Thursday, November 24, 2011

Happy Birthday to Me, Part 7

Met my old friend Mindy for dinner. I had a burger, she had a salad. She looks terrific and was full of tales about her younger son, which made me happy because has ADD and that has caused her and her husband quite a bit of worry.

She also gave me the DVD of her favorite show, The Good Wife, which I really haven't seen. I've caught an episode now and again, but I'm not really familiar with the series. Here's my chance to catch up.

Mindy wants John to join us for our Christmas get together. If they work it out, I'll agree. We all met at work 30 years ago. But John and I have stayed close, Mindy and I have stayed in touch and John and Mindy have drifted apart.

They have made that choice, in a dozen different little ways, over the years. It's not hard to sign a holiday or get well card and drop it in the mail, or to shoot an email with a link to a newspaper/magazine article that reminds you of someone, or to pick up the phone and say "happy birthday." And yet over the years, these two haven't done it. It's something I don't really understand and so I'm confused by her sudden desire to see John.

If they work it out, I'll be there. But I'm not going to move heaven and earth to make it happen. It might be awkward and besides, I see this as their business. I'll show up to be the bridge between them after all these years, but while I'm willing to be their conduit, I'm not going to be the catalyst.


  1. UH OH! You are sure to fall into the hole that is "The Good Wife" - I started watching it via netflix and then my pal sent me the whole 2nd season on DVD. I spent the 4 weeks Duty was gone watching 2 hours of it just about every day. Addictive and good! Love that show. DVR it now.

    You'll like it. I'm wagering the house on it. :)

  2. Happy birthday to you. It is good to see you pampering yourself.

  3. You'll have to share your thoughts about The Good Wife. I also haven't seen it but am curious.

  4. Anonymous6:40 PM

    I don't know, maybe there were feelings between the two of them at one point...and keeping in contact was a bit too painful until now.