Monday, October 19, 2020

Why can't Christians behave like Christians?

Donald Trump's noisiest supporters seem to be self-identified Christians. As a Christian myself, I find much of their behavior mystifying and disturbing.

Let's take, for example, the Twitter feed of the friend of a friend. He states -- with no evidence whatsoever -- that "Crazy Nancy" Pelosi will employ the 25th Amendment right after the Inauguration, removing "Sleepy Joe Biden" because of his mental decline and enabling "Monster" Kamala Harris to execute her "radical left wing agenda."

This man indulges in name calling and spreads conspiracy theories as truth. (Not to mention that I know no true progressives who are enthralled with Sen. Harris, but never mind that now.) How many commandments has he broken with just that tweet?

That's just the tip of the iceberg. Buckle up for the real ugliness. What if Neilia Hunter Biden wasn't killed in a car accident, but murdered? What if the murderer was her own husband, Joe, who wanted to "traffic" his young boys, Hunter and Beau, to pedophiles? 

What ugly mind conceives of that? What evil mind shares it as truth on social media?

When this election is over, and Trump is just a bad memory, I hope I can have my faith back. My Christian faith is about love and forgiveness, not hateful smut. There's a Bible verse that sums it up: Be kind and tenderhearted to one another, forgive one another, as Christ forgave you. I know, I know. How dull it is, with no innuendo! No Trumpy bravado or name-calling.  It's just love. Old-school love. 

Saturday, October 17, 2020

Sunday Stealing


1. What kinds of things do you like to write? Letters, articles, fiction, work assignments ... I enjoy it all except poetry. I'm terrible at poetry.

2. What is your favorite genre of movie. I don't think I have one. Seriously, I love 'em all. Except foreign movies. I don't do subtitles.

3. Your favorite song? It changes. Right now, it's this one.


4. During what situation do your eyes shine the brightest? I don't know because I can't see my own eyes from this side.

5. Summer or Winter? Except for baseball, winter.

6. What do you do when you are angry? I lash out. It's not my most attractive feature.

7, Sleep with lights on or off ? On

8. Are you ok with eating alone in a restaurant? Sure.

9. Texting or calling? Calling

10. What’s your favorite thing about yourself? I'm resilient

11. How do you act when you’re scared? Defensive

12. When you look at the sky do you first look at the moon, or the stars? Moon

13. Do you approach strangers when you are lost? No

14. Tea or Coffee? Tea

15. With sugar? Milk? Lemon? Anything else? Sugar


Detour on the road to Crazy Town

This week marks the second anniversary of my friend Henry's accident. Physically, he has recovered amazingly well and I'm grateful. However, he still suffers the after effects of a brain injury, and he may never completely recover. He is doing well, all things considered. He is able to work and he attends poetry guild meetings. But he struggles with anger, with reason and proportion. He gets whipped up over things that he doesn't understand and can't control and then he veers off into Crazy Town. Once he enters Crazy Town, there's no reaching him.

Tonight he called and we were en route to Crazy Town. His employers are insisting he consult a neurologist (YEA!) and the only one in town can't see him until January. So, Henry says, he's going to be fired on Monday. 

I suggested he have the neurologist send word to his bosses that she can't see him until January. No. They know this and don't accept it. They're going to fire him on Monday morning.

I suggested he call his shrink and ask her to intercede with this employers on his behalf. (I don't think there's anything she can do, but she's a trained professional who can likely talk him down.) No. She doesn't have time for him. They're going to fire him on Monday morning. 

I suggested his GP let his employers know that he's submitted a referral to the neurologist. No. They won't accept that. They're going to fire him on Monday morning.

I'm running out of suggestions here. So I decide to just go with the flow.

OK, they'll fire him Monday morning. Fine. They have to pay severance. Between 9 and 12 weeks. So the worst that can happen is paychecks through Christmas. YEA!

He says I don't understand. Well, we agree on that. I'm tired and I'm running out of suggestions. 

I change the subject. "So you went to the poetry guild today?" I ask him about his writing. I ask him for advice with mine. Hallelujah!  We're talking about something else!

