These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
Wikipedia Birthday Meme
First, what is your birthday (month/day)? November 22
Now, go to Wikipedia and list:
Four historic events: Okay, the first one I don't have to look up. When a national tragedy occurs on your birthday, you never forget.
• JFK Assassination (1963)
• The first commercial transpacific flight (1935)
• FDR, Churchill and Chiang Kai-shek meet to discuss defeating Japan (1943)
• NASA launches the Space Shuttle Discovery (1989)
Three births
• First Lady, and Presidential Mom, Abigail Adams (1744)
• French President Charles deGaulle (1890)
• Singer/songwriter Hoagy Carmichael (1899)
Two deaths
• Cosmetics mogul Mary Kay (2001)
• Officer JD Tippit (1963). He's the Dallas cop who stopped Lee Harvey Oswald within an hour of the assassination and was shot himself. Tippit was a war veteran with more than a decade on the force. He left a wife and three children. I'm spotlighting him because conspiracy theorists have recklessly ruined his reputation. Here's the commemorative badge Dallas police have worn in his honor.
One holiday or observance
Good Spouses Day in Japan
Saturday 9: Shoo Fly Pie (and Apple Pan Dowdy) – 1946
Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
1) Shoo fly pie got its name from Shoo Fly the Boxing Mule. After the Civil War, the mule who could box was such a popular circus attraction that a molasses manufacturer started featuring him on their packaging. Since molasses is the key ingredient of this pie recipe, homemakers just began referring to it as "shoo fly pie." If we looked, would we find molasses in your kitchen? No.
2) Apple pan dowdy is another uniquely American recipe from the 19th century. It's like apple pie, except it only has a top crust, which is broken up. Apples are a good source of fiber, Vitamin C and antioxidants. Do you consider nutrition when choosing a dessert? Or are you just all about how it tastes? Sometimes I think about nutrition. At Smoothie King, I ask for a little fiber boost. Today while grocery shopping I chose Fig Newtons over Chips Ahoy. It takes some of the guilt out of pigging out.
3) The lyrics describe these two desserts as the ultimate comfort foods, able to make "the sun come out when the heavens are cloudy." Do you find that the foods you crave change with your mood? Not the food themselves, but the quantity. I snack more when I'm sad/bored.
4) Singer June Christy pleads with her mama to whip up this "wonderful stuff." Did your mother have a dish you often requested? Yes. This is going to sound weird, but it's true. When I was 6 or so, my mother brought me along to wedding or bridal shower. I felt very special and grown up, and it was the first time I ever saw hors de'oeuvres. I was fascinated by food on toothpicks. So when we had hot dogs, I didn't get mine on a bun. My mom would slice it up and give me a toothpick and little puddle of ketchup and I felt like the most sophisticated first grader on the planet.
5) June was born in Springfield, Illinois' capital. Have you been to your state's capital city? Springfield is my state's capital and I have been there many, many times. It's where Abraham Lincoln came of age and site of The Abraham Lincoln Presidential Library and Museum. You can also tour the only home Abe and Mary ever owned. His law office is still there, but it's being renovated. I'd like to go back someday soon. There is something comforting and inspirational to walking where he walked. Abraham Lincoln represents America at its best.
6) June spent years singing with Stan Kenton's Orchestra. At one point, she gave 38 performances in 35 towns in 35 days. That's a busy schedule! Do you thrive on activity? Or do you find yourself rejuvenated by quiet time? I need my quiet time.
7) In 1946, when this record was popular, bikinis were first seen in Paris fashion shows. How often have you worn your swimsuit this summer? Not once.
8) Also in 1946, Elias Tupper invented Tupperware, a plastic container with an airtight top that's great for preserving leftovers. Are there any leftovers in your refrigerator right now? Not at the moment.
9) Random question: Is there a day of the week that goes by faster than the others? Sunday.
