepitone. After a little Facebook spying, Sam learned that Jeanne is now Jeanne Moran, a nurse with a husband and a daughter. Sam shot her a "friend request." Do you keep up with your high school classmates? Only my oldest friend. I've known her since kindergarten. Though interestingly, we weren't close at all during high school. She put the "rah" in rah-rah back in those days. She loved high school!

4) When she performed with the school orchestra, Sam was required to wear gray slacks and a black sweater. What are you wearing right now, as you answer these questions? Jeans and a coral sweater.

5) Sam was especially dedicated to the school orchestra because she had a crush on Mr. Hanley, the school's musical director. He was the dark/thin/sensitive type. Tell us about a teacher you remember, and why he or she stands out. My high school English teacher had a wild mass of black hair and was (gasp!) Jewish. You have no idea how exotic that made him in my white-bread little town. He also really loved Shakespeare, and helped me see it as vibrant, relevant and sexy. He left that high school after just two or three years and, last I heard, is teaching drama at an Ivy League university. I was lucky to have him.

6) Because Sam was so crazy about Mr. Hanley, she was desperate to attend his band camp. Her parents wouldn't allow it unless she could pay her own way, and so she didn't get to go. Were your parents strict or permissive? If you have children yourself, what's your parenting style? My mom handled the day-to-day discipline and she was pretty lenient. My dad would swoop in when something made him mad, and since he was motivated by anger, he always handled it badly.

7) Sam liked Fridays because her favorite food, fried rice, was served in the school cafeteria. When you eat Chinese food, do you use chopsticks or a fork? I just had shrimp fried rice for lunch on Thursday. It was yummy, of course. And I used a fork.

8) When Sam was a little girl, a new box of Crayolas could get her pulse racing. Now she loves her Sharpies. Do you enjoy shopping for school/office supplies? Not especially. Though I do have a particular fondness for post-it notes.

9) Do you have any plush toys? Or did you give them all up when you left childhood? I still have my beloved Lassie dog, my mainstay when I was a little girl, and a polar bear my mother gave me for Christmas a few years ago. (She sponsored a polar bear in my honor from the World Wildlife Fund.)

 

Hail! Hail! The Gang's All Here!


We had our regularly scheduled team meeting, but this morning it was unusually well attended. Because we knew the president of the Chicago office was going to speak about how our account would be managed "going forward."

Gulp!

I am pleased to report that, despite all my fears, the news was all good. Even better, after listening to the president, I'm looking at my job through new eyes.

Our client is a nationally recognized brand. You know them. Everyone knows them. And yet we have historically gotten precious little love within our agency because it's perceived as rather dull (like Hallmark or Avon or Tupperware). If they sold beer or fast food or cars, we'd get attention.

The new president said he's impressed by how much we do, across so many platforms. TV, digital,* outdoor and mail.* That we're an example for the rest of the agency, both in Chicago and (gasp!) New York. 

He also said that he was trying to come up with a new way to bill our client, that our long-standing contract might not be the best way to "monetize our relationship." That makes me nervous. But those conversations are scheduled for "the back end of 2014, maybe 2015," so I'm trying not to freak out.



*My areas

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March Challenge -- Day 7


Day 7 -- What's the next movie you want to watch?


The Ghost and Mrs. Muir, starring Gene Tierney with an appearance by a very young Natalie Wood. I DVR'd it a week or so ago and really do want to watch it. I've never seen it start-to-finish, and the premise -- a widow falls in love with a sea captain who just so happens to inconveniently be a ghost -- sounds quite romantic to me.

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Thursday, March 06, 2014

That went well

No, really, it did!

Two things about my friend Barb have really annoyed me lately. One is her complete inability to put down the fucking iPhone. The other is her passionate, obsessive hate of Obamacare.

We saw each other last night for the first time since January and I snapped. She blew in 15 minutes late (even though I sent two reminders as to the time and place) and proceeded to start with the smartphone.

"Put that down," I told her. She smiled sheepishly and continued.

"I'm not kidding. If you don't stop that, I'm getting my book out. It's more interesting than looking at the part of your hair."

Amazingly, she put the phone down.

But then she started on Obamacare. And wouldn't let it go. She's been complaining about Obamacare at least since December. It's literally making her nuts.

Finally I asked her why, over the last 20 years, this is the only major event she's been this vocal about. I proceeded to list all the things we have NOT discussed over the years:

•  The Oklahoma City Bombing
•  The Lewinsky scandal and impeachment
•  Florida and the 2000 election
•  Non-existent WMDs
•  Katrina
•  TARP and the auto industry bailout
•  Drones
•  Gitmo
•  Edward Snowden and the NSA

Yet for some reason THIS is making her nuts? I said that the only aspect of this I'm going to discuss with her anymore is why Obamacare bothers her but she's apparently OK with the 9 topics listed above.

It worked! The subject was dropped and I doubt it will come up again. If it does, I'll just remind her that people actually DIED DURING KATRINA and she was apparently OK with it. This seems to be a rather effective argument.

Here's the thing -- when Barb and I met in the 1990s, she was my boss and that balance of power has always tilted a bit in her favor. Last night was one of only two times I can recall actually losing my temper with her. It's funny, but after I did, we got a long so much better. We spent one of the funniest, most spontaneous evenings together that I can recall.

There's a lesson here somewhere ...