I think I understand what's happening at work. Henry has been clashing more frequently with his coworkers, and they likely need some verification that he is disabled to justify keeping him on. I don't blame them. I love Henry, but I can't imagine what he's like 40 hours/week. I think every one of his coworkers deserves flowers and a big heart-shaped box of candy for understanding and enduring his situation as well as they have.

Henry has been reluctant to see a neurologist because he thinks it means he's "stupid" or "crazy." But he needs to see one. He needs to have an up-to-date assessment and maybe meds. So I think this is all positive.

And personally, I take this call as proof that I'm improving as a friend. I'm learning to deflect, not argue.

Friday, October 16, 2020

Saturday 9

 Saturday 9: Vision of Love (1990)

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) The lyrics refer to "sweet destiny." Do you believe in destiny? Not really. OK, sometimes. I admit it: it depends on when you ask me.

2) This week's artist, Mariah Carey, has something to fall back on. She studied cosmetology and worked as a hair sweeper in a salon. When you get your hair cut, do you socialize with the stylist? Yes. I've known him forever. Our families have known one another forever. So we have always have a lot to catch up on.
3) She isn't likely to turn to cosmetology any time soon. Mariah is currently on the best seller list with her autobiography, The Meaning of Mariah Carey. Was the last book you finished fiction or non-fiction? The last book I finished was My Girls, Todd Fisher's memoir.

4) So far, more than 800 people have reviewed Mariah's book on Amazon. Do you review products/services online? I review every book I read on Goodreads. It helps me keep track of what I read/when. If I'm really impressed with service, I'll leave word on Yelp. I just stayed at an Airbnb and left a review there.

5) When she was a high school student, she was nicknamed "Mirage" because she skipped class so often. Did you ever play hooky? I often disappeared after lunch. Especially if the weather was good. I really hated high school.

6) Mariah doesn't apologize for spoiling her dogs, who have been known to travel by limo. Do you know anyone who treats their pets like people? That would be me.

7) In 1990, the year this song was popular, Martina Navratilova won the Wimbledon Women's Singles Tournament. How's your tennis game? Non-existent.

8) Also in 1990, Pope John Paul II toured Mexico. Have you ever visited our neighbor south of the border? Nope.

9) Random question(s): There are Gofundme campaigns for many purposes. Have you ever solicited funds online? Would you? I don't think so, but I'll never say never. After my friend Henry's accident, his husband Reg asked for help to pay the bills during Henry's rehab. It raised $12,500 in just six months. When he later found out about the Gofundme, Henry was mortified, but they really needed the money to stay afloat. My coworker, Carla, started a Gofundme for a friend of hers who was furloughed and then got sick and is facing eviction, which would mean being separated from the much-loved dog she rescued. This fund raised $1,000 in a week. If I found myself in such catastrophic straits, maybe I would start a fund.

On the other hand, some people seem rather shame-free in the things they expect others to pay for. And, speaking of shame-free, if you've had your Gofundme up for more than 30 days and no one has given you a cent, take the sucker down. Show some pride!


Tuesday, October 13, 2020



WWW. WEDNESDAY asks three questions to prompt you to speak bookishly. To participate, and to see how other book lovers responded, click here

1. What are you currently reading? My Girls, by Todd Fisher. Todd's "girls" are mother Debbie Reynolds and sister Carrie Fisher. He refers to this book as "a long love letter and thank-you note to the two most pivotal, extraordinary women I've ever known." And it is. He's touchingly fond and understanding when writing about them. Which is not to say that he whitewashes anything. Forgiving is not the same as ignoring in this book. I appreciate his candor.

2. What did you recently finish reading? First Degree, by David Rosenfelt. Our hero, defense attorney Andy Carpenter, is irreverent, plays Scrabble, and loves both pets and baseball. He's also a multimillionaire. Yes, he ticks all the boxes and qualifies as my dream man. I admit I have a crush on him.

He's our narrator, and the best thing about this book. The plot is good, too. A prospective client confesses to an especially grisly murder. Andy is repulsed and refuses to take the case but, since attorney/client privilege applies, he can't alert the police. What he can do, though, is offer to defend the luckless low-level thug who is charged with the crime. After all, Andy knows this defendant is innocent. 

