This afternoon and evening I got a pair of phone calls delivering disturbing news:
First, my 9 year old nephew. He started suffering terrible headaches when the school year began. His mom -- my kid sister -- has been keeping a diary of everything he eats, the time of the headaches and the duration. His teacher has been very helpful, cooperative and comforting. Two pediatricians have examined him, as well as the input from his mom and teacher, and yet cannot isolate the reason for the headaches. (We know it's not a sinus infection, nor his eyesight.) So today, he had an MRI. Next is an examination by a pediatric neurologist, who can't see him until February! On the one hand, this makes me angry. I hate the thought of him squinting in pain, sometimes driven to tears and nausea, until February. On the other hand, if his pediatrician thought it was serious, I'm sure the neurologist would find a way to squeeze that "initial consult" in before the new year.
Next, a friend of mine … and her hubby. No, they aren't having marital trouble. But he had just had surgery for prostate cancer! Even though they are both in their 50s, neither had been married before they got hitched in the summer of 2007. It somehow doesn't seem fair that two people who waited so long for "happily ever after" have to deal with this. Yet she's upbeat about his prognosis and seems to genuinely admire the way he has handled the pain. I'm impressed by how lovingly she talks of helping him with some pretty disgusting procedures. So even though I found this news rattling, I find it heartening how well the two of them are handling it.
So now that I've had time to process the information, I've calmed down a bit and aren't as anxious about this news as I was when it was first received. Still, if you don't mind, I think I'm gonna be done answering the phone for a while.
These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
So sorry to hear about your nephew and your friend's husband...you, your nephew, and your friend's husband are in my prayers...may Godspeed be with each of you.
ReplyDeleteWow, that's a lot to process. I hope your nephew and friend are given a clean bill of health!
ReplyDeleteso sorry. sending positive thoughts to your nephew and friend.
ReplyDeleteI hesitate to put my two cents in...
from my experience with my own kids and doctors... my advice would be..Call A different neurologist.
Feb. is just a ridiculous wait, with a child in pain.
(sorry if I am too opinionated.)
Even if the MRI showed nothing, that child
needs attention sooner.
hope everything turns out okay
Awww, I hope your nephew gets some relief soon. (I agree with Lucy ... tell your sister to call a different neurologist. More than one if she has to! And here's hoping she has good insurance ... )
ReplyDeleteBest of wishes to everyone.
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