Saturday 9

Live Like You Were Dying (2003)

Unfamiliar with this week's song. Hear it here.
 
1) This song is about a man whose father advises him to live life to the fullest, to become "the friend you'd like to have." How about you? Are you the friend you'd like to have? Yes. I am a good friend.

2) The song lists several "bucket list" items: skydiving, mountain climbing, riding a bull. Have you done any of those things? Would you like to? I would like to try skydiving. I think it might help me conquer my fear of flying.

3) In the music video, Tim McGraw is wearing a white button-down shirt, blue jeans and a cowboy hat. Which of those items is in your wardrobe? Jeans, jeans and more jeans.

4) He wears a cowboy hat because he is embarrassed by the size of his forehead. When you wear a hat, are you more likely doing it for style, like Tim, or for protection from the elements? I'm not much of a hatwearer. I'll wear a hood or earmuffs when the weather demands.

5) McGraw's biological father was Tug McGraw, pitcher for the Mets and Phillies. How did your baseball team do this season? Oh, my Cubs! They collapsed in September and the city is abuzz with who will be traded during the off season. We've already bid adieu to our fantastic manager, Joe Maddon, the man who led us to the World Series in 2016. The tension is unbearable, because I really love the core of this team and saying goodbye to any of these players will be wrenching. 

Hot rumor: KB won't be in Cubbie blue next year. BOO!

6) Tim McGraw and wife Faith Hill live just outside of Nashville. They enjoy inviting friends over to sit around a bonfire, drinking beer and playing guitars. Tell us about the most recent gettogether you had with friends. I don't tend to do big parties. I like one-on-ones with my friends. Recently, I caught up with Will, the moderator of our classic film group, before we attended the Noir City Film Festival together. It was nice because he and I are usually together in a group. It was interesting to get to know one another better, after knowing one another for more than five years.

7) Tim likes his tattoos. He admits his silliest one -- a leprechaun wearing a cowboy hat -- was acquired during a night of drinking. Do you have a tattoo? If so, are you glad you have it and would you get it again? No tattoos.

8) In 2003, when this song was popular, the supersonic

Concord took its last flight. When did you most recently board a plane? What was your destination? LAX-ORD. I was coming home from the TCM Film Festival. It was grand!


9) Random question: When did you last walk around the house naked? Just now. I sprayed moisturizer on my back and shoulders and didn't want it to rub off on my clothes.

That was a nothingburger

My GP retired in August. This made me very sad, because I trusted her implicitly. I can't say I was surprised, though. I knew she was by now 65 or perhaps a little older, and I knew she was tiring of her the drama and politics surrounding how the practice was being run. Once day, back in 2016, she said, "I think I'd work forever if only they'd play nice."

So I was faced with a dilemma: do I go with the new, in-practice doctor recommended for me, or do I doctor shop? I decided to stay in-practice because the new doctor would (theoretically) have access to more than 20 years of my medical history.

Of course, any benefit from staying would depend on the new doctor reviewing my history.  Which he clearly had not before our first meeting in late August.

I was there to get prescriptions refilled and, naturally enough, he wanted to see me before got out his pad. It was obvious during that first visit he had no notion of my history. When he asked for me dates when I had this or that test or vaccine, I'd say, "Isn't it in there?" Likewise when he wanted to know what dosage of these meds I'd been prescribed. I was frustrated.

Also, he referred me to an allergist and a urologist for my allergies and kidney stone. Really? What does my new GP do, just act as traffic cop, referring me to specialists?

I realize that I resist change. I thought maybe I was so pissed at him because he wasn't Dr. Mary, whom he never could be, and that maybe I should give him a second chance.

So, when I began getting robocalls saying that I needed a follow up visit to discuss my test results -- turns out my A1c is 6, which indicated pre-diabetes -- I went back. After all, I need a flu shot.

What a nothingburger! He did give me a breast exam and a flu shot, but he was notably more chill and less condescending. (At our first meeting, he asked me if knew I had varicose veins. Gee, no I didn't. I'm never naked and don't own a mirror.)

He's not convinced my high blood sugar is due to diet, since my cholesterol is better than it's been in years. He think it could be my decidedly sedentary lifestyle and wants me to move more and then we'll check it on six months.

His only dick moment came when, in a discussion of exercise, I mentioned* my chiropractor had recently given me the go-ahead to resume exercise. Oh? Did this chiropractor take any x-rays? Did this chiropractor read the x-ray himself? Hmmmm .... it would be helpful if the chiropractor sent the x-ray to my doctor's office. Oh, I get it, Mr. MD. You're just better than my chiropractor. Um ... no you're not. And besides, even if my chiropractor sent the x-ray over, I have no faith this doctor would even look at it.

OK! I admit I miss Dr. Mary soooooo much!

 
*This was already in my chart, too, you know!

October Challenge -- Day 12

I'm joining Ms. Kwiz for her October blogging challenge.

Day 12: Words to describe me. Cat mom, aunt, friend, writer, citizen, Christian ... I answer to them all.

 

October Challenge -- Day 11

I'm joining Ms. Kwiz for her October blogging challenge.