The story really had me for a long time. There's a lot at stake, many unexpected twists and a genuinely heartbreaking turn of events. Then, at about the 70% mark, it turns out one of the recurring characters just so happens to have an in-law who is a high-ranked government official and that magically opens doors. It felt a little too convenient for me.

But that's just a quibble. I'm sure I'll return to this mystery series (and my fictional boyfriend).

3. What will read next? I've laid hands on A Night to Remember, Walter Lord's well-respected chronicle of the last hours of the Titanic. I'm not 100% sure it's my next read, though. During the pandemic I find books have an outsized impact on my mood. If I'm feeling the least melancholy, I'll go with something else.

The deed is done


My niece is married. She wore her perfect dress: a tea length tulle from David's Bridal. She was inspired by the dress my mother wore on her wedding day in 1955. My niece saw that little b&w photo many times because my mom carried it in her wallet. My niece told me that, when she was a little girl, she fantasized about going wedding dress shopping with her grandma. 

I was thinking along the same lines. My wedding present was a Kohl's gift card, even though they were registered at Amazon and Target. Kohl's was my mom's favorite store, and she loved sharing her "Kohl's Cash" with my niece, so I told the bride and groom they should consider whatever they bought with the card a gift from Grandma.

I was also touched that she requested photos be taken with her and me, and then with the three of us: me, her and her brother. I'm not especially close to my family, and feeling like an important part of my niece's day meant a lot to me.

I really like the groom's family. They hosted the wedding at their house and were so warm and welcoming. And thoughtful! If you didn't have a mask, one was provided for you. But you were wearing one. I appreciated their wisdom and maturity during the pandemic.

We're related!

When my niece married Mark, his family's cat and I became in-laws. We hit it off instantly and he tried to run away with me by climbing into my purse. Alas, they locked him in the basement and foiled his getaway.

My cute little cabin

I was in Holland Michigan for my niece's wedding and stayed at a little coach house. I had it all to myself and was happy here. No photos of the bathroom because it was more "rustic" than I would have liked (the shower stall was a temporary fiberglass affair and the toilet was unreliable) but I would stay here again.

I binged on Batman and did the Batusi in honor of my niece

One thing I learned: just because a municipality allows Uber and Lyft doesn't mean that any of the citizens are drivers. I literally got a "NO CARS AVAILABLE" message! I had to take cabs, and I wasn't crazy about that because the drivers, while very pleasant, weren't big on masks.

Both airports (ORD and GRR) were, however, very serious about masks. I was so happy and grateful to see that. This was my first trip since the pandemic and felt better when my fellow citizens were thoughtful enough to mask up and social distance.



I flew in to GRR in Grand Rapids, which is known as Gerald R. Ford International Airport. On my way to the baggage carousel, I got my geek on and checked out exhibit devoted to its namesake. It reminded me of my first Presidential campaign, when my choices were Gerald R. Ford and Jimmy Carter.

My choice was between two public servants, two intrinsically decent and patriotic men. How lucky I was!

I'm hoping that, when this sad chapter in our history is over, we will go back to having an intrinsically decent and patriotic career public servant at the helm. One who isn't in office to aggrandize himself or avoid prosecution from the SDNY. One who doesn't dismiss soldiers as suckers and losers. One who will denounce white supremacists.

It occurred to me that, if we really want to "make America great again," we have no choice but to vote for Joe Biden.

Monday, October 12, 2020

I am on vacation... I am on vacation...

I'm in the midst of four days off. Thursday/Friday/Monday/Tuesday. I looked at my email on Thursday afternoon and chimed in on something. Because I was traveling Friday I was unable to check in. Decisions were made without me.

Unwise decisions. 

Not incorrect. Not illegal. Just not smart.

I have decided to keep my opinion to myself. I am not responsible for the decision that was made. I am entitled to unplug and take the vacation I have earned and was promised.

The previous paragraph is completely reasonable. I just wish I felt better about it.

But I know if I dive back in, today and tomorrow will be devoted to work. 

So I am trying to let go and move on.