March Challenge -- Day 6


Day 6 -- Six lies you tell yourself

I'll start working out tomorrow
I'll be more careful with money tomorrow
I'll get rid of the clutter tomorrow
I'll really scrub the bathroom floor tomorrow
I'll take the futon cover to the dry cleaner tomorrow
I'll hem those jeans tomorrow


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Wednesday, March 05, 2014

This made me smile

My best friend sent me an email update about stuff and things. While it was odd for what wasn't there (no mention of how his family is making ends meet now that he's been unemployed for 19 months), what was there was light and entertaining. My favorite part was his recounting of a trip to Vegas with his daughter's J-V basketball team. He was very proud of how well he handled the cooking, all by himself, for the entire group by grilling burgers and chicken legs in the hotel parking lot.

While he didn't have help in the culinary department, he wasn't the lone chaperone. "It was me and two other moms."

Psst! You're not a mom.



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WWW.WEDNESDAY

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• What are you currently reading? Top Down by Jim Lehrer. It's the story of Van Walters, a fictitious Secret Service agent who made the decision on 11/22/63 -- the plastic bubble top stays down and President Kennedy rides through Dallas in a completely open car. So far it seems to be about the depression and guilt Mr. Walters suffers, rather than a historic "if only" tale. I read, and was very moved by, the recollections of a real-life Secret Service agent, Mrs. Kennedy and Me, and am interested in seeing how fiction compares to life. This book jumped to the top of the pile because it's from Amazon Vine and I promised to review it promptly.
 
• What did you recently finish reading? Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter. An epic story that takes us from Rome to Edinburgh to Hollywood to Seattle and the midwest. It covers decades as well as miles and introduces us to some very unique and lovingly drawn characters.

• What do you think you’ll read next? Time for non-fiction. After Visiting Friends by Michael Haney. A reporter wants to know the truth about his father died many years ago at the young age of 35.

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March Challenge -- Day 5


Day 5 -- Link to a current song you like

Happy that this oldie is being introduced to a new generation. I've always liked the line, "The time is right, your perfume fills my head, the stars go red and oh, the night's so blue." I've been there.



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Tuesday, March 04, 2014

March Challenge -- Day 4


Day 4 -- What time do you regularly go to bed?

My sleep pattern bugs me. On weeknights I have an unfortunate tendency to close my eyes, just for a moment, around 8:30 and then (dammit!) I wake up at about 2:00 AM. Then I watch really bad TV for a while and sleep for another two hours. It's a stupid way to waste my time. I must work to stay up later and enjoy uninterrupted sleep.

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Day 3 -- Describe today's outfit.

White cableknit sweater (Macy's), dark wash jeans (Lane Bryant), fabric loafers (Rocket Dog).

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Monday, March 03, 2014

Show a little faith

When I got to work this morning, I just hung around a bit, gossiping about last night's Oscars. I wanted to take the temperature of the room, to see if anyone had heard anything about intrigue closer to home.

When I was satisfied that no one had been let go, anywhere in the agency, I went to the florist and bought a bouquet for the vase on my desk. It seemed like a hopeful thing to do.

I think this is it now until May. I must learn to deal with and enjoy each day as it comes. The flowers will remind me of that.

I'm so tired of this Recession! Before the turn of the millennium, we had more jobs than people. But I'm afraid those days are long, long gone.




Sunday, March 02, 2014

Sunday Stealing

February Wrap Up

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1) Candle scents this month: I don't do candles. But I did stock up on Airwick Freshmatic Cinnamon Medley.

2) What I read this month: Two books, each morning's newspaper, and a ton of magazines

3) Top three songs I was drawn to: I've been all girl power lately, listening to Amy Winehouse ("Tears Dry on Their Own") and Streisand ("The Main Event") and The Supremes ("Where Did Our Love Go?"). Can I have an "ooh-baby-baby" for the Motown goddesses who, along with the Lads from Liverpool, dominated the charts in 1964?

4) Movies I saw: Wolf of Wall Street, Her and 12 Years a Slave. Tonight is the Oscars, and I always try to see as many nominated movies as I can.

5) Favorite tv moments of the month: "31 Days of Oscar" on TCM. Every day, all day, they have been showing the most exceptional movies! My DVR has been humming.


6) Something yummy I made: I got nothing on this one

7) Restaurants where I ate: The Giordano's location right next to work has introduced a special $9.99 combo -- individual deep dish, salad and (non-alcoholic) beverage. This discovery has made me very happy. None of my coworkers has caught on yet, making it a great place to slip away to for quiet time with a book.

8) Five things I am loving this month:
• Sleeping (I had the flu in January and the congestion kept waking me up!)
• My cats are healthy (Charlotte had problems but she's better now)
• My best friend has been more forthcoming. This is good because when he's all superficial, I worry that something's wrong. (Straight men seem to find communication rather difficult!)
• Being done with my mom's finances. She died in September 2011, had nothing, and yet the rigmarole regarding her final affairs just seemed to go on and on and on ... I think it's finally over.
Being a Secret Pal. It was a month-long program at church where I was paired with an 8-year-old girl. We exchanged notes and presents and finally met last Sunday.

9) A goal I had for this month: 13 workouts. Didn't happen. Bad Gal!

10) This month I looked forward to: Between my own flu and taking Charlotte to the vet, I looked forward to health in February.

11) Something I want to remember about this month: Meeting my Secret Pal

12) A photo I took this month: I surprised my friend Kathy by providing the flowers (the pink ones) at church the Sunday before her birthday.

Saturday, March 01, 2014

March Challenge -- Day 1


Day 1 -- What funny thing happened today?

Thinking … thinking … Can't come up with anything. Which is not to say it's been a bad day. Got my hair cut and it's cute, saved $15 because I was able to take train/bus combo home instead of a cab, am grateful that right now, every member of my fur family is healthy.

But except for the Will and Grace marathon on WE-TV, I don't think much struck me as funny today.

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