More budge in your budget. Every time I buy groceries I toss something in the bag for the local food pantry. It used to be I could find all kinds of non-perishables on sale for under $1. Not so anymore. Not that it matters, but I blame the tariffs and the ongoing effect of the War in Iran.
13 tried-and-true ways to curb your spending
1. Pay with cash. You're less likely to go over the fixed amount you set aside for groceries or dinner if you go old school and don't rely on plastic.
2. Get rewards. If you're going to pay with a card, make sure it's one that gives you something in return. If Card A will give you double miles on dining and Card B offers triple points at the pump, keep both in your wallet and tap the right card at the right time.
3. Clean your microwave more often. Crumbs left behind can create "hot spots" in the oven interior and shorten the its life.
4. Remove your roof rack. It's a scientific fact: a rack creates aerodynamic drag that makes your car use more gas.
5. Change the oil regularly. Yes, it's dirty and, even if you have someone else do it, time consuming. But skipping your vehicle's oil change can reduce gas mileage (expensive) and damage the engine (even more expensive).
6. Don't park at the airport. People who are used to driving drive. But it's almost always cheaper to take a rideshare to/from the airport than to park.
7. Don't pay rental car insurance you're already getting. Major credit cards often include rental car coverage as a perk. Check your card's website before you take go to the rental car counter.
8. Turn down the laundry temp. Check the labels and the back of your detergent bottle. You can likely get your laundry just as clean at a cold or warm setting, and you'll lower your electric bill by not making your water heater go all the way to hot.
9. Look beyond the "big guys." Smaller providers – US Mobile, Mint Mobile and Consumer Cellular – access the same networks as Verizon, AT&T and T-Mobile but often cost less.
8. Celebrate at the dollar store. Save on party supplies like paper plates, napkins, and cups.
10. Clean your gutters. Clogged gutters will sag and you'll have to replace them sooner. They can also overflow and leak, causing expensive damage to the outside of your house.
10. Think thrift for glass. Picture frames, vases and decorative jars are usually good second hand and all are readily available at your thrift store.
11. Keep a tote bag in your purse or car. Many municipalities charge a bag fee that you won't have to pay if you bring your own with you.
12. Social media is not just for sharing vacation photos. Follow your favorite stores and find out about sales in advance. Some retailers post coupons you can load onto your phone for next time you visit.
13. Comparison shop for pet supplies. Often your local grocery store, Target and Walmart sell the same brands for less than the chain pet stores charge.
How about you? Any tips to add?
WWW.
WEDNESDAY asks three questions to prompt you to speak bookishly. To
participate, and to see how other book lovers responded, click here. PS I no longer participate in WWW.WEDNESDAY via that link because her blog won't accept Blogger comments. I mention this only to save you the frustration I experienced trying to link up.
1. What are you currently reading? Margin of Error by Edna Buchanan. Miami in the 1990s was hot, and not just by National Weather Service standards. For a time, Hollywood came calling and it was a popular location for films and made-for-TV movies. That's how glamorous actor Lance Westfall plausibly can be in the life of hardworking Miami reporter Britt Montero. Her newspaper has assigned her to him as he researches his role for an action movie. He's going to get an eyeful, because Britt works hard and is dogged in getting the story, no matter how ugly or how dangerous the story is. The last big story was awful in every way, and at the beginning of this book, she's still haunted by it.
This is a series and I like the recurring characters, but be warned: these books are not remotely "cozy." Edna Buchanan was a Miami crime reporter in real life and she is unsparing in what she shares. But the violence is believably, frighteningly rooted in real life. (That's the complaint I've had with Rosenfelt and the Andy Carpenter books. Most crimes are do not involve in international intrigue. The stories Britt covers and uncovers feel real.)
2. What did you recently finish reading? Touched by the Sun by Carly Simon. Carly Simon was galpals with Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis for the last decade of Jackie's life. This is the story of that relationship, and the ongoing impact it had on Carly's life.