Friday, October 09, 2020

Saturday 9

 Saturday 9: One Night Standards (2019)

1) The video for this song takes place in a motel and the story is told from the point of view of the desk clerk. Have you ever worked in a hotel, motel, or bed-and-breakfast? Nope

2) Ashley McBryde sings that she's not Cinderella, a reference to the fairy-tale heroine warned to return from the ball before midnight. When did you recently stay up until the wee small hours of the morning? Not since the pandemic. As the baseball season ended, it made me sad that I never went to a game within The Friendly Confines of Wrigley Field and made a day of it. Get to the park early and watch the stands fill up with jerseys and blue shirts ... after the game, hang around at a nearby dive bar (like Joe's) until the crowd thins ... go to dinner ... take the last train home ... go to bed tired, likely sunburned and certainly broke but completely in love with my Cubs and Chicago.

3) Ashley had been working hard as a singer/songwriter for eleven years before she was discovered and proclaimed one of County's best new artists. What was your life like 11 years ago? In October 2009, my nephew and I celebrated his 10th birthday. I gave him a Harry Potter scarf and a stuffed turtle to add to the collection of plush pets that sat on his bed. This year, he just turned 21 away at college. I sent him $50 in gift cards to McDonald's and Burger King so he can eat in his car instead of in the dining hall because he's trying hard to limit his exposure to the corona virus. And, at my nephew's request, I used the rest of his designated gift budget to make an incremental contribution to Joe Biden's campaign. He's a kid with a conscience.

2 scoops of Heaven
4) Ashley is from Mammoth Springs, AR. One of the most popular stops on Main Street -- for locals and tourists alike -- is Spring Dipper Ice Cream. More than 20 flavors are made right there on the premises, from Jamoca Almond Fudge to French Vanilla. When confronted with such a wide selection, do you tend to order your familiar favorite or try something new? If they have mint chocolate chip, I want mint chocolate chip. If they don't, I'll try something new.

5) In 2007, she moved to Nashville to pursue a music career. Have you ever relocated for a job? Nope. Never seriously considered it.

6) Whenever Ashley hears a Carpenters song, she thinks of her mother, who loved Karen Carpenter's voice. Tell us a song that reminds you a loved one. This was my favorite uncle's favorite song. He wasn't really a country music guy (his other favorites: Joan Baez, Barbra Streisand and Gladys Knight). I'm sorry I never asked him why he loved this record so. Did the lyrics remind him of a special girl? Was it playing on a jukebox during a special moment with friends? Or did he just like the sound of the guitar?


7) In 2019, the year this song was recorded, Notre Dame Cathedral was damaged in a fire. Have you ever visited Paris? Yes. Right after high school. I saw Notre Dame.

8) Also in 2019, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex (aka Harry and Meghan) had a baby boy. Is anyone in your life expecting a baby? Nope.

9) Random question: Do you always want to hear the truth about yourself? NO! I think it would hurt my feelings.


Props to the Birthday Boy

 I wrote this on John's 75h birthday. Today he would be 80.

He'll always be family

John Lennon came into my life when I was 6 years old. I was never in love with him, the way I fell for Sir Paul.  I didn't really like him, either. He was always too angular, too prickly, too raspy. But John was always a force to be reckoned with. A leader. Even as a little girl, I knew The Beatles were really just two brilliantly talented guys and two very lucky ones.

He influenced me. I loved the word play in his poetry. "No Flies on Frank" from In His Own Write still makes me laugh, even after all these years. "He took his head in his hands … and clubbed her."

I loved his political passion. "Power to the people, right on!" Some of his stunts for peace confused me then, and still do in retrospect, but I admired his commitment, anger and integrity.

I hated Yoko, and blamed drugs for their passion. I drink and I've done coke, but nothing more, because watching John and Yoko just get dirtier and messier and wackier had a greater impact on me than Nancy Reagan's "Just Say No" campaign.
So today he would have turned 75, if some crazy SOB hadn't been able to get his hands on a gun. And I miss him. I've been listening to my favorite John solo song, "Watching the Wheels." It speaks to me, more and more with time.

He might not have been my teen dream, but in my heart, he'll always be my family.

God bless you, John. Peace!

Thursday, October 08, 2020

Now I want to take a shower


I completely adore Carole Lombard. She's sophisticated and funny and completely unique. No one talked faster, moved more gracefully, or wore clothes better. Lucille Ball was, obviously, just as funny and also very pretty, but nowhere near as glamorous. They could both take a fall or a pie in the face, but Lucy was always Everywoman, and Carole was always a Vogue model. Whenever Carole Lombard shows up on my TV, I stop to watch her, enchanted.