Day 11: Favorite gadgets -- how do they enhance life? I've thought about this a lot. Some of the gadgets I use the most, and am most dependent on, do not only enhance my life. My cell phone keeps me too connected and robs me of privacy, the internet distracts me from more productive tasks, cable TV leaves me so informed that I'm often depressed, my late and lamented microwave filled my apartment with smoke, even my iPod causes anxiety because I know I'm supposed to do something with iTunes but haven't yet.

Then, EUREKA! I thought of the little darling that greets me every morning. My shower radio never brings me anything but joy.

 

October Challenge -- Day 10

I'm joining Ms. Kwiz for her October blogging challenge.

Day 10: Movies that make me cry. 

"You're a great dog, Marley." From Marley & Me. If you've ever gone to the vet with a pet and left without him or her, you know how heartbreaking this is.

"Look after Ashley. Look after him, but you must never let him know. Be kind to Captain Butler. He loves you so." From Gone with the Wind. Wasn't Melanie just the best and wisest?

Birthday Boy

From 10/9/07 ...

They Say It's Your Birthday, It's My Birthday, Too, Yeah  

No, it's not my birthday. But it would be his, were he still with us. Happy birthday, John.

He was a giant, and his career cast a long shadow over music, over his generation, and over me personally. John was never one of those artists who was afraid to let his world view inform his art. He was aware that there were those out there who just wanted him to stay a "mop top" forever, to do fun music that didn't make them think. But he understood that the role of the artist always has been to challenge the status quo. I loved him for his uncompromising courage in this area.

Just because he knew how to articulate what he saw around him and set it to music doesn't mean that's all he did. Not by a long shot. Now that I've given him his props for his message music, I want to shine a spotlight on one of my favorite (and lesser known) Lennon CDs, Rock'n Roll. If this CD has a message, it's simply that early rock can fill us all with joy. I still miss the old boy, but I'm grateful I can still hear these 13 songs through my iPod headphones whenever I feel like celebrating his life.

1. Be-Bop-A-Lula
2. Stand by Me
3. Medley: Rip it up/Ready Teddy
4. You Can't Catch Me
5. Ain't That a Shame
6. Do You Want to Dance?
7. Sweet Little Sixteen
8. Slippin' and Slidin'
9. Peggy Sue
10. Medley: Bring It on Home to Me/Send Me Some Lovin'
11. Bony Maronie
12. Ya Ya
13. Just Because

October Challenge -- Day 9

I'm joining Ms. Kwiz for her October blogging challenge.

Day 9: My favorite movies. I have so many! Here's the criteria I used in settling on these five: If I'm flipping through the channels and happen upon a movie, MUST I stop to watch it? With these five, the answer is a resounding YES.

 

Not really nice

I work with the same art director on all my projects. She calls me "partner." We spend more time with each other than we do with anyone else. I understand how to work with her now, and our synchronicity makes things go more smoothly. I find her presence comforting at big, agency-wide meetings.

But you know what? She isn't very nice.

She can be competitive, and she doesn't really care about people.

I wish this wasn't true and it makes me sad.

Here's what brought it back to me on Monday ...

My original blog post

First meeting of the day found us reliving the staggering news we received on Friday. The agency's relationship with our client is suddenly nowhere near as solid as it's been for decades. We were told outright that there would be changes -- some of us can be expect to be moved to other accounts, some could even be let go ... nothing is immediate, stay tuned.

After the meeting, I went down to the food court for lunch. I had to be alone, to think, to recharge. My table had these flowers. I ruefully thought they were appropriate to the day. I snapped the photo and posted to Facebook Friday, saying: "The flowers on my lunch table. Kinda emblematic of my day."

It got sympathetic clicks and the first comment was from, ironically, my favorite client contact, who wrote, "Aw ... If you ever need to unwilt, call me!"

I mentioned this to my immediate team on Monday for two reasons: 1) Obviously word of our agency/client fracture hasn't reached the rank-and-file in the client's offices and 2) isn't our client contact nice?

My art director completely misunderstood the point. She seemed annoyed that I'm Facebook friends with the client and said haughtily, "Yeah, I saw your flower post but I didn't understand it so I kept scrolling."

Why say that?

I replied, "How could you not understand? We got very bad news on Friday, remember?"

She shrugged.

People's lives are going to change. Some are going to lose their jobs. How does she not understand how upsetting this is? Is she so certain of her promised inheritance from her father that she doesn't care if she loses her job? Is her relationship with her boyfriend so secure that she's sure he'll help her out? Or (as I suspect) does it bother her that I have a relationship with our client contact that she could have, but doesn't?

I want to like her. I want to believe she likes me. But then shit like this happens. I know this sounds childlike, but I hate being reminded that everyone isn't nice.

October Challenge -- Day 8

I'm joining Ms. Kwiz for her October blogging challenge.

Day 8: Things I collect. Stuff. My home is overrun with stuff. Paperwork. Books. DVDs and cassette tapes. Samples of my work over the years. Stuff!

MARIE KONDO, I NEED YOU!