The first time I read this book it was for Jackie and yes, she continues to fascinate. This time through I concentrated on Carly. At one point she was dealing with the death of her mother and Jackie's last illness. I wanted to revisit Carly's attitudes and observations because now, at age 83, she is simultaneously battling Parkinson's and skin cancer.
The Carly on these pages is fragile, complicated and indulgent. I liked her, related to her, yet was frequently annoyed by her. Maybe the things that annoyed me are the same things I see in myself. It's an involving memoir. A slim book, I may reread it again in the future, and maybe I'll get something different from it.
3. What will you read next? Zelda Fitzgerald: Her Voice in Paradise by Sally Cline.
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WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE ...?
1. Flavor? Cinnamon
2. Movie?
3. Piece of jewelry? I
often wear this charm as a pendant. It's a recreation of one of the
coins found on the Atocha, a Spanish ship that went down off Key West in
the 1600s. The charm is made from scrap silver that remained in the
wreck. Amazing to think I'm wearing metal that rested for centuries at
the bottom of the sea!
The pendant means a lot to me because it
reminds me of my favorite uncle, who loved Key West and collected Atocha
coins, and of my dear friend Henry, who lived in Key West and was with
me when I bought it.
4. Place to be? My home. Which is why what happened yesterday disturbed me so. It's hard to relax when a nosy neighbor is just waiting to impinge on my privacy.
5. Boy's name? I think I like Robert best because it can be adapted to fit the person: Bob, Bobby, Rob, Robbie or Robert.
6. Girl's name? Margaret. See above. Maggie, Margo, Marge, Peggy, Reta.
7. Candy? It changes. Lately it's Hershey's with Almonds.
8. Sports team? This never changes.
9. Color? Pantone 294. It's the exact blue of the Cubs logo.
10. Month? Today I'm thinking September. It feels like the beginning of a new season and a fresh start.
So, do you feel like you know me better?
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I'm in a very bad mood as I write this. Something happened today that was unfair and I can't shake it.
My neighbor at the end of the hall is not well. Chris has mobility issues – he wears a brace on one of his legs – and some form of Tourette syndrome that causes him to yell loudly when he's alone. I can hear him when I'm in the hall, the same way I can hear other neighbor's music or TVs, and definitely when he's alone in the elevator because the acoustics carry sound like Judy Garland at Carnegie Hall. His downstairs neighbor hears him all the time through the bathroom vent but has never complained because understands Chris can't help it.
I try to make allowances for that, too. I always smile, I'm always polite. He knows I am on the condo board and makes up questions about building business. I'm always tempted to say, "Why do you ask? You were at the meeting and know the answer!" But I know why he asks. He is lonely and is looking for connection. He also loves to intercept me on the backstairs, which only lead to two places: the laundry room and the dumpster. Yet he always asks, "Gal! Where are you going?" Well, if I'm carrying a box of Bounce fabric softener sheets, I'm finishing my laundry. If I'm hauling a Hefty bag, I'm taking out the trash. So why is Encyclopedia Brown asking me this? Does he think I'm off to Madagascar to see a lemur in the wild? But I get that he's lonely and so I chirp a merry response and try to scurry away.
Most of all, there is the mail issue. Whenever anyone gets mail that doesn't fit in their mailbox, or receives Amazon packages, Chris delivers them to our doors. He bangs on the door, hoping we'll answer and thank him. He means well, but it's tiresome. I'm home, I'm behind my closed door. Maybe I'm still in my pajamas after noon. Maybe I'm watching a movie or reading. Maybe the game is on. Maybe I just want to be left the fuck alone. I don't like feeling as though I'm on call 24/7. I resent feeling under obligation for a delivery service I never asked for and truly don't need. I also really, really don't like it when Chris asks, "What was in that big box I left for you yesterday?" I always say, "I order so much, I really don't remember."