But I hate her smoking. She smokes freaking constantly in her films. I just watched her in a trifle called Love Before Breakfast (1936), and her leading men match her puff for puff. When I see these handsome men with their skinny mustaches and this beautiful woman in her feather boas and fur stoles, I don't think of how captivating they look. I think of how terrible they must smell. I feel a little stinky myself after spending 90 minutes in their company.

Tuesday, October 06, 2020


WWW. WEDNESDAY asks three questions to prompt you to speak bookishly. To participate, and to see how other book lovers responded, click here

1. What are you currently reading? First Degree, by David Rosenfelt. Our hero, defense attorney Andy Carpenter, is irreverent and loves dogs and baseball. He's also newly wealthy and doesn't have to take cases out of financial necessity. It's no surprise, then, that he turns down the elegant man who comes into his office and confesses to a grisly murder that no one has yet been charged with. However, since the elegant man came to Andy as a possible client, privilege applies and Andy can't report him to the police. You can understand Andy's dilemma when someone else is arrested for the murder. The suspect is one of life's losers who not only didn't do it, he can't afford a good attorney. Andy offers to take his case pro bono, and we're off.

This is the second book in the Andy Carpenter series I discovered this past summer. I'm enjoying it as continued time with the characters I met in the first book, and for how different the story and plot are.

2. What did you recently finish reading? Hank and Jim by Scott Eyman. It's about the 50-year friendship between movie stars Henry Fonda and James Stewart. They met as struggling actors in New York, shared a house in Hollywood, and were confidantes until Fonda's death in 1982.  

They were a study in contrasts: Fonda was a liberal Democrat, Stewart a conservative Republican. Fonda was agnostic, Stewart a church-going Presbyterian. Fonda was a loner, Stewart never met anyone he didn't like. But they were loyal to one another through good times and bad -- and the bad times include World War II, Vietnam, divorces, suicide, the loss of a child, old age, ill health, and death. The one thing they didn't have to overcome was jealousy. I am amazed that two men of the same age, in the same industry, managed to not compete, but everyone agrees they never did. Not even the year they were both nominated for the Academy Award for Best Actor.

If you enjoy old Hollywood dish, there are quite a few tasty morsels here. But mostly it was warm and touching. I was amused and heartened by their shared love of animals and lost track of all the dogs and especially cats that populate these pages. Toward the end of the book, Fonda gave a deeply grieving Stewart a animal-related gift that literally brought tears to my eyes.

3. What will read next? I'm not sure.

Sunday, October 04, 2020

Monday Madness


1. Tell us about a special piece of cookware, dinnerware, or kitchen item in your home that has sentimental value. It's a little wooden cat ornament I have hanging from the pull on one of my kitchen cabinets. I originally brought it home to my mother as a souvenir from Key West and someone (my sister or my niece) found it among her things when they were preparing her house for auction. Every time I look at it, makes me happy that it made her happy.

2. Is there one piece of jewelry you always wear that reminds you of someone or brings back a special memory? If so, tell us about it. My niece is getting married this weekend. Anyway, when she was a little girl, she was fascinated by my pierced ears. She spent her own money at some school fair to buy me some truly wretched dolphin earrings for my birthday. I have never worn them, but I wouldn't part with them for the world. They've been on my earring tree for 20 years now and they, too, make me smile when I see them.

3. When you go out for a meal (yes, folks, those were the good 'ole days) do you make special requests having to do with food choices, extra condiments, seating arrangements, special instructions for how your food is cooked and the like? What are your special requests? Please, no onions on my burger. Thank you.

4. What makes your home special to you and your family? Me!

5. We've had a lot of time to think up ways to make our lives more interesting while on lockdown. What do you do to make an otherwise ordinary day/night more special?  In other words, what does your "special night" look like? A phone call from Henry or John, or a zoom get together with my movie group.

6. You are waiting for an exciting special delivery! What's in the box? Funny you mention this. My Cubs 2020 playoff t-shirt was supposed to arrive Sunday night by 9:00 PM but FedEx texted that "no updated estimated arrival time available." I WANT MY SHIRT.

