A Private Life Defined by Wit, Compassion
We were on a train heading south through
the June afternoon, carrying another Kennedy in a coffin to the dark
permanent earth of Arlington. I was sitting in one of the crowded cars
with Jose Torres, who had been the light-heavyweight champion of the
world. He had torn his Achilles tendon in the gym and his right foot was
in a cast and we were talking, and trying to make jokes to erase grief,
glancing out at the ruined faces standing beside the tracks.
I was drinking
then. I saw an old man standing at attention, saluting, and I turned
away and sipped my whiskey and then, coming down the aisle, there was
She was moving
slowly, stopping to murmur words of consolation to this person and that;
and then came to us. Jose introduced himself and then me. She shook our
hands and asked about Jose's leg.
"I know Bobby loved you guys," she said. "I'm so sorry."
The words were simple and
correct, of course; so was the stoic grace, the refusal to weep in
public, cry to Heaven for vengeance, or issue some gushing demand for
pity. But there was something unstated too, moving around in her eyes,
present in the coiled tension of her stance. She was bitterly angry. In
1968, with Martin Luther King gunned down and now Robert Kennedy, she
morning in St. Patrick's Cathedral, anger stained the air; it was here
on the funeral train too, impossible to tame with either words or
whiskey. The murder of Jack Kennedy provoked horror and grief, the
killing of Robert Kennedy, a generalized absurd fury.
Jackie Kennedy, as
everyone called her then, had been to King's funeral in April; now she
was part of still another, less than five years after the bloody
finality of Dallas. American public life was beginning to resemble a
death cult and in her eyes, and the slight tight-lipped shake of the
head, she seemed to be wondering if the killing would ever end.
The train rocked
slightly; she didn't lose her balance. She turned to console someone
else and then she was gone. Four months later she married Aristotle
"I wanted to
go away," she told me once. "They were killing Kennedys and I didn't
want them to harm my children. I wanted to go off. I wanted to be
After the marriage
to Onassis, of course, much bitterness was directed at Jackie herself.
Three public versions of the same woman emerged, often warring with one
another: Jacqueline Bouvier, Jackie Kennedy, Jacqueline Onassis. By
refusing to play forever the role of Jackie Kennedy, Grieving Widow, by
resisting the demands and hypocrisies of the cult she'd helped create by
telling Theodore White it was like Camelot, by insisting instead on her
right to live, Jacqueline Bouvier invited the pikes and lances. In the
process, she made a brave and difficult life.
A decade after
Robert Kennedy's death, after Onassis had died, and after Jackie had
begun to build her life in New York, we went around together for a
while. I don't know of any public figure whose public image was at
greater variance with private reality. "I picked up the newspaper
today," she said one evening, "and read this story about this absolutely
horrible woman — and it was me."
She did not retail
herself, of course, did not work the talk show circuit or give
interviews or issue press releases. The absence of information was
filled with gossip, rumor, the endless human capacity for malice. She
was able to immunize herself from most of this with irony and
detachment, laughing at the more overblown printed fevers. She
understood that she was the stuff that tabloid dreams are made of,
combining in one person the themes of sex, death and money. But she
could be wounded too.
"I just don't
understand sometimes why they work so hard at hurting me," she said.
"There are so many more important things to do."
been written about her; more will come in a ceaseless flood. I hope they
all make clear how much she loved her children and the man she once
described to me as "this young handsome guy who later became president."
Loved them: and the geometries of the French language, the marbled
acres of the Metropolitan Museum of Art, the lanes and green surprises
of Central Park, the light of the Mediterranean. She loved riding horses
through the fields around Bernardsville in New Jersey and loved rogues,
too, men who reminded her of her father, Jack Bouvier. She is one of
the few women I ever met who could be equally comfortable with Jimmy
Breslin and Andre Malraux.
was subtle and surprising. She could discuss characters from Proust and
dances by Fred Astaire. She had a wicked sense of humor, saw sham when
it appeared, had little patience for fools, expressed herself with wit.
She worked hard at
editing, reading more manuscripts at home than ever were published,
urging people into good work. And she could write too. Her notes were
models of grace and precision. The most appalling thing about the
suddenness of her death is that she apparently never wrote her memoirs,
she who had so much to remember. "Sometime, when I'm old and creaking,"
she said, "maybe I'll write some of all that."
Instead, she wrote
notes to people who were in trouble, to men whose wives were dying, to
women who'd lost their men. The world was full of the wounded. She had
the gift of sympathy, which is rarer than we all care to admit, and
brought it more often to the hurt than to the triumphant. She was
gracious with strangers, particularly people astonished by the sight of
her, amused by the absurdity of her own celebrity, but never cruel or
dismissive to those who thought it was important. She used that
celebrity for decent causes: the saving of Grand Central, the campaign
to rehab 42nd Street, the curbing of Mort Zuckerman's skyscraper on the
edge of Central Park. In those and other endeavors, she wasn't
assembling scrapbooks; she was being a citizen. Most of the time, she
hung the celebrity in the closet like a dress, and lived her life.
She didn't need to
do any of these things. She could have lived out her days in icy exile
in Europe, hugging some mountain in Switzerland, walled away from the
world in some personal fortress on the Riviera. She chose instead to
live in New York, a city as wounded as she was.
In the last
decade, when every sleazy rumor about Jack Kennedy was treated like
fact, she maintained her silence. And silence, of course, is
Now, in silence, she will make her own final journey to Arlington. To be forever with the man she loved, long ago. God bless.