But today! Today I felt especially intruded upon and it's galling. I order groceries from WalMart once every two months or so. I stock up on things I can't get at my local grocery store. This morning's delivery of 11 bags happened to arrive at just about the same moment as my every-two-weeks Subscribe and Save from Amazon. What are the odds?
Of course Chris showed up at that moment. He'd received an Amazon delivery in that same shipment, as had many of our neighbors. He literally brought a cart to do his rounds and deliver the packages (something again, no one has ever asked him to do). He offered to take my groceries up but I told him no. I don't need his help and besides, I don't want him nosing around my grocery bags, asking why I prefer Brawny to Bounty. I also told him not to bother with my Amazon box, I'd be back down in a moment for it.
He argued with me! In front of the WalMart delivery girl. He insisted on following me up in the elevator with my Amazon box, after he delivered everyone else's.
When he got to my front door, I opened it and took the big box. I thanked him and, with my front door open, he loitered. He's tall, making it easy to look over my head around my living room! Asking me meaningless questions about the condo board that I know he knew the answers to, stalling as his eyes darted around and surveyed my surroundings.
MY SURROUNDINGS! I have the underbed boxes from my old bed stacked up in my livingroom, there to remind me to go through them before placing them back under my new bed. He saw the water bowls placed all over the living room, there to encourage Roy Hobbs to drink more. He saw the cellophane label that I've never thrown away because Connie likes pretend it's big game and chase it. He saw the shoes strewn all over, the sofa pillows I'd kicked onto the floor while lying down to watch the game.
I am not a public person. This is my life, not a reality show. My mess is not his business. This is my home.
I have been so careful of his feelings that I've allowed him to trample mine.
I am just as mad at myself as I am at him. But still I am mad.
Saturday 9: Blueberry Hill (1956)
Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
This month Saturday 9 will be tasty, featuring songs with food in the title.
1) Fats Domino sings about a hill named for blueberries. According to the Old Farmers Almanac, blueberries can grow just about anywhere in North America, as long as they have plenty of direct sunlight. Do you have a garden? No. I don't have my own yard. Though I suppose if I cared to, I could tend to the little plot in front of our building. We pay a landscaper to come a couple times each season to do minimal maintenance. We all agree it looks crappy, but we aren't willing to spend any more money on it.
2) Blueberries are low in calories and rich in fiber. Are they a regular part of your diet? Sporadically. Sometimes I want them, most of the time I don't.
3) They also have a high moisture content. Staying hydrated is important to human health. Do you drink the standard recommended 8 glasses of water every day? No. I try, but I seldom get beyond 5 glasses.
4) Fats originally had a big hit with "Blueberry Hill" in 1956, and then enjoyed the record's renewed popularity in the mid-70s, when "Blueberry Hill" was often referenced as Richie Cunningham's favorite song. Without looking it up, do you remember what show Richie Cunningham was on? (Extra non-existent Saturday 9 points if you can also name the actor who played Richie.) Happy Days, Ron Howard.
5) Born Antoine Domino, he took the name "Fats" not just because of his physique. Growing up, jazz pianist Fats Waller was one of his heroes. If you were to adopt the first name of someone you admire, what would we call you? Jacqueline.
6) Despite his warm and friendly stage persona, Fats was shy around strangers and hated giving interviews. Tell us about something you did only because it was part of your job, not because you enjoyed it. At my current job, I hate handling customer returns because I believe the cash register is my enemy. I always end the transaction by saying, "Thank you for your patience," because I know I suck.
7) In 1956, when this record was topping the charts, the Olympics were held in Melbourne. Have you ever been to the land down under? Nope.
8) The star of the 1956 Olympics was Austrian Toni Sailer, who won all three gold medals in Alpine skiing. Do you prefer snow skiing, water skiing, or just watching other people ski? I enjoyed snow skiing, even though I am no good at it. I've never been on water skis.
9) Random question: Do you believe everyone has a jealous streak? Yes.