7. When is the last time you went on a special assignment? I'm a creative director at an agency. I tell my clients every assignment they give me is special.

8. If you were saving a bottle of wine for a special occasion, what would the occasion be and who would be in attendance? I don't know because I wouldn't be there. I give any wine I receive away. Since menopause, even a sip of the stuff gives me the worst headache in the history of heads.

9. What is the last "special report" or "breaking news report" you heard? Perhaps you've heard that our President has contracted the corona virus. WEAR YOUR MASKS!

10. Who or what in your life gets special treatment? My cat Reynaldo. He is nearly 17 years old, which makes him about 80 in human years. He gets whatever he pleases. We are going to enjoy our remaining time together. 

Sunday Stealing


1. If You Could Use A Time Machine To Go Back In Time To Fix One Thing Or Go To The Future To See What It Is Like Which Would You Do?  I am more curious about my future.

2. If All Of A Sudden There Was A Depression Or There Were No Stores To Buy Food, Clothing, Etc. How Would You Manage? Grumpily.

3. Are You Concerned With What Other People Think About You? More than I should.

4. How Do You Handle People You Don’t Like? Avoidance.

5. What Do You Think Of Garden Gnomes? I don't.

6. You’ve Been Given An Elephant. You Can’t Give It Away Or Sell It. What Would You Do With The Elephant? Research how to make it as happy and comfortable as I can.

7. How Would You Design A Spice Rack For The Blind? Braille labels and different sized bottles.

8. How Lucky Are You And Why? I still have a job, I'm able to work from home, and I'm healthy.

9. What’s your biggest kitchen fail? I am afraid to turn on my oven.

10. What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in school? It's hard to narrow it down to one thing. I was miserable in high school.

11. If you could kill off any character from a current television show, who would it be? Judge Jeanine Pirro. She's worse than any Kardashian.

12 . If you could make a rule for a day and everyone had to follow it, what would it be? Wear a mask every time you leave your house!

13. Would you rather be a hobbit or an elf for 24 hours? I'm sorry, but I'm not clear on the difference.

14. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done? Lie down in the middle of the street.

15. Would your rather shoot spaghetti out of your fingers or sneeze meatballs? Sneezing meatballs sounds kinda painful, whereas shooting spaghetti out of my fingers could be fun.


Slam, bam, tang

I don't usually drink martinis. They hit me too hard. But Saturday was a special occasion. Joanna and I celebrated her birthday. And a grapefruit martini is so pretty!

We were going to get together closer to her birthday -- two Saturdays ago -- but she got a shingles vaccine and was feeling tuckered out. We're old ladies now and have to be careful during a pandemic. 

We met up at our favorite tapas place, right up the street from where our movie group used to meet. We each had a cold plate (she had a salad, I had pecan/pears/goat cheese) and a hot plate (empanada de buey -- ground beef and mushrooms in a puff pastry). And we caught up.

She's still crazy about Sid. He's a handful -- bad tempered and forgetful at times as he deals with the aftermath of a stroke -- but he makes her laugh. There's a real connection there. I'm happy for her.

It was exciting to be in the city again. This is only the third time I've gotten together with one of my friend since February! I took Ubers to and fro. I still don't feel ready for public transportation.

And I enjoyed the grapefruit martini, even though it knocked me on my ass. There's an old song from the play, How to Succeed in Business without Really Trying. It refers to the "slam, bam, tang" of gin and vermouth. Frank Loesser wasn't kidding.

I miss them already

I am bereft. The Cubs' season ended Friday afternoon. But they made it to the play offs, and even more important, they were the only MLB to not have a single player test positive for the corona virus. They were upbeat, happy role models for all of us and I am proud of them.


My guys amused me and distracted me and kept me going through this pandemic. I fully expect some of the core players (Contreras? Schwarber? Baez? Bryant?) to be traded. This means tears will be shed.

I don't know where you sit as you read this, but if they trade my beloved #44, Anthony Rizzo, you will be able to hear me wail.