 

October Challenge -- Day 7

I'm joining Ms. Kwiz for her October blogging challenge.

Day 7: My magazine collection. I used to receive a ton of magazines, weeklies and monthlies. Then it dwindled to a half dozen. Now it's just Allure and US, and US was a gift from my aunt. I do reach for Esquire whenever I'm at my chiropractor's office, but then I put it back on the shelf.

 

Sunday Stealing

Countdown

[ 15 things that make you smile ] 
1) Hearing a song I love on the radio
2) My cats when they're sleeping
3) When I get the waitress who remembers my name
4) Having a little extra money at the end of the week
5) Checking my mail
6) Getting a seat on the train
7) Anthony Rizzo's joie de vivre

8) Hearing from my niece
9) Having time for a nap
10) Hotel rooms
11) Passing a happy dog and owner on the street
12) Blue skies
13) Payday
14) A good hair day
15) A really sharp pencil with a good eraser

[ 14 things that make you frown ]
1) Feeling too full after a meal
2) Coming home to a bad smell (I have cats, so ...)
3) Throwing food away
4) When people don't use their headphones while listening to music on the train or in the office
5) Commuters who take up a seat for their stuff 

 
















6) Hauling my laundry down four flights of stairs, only to find there's no machines available
7) When I get home from the grocery store and realize I forgot to buy something I needed ...
8) ... or bought something I already had (as in, how many bottles of barbecue sauce do I really need?)
9) Still getting zits at my advanced age
10) Bullies
11) Worrying about money
12) My friend John's attitude these days (and I bet my bossiness makes him frown, too)
13) Fox News
14) Having to replace appliances (like my refrigerator and microwave!)

[ 13 things you see every day ]
1) This blog
2) My cats
3) The train tracks
4) The big tree outside my living room window
5) My day-of-the-week pill case

 

 




6) My Cubs mug 
7) My briefcase
8) The TV
9) My briefcase
10) My phone
11) The cats' food and water bowls
12) My wallet
13) My keys 



[ 12 things you have always wanted to try ]
1) A nice wig, so I could change my look without growing my hair out
2) The Marie Kondo method, Konmari
3)  Negroni, because it was Jackie's favorite cocktail

 


 











4) Crossing Abbey Road
5) Watching a live TV show in person (like Colbert)
6) Taking a cruise
7) Skydiving
8) Cross-country skiing
9) A cross-country train trip
10) Ballroom dancing
11) Singing lessons, so I wouldn't be ashamed to do karaoke
12) Be patient enough to do my own nails ... and have them look really nice


[ 11 objects that mean a lot to you ]
1) My grandmother's Cubs jersey
2) My grandfather's ceramic jewelry box
3) My "Give Peas a Chance" Beanie Baby, because my mom gave it to me

4) My books
5) My ticket stub from Sir Paul in concert
6) My letter from John Kerry, signed in fountain pen, thanking me for working on his 2004 campaign
7) A refrigerator magnet my nephew made for me in art class when he was very young
8) My yellow ceramic egg paperweight
9) My "My Intent" necklaces
10) My little portable DVD player
11) My shower radio 

[ 10 places you have been ]
1) Hollywood
2) Graceland
3) Paris
4) New York
5) Hot Springs
6) Atlanta
7) Colonial Williamsburg
8) Washington DC
9) Las Vegas
10) Key West 

 




[ 9 of your favorite foods ]
1) Rib eye steak
2) Barbecue ribs
3) Eggs over easy
4) Wheat toast, buttered with strawberry jam
5) Pizza
6) Lox
7) Hot chocolate
8) Ice cream
9) Cheeseburger


[ 8 things you would rather be doing ]
1) Listening to the Beatles
2) Reading a good book
3) Swimming (I suddenly want to swim, but it's such a hassle to get to the pool and change and then change back and dry my hair and, oh, I have to remember to wear my glasses and not my contacts)
4) Going to the movies
5) Binge-watching Downton Abbey

 




6) Getting a facial
7) Laughing with my oldest friend
8) NOT worrying! 


[ 7 things you would take to a deserted island ]
1) A generator of some sort
2) My laptop so I could write for pleasure
3) My iPod
4) An impressive supply of Coke
5) Sunglasses
6) Sunscreen
7) Books


[ 6 things you wish you never had to do ]
1) Worry about money
2) Buy stuff that's not fun (like toilet paper and light bulbs and dishwashing detergent)
3) Attend boring meetings
4) That part of the church service where you introduce yourself to the people sitting nearby
5) Using the ice pack on my back like my chiropractor recommends
6) Taking the stairs when my arms are full and the escalator is broken 


[ 5 people that mean the world to you ]
1) John
2) Henry
3) My niece
4) My nephew
5) My oldest friend (I really miss her these days)


[ 4 of your biggest fears ]
1) Plane crash
2) Losing my independence
3) Homelessness
4) Losing John 

[ 3 words to describe how you feel right now ]
Almost done here!


[ 2 things you're excited for ]
1) Finding out who the new Cubs manager will be
2) My niece's birthday is coming up

[ 1 thing you want to say to someone ]
As long as there's tomorrow, there's hope.