He's my President, too

Donald Trump is in the hospital with the corona virus. Naturally, I am very upset about this. First of all, he is my President. His illness throws both national security and the election process into chaos at precisely the time we don't need more chaos. Plus, he's a human being. I take no joy in anyone's illness. Even someone who flouted the very protocols that could have kept him safe. I pray that he recovers, just as I pray that everyone recovers from Covid19.

But here's the pebble in my shoe. The annoyance that makes me crazy every time I check on my President's condition. While I've never had the corona virus, I did suffer a bout of pneumonia when I was in my 30s. It was not a moral failing or a sign of weakness. It was an illness.

Yet four years ago, Donald Trump mocked Hillary Clinton for having the nerve to get sick with pneumonia during a campaign. He portrayed her as unfit to lead, just because she fell victim to an illness.  His followers thought this was funny. A knee slapper.


I know there are Trump supporters who decry how mean and hateful "liberals" and "progressives" are to Donald Trump while conveniently forgetting the above. Or how he mocked John McCain's military service and a reporter's physical disability and the Khizr Khan family. Or most recently, implied that Justice Ginsburg's grieving granddaughter lied about her grandmother's dying wish. These are just off the top of my head. His penchant for cruelty is well documented.    

Because he is my President, I would prefer he be a role model. That children learn how we should treat one another by watching him. But I have given up on expecting to ever see that from him.

But also, because he is my President and a fellow human being, I will continue to monitor news reports and hope that he's resting comfortably. And I'll close with this touch of class.

Friday, October 02, 2020

Saturday 9

What's Love Got to Do with It? (1984)

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
What's Love Got to Do with It is also the title of Tina Turner's film biography, which tells of Tina's escape from her abusive, controlling husband, Ike. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Spread the word that help is available.
1) The video was shot around New York City in spring. Kids are seen jumping rope. Were you good at jump rope? Has it ever been part of your workout routine as an adult? I was abysmal at jump rope back in the day. This was tough, because for us grammar school girls, it was the center of our playground social life. I've never tried it as an adult because the men at my health club are sooooo good and sooooo fast, I'm intimidated.

2) In real life, Tina Turner played basketball for her school. Were you good at team sports? Nope

3) In the video, Tina Turner wears a little black dress topped with a denim jacket. That jacket is a fashion staple 36 years later. Do you own a denim jacket? Yes! I love my Macy's Style & Co. denim jacket.

3) This song was first offered to Cliff Richard, a major pop star in England who never enjoyed gained superstar status in the US. Perhaps, if he had recorded "What's Love Got to Do with It?," he would have been better known on this side of the ocean. Tell us about a time when you said "no" when "yes" might have been the better answer. Back in the days when this song was popular, I was asked out on a third date by a very nice guy named Bill. He was sweet and liked to hold hands, but I didn't give him a chance. I was pining for someone else, who I was sure would come back into my life. "Someone Else" did come back, and I wasted a decade. I sometimes wonder how different my life would be if I'd said yes to Bill and no to Someone Else. Oh well, you can't force chemistry, and I wasn't attracted to Bill.

 4) Tina's first marriage, to Ike Turner, was a painful one. Her second marriage, to German music executive Erwin Bach has been far more supportive. This has been a blessing, since Tina has had serious health problems in recent years. Do you have any medical/dental appointments scheduled? Nope.

5) Tina met Erwin at Heathrow Airport in 1986. He was there to help her prepare for her London performances. They immediately liked one another, but didn't become romantically involved until months later and were surprised to find themselves falling in love. Have you ever had a romantic relationship that crept on you? Yes. We started out as friends and then one day, when I was trying to remember all the things I wanted to tell him next time we talked, I realized I was in love with him.

6) The Rolling Stones' Keith Richards referred to Tina as his "favorite aunt." Is there anyone who isn't a relative of yours by blood but you refer to as aunt, uncle, brother, sister, etc.? My friend Henry always tells me that we are brother and sister.

7) Former President George W. Bush is also a big Tina Turner fan, and has praised her for having "the most famous legs in show business." What do you believe is your best physical feature? With time, I like my dimples more and more. I think they make me look younger.

8) At home, Tina often doesn't always play music or TV because she appreciates quiet as much as music. What about you? Do you enjoy quiet? No. Complete silence makes me nervous.

9) Random question: On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being "very lazy" and 10 being "very productive," what number are you? 1.