Sunday Stealing

Play along here.

1. What one event, big or small, are you going to tell your grandchildren about? No grandchildren for this gal.
 

2. If you had to describe your 2014 in 3 words, what would they be? Less dramatic chaos

3. What new things did you discover about yourself? That my independent streak makes me stronger

4. What single achievement are you most proud of? This might be the sin of recency, but the unexpected giftbag and note I received for Christmas from a coworker was the highlight. She called me "the most thoughtful person I've ever had the good fortune of knowing." I hope to live up to her opinion of me.

5. What was the best news you received? That my cancer screenings came back normal. YEA!

6. What was your favorite place that you visited in 2014? I had such a good time in Vegas.

7. Which of your personal qualities turned out to be the most helpful this year? As I mentioned in #3, I'm very comfortable going my own way.

8. Who was your number one go-to person that you could always rely on? My oldest friend.

9. Which new skills did you learn? Making new friends through my classic movie meet up. And yes, I think making new friends is a skill I needed to brush up on. It's been literally decades since I bonded with a "civilian," someone who isn't in advertising/marketing.

10. What, or who, are you most thankful for? My cat Joey is a healthy feline senior citizen. He's right here, warm and loving, as I answer these questions.

11. If someone wrote a book about your life in 2014, what kind of genre would it be? A comedy, love story, drama, film noir or something else? Oooooh! I like the idea of moody black and white film noir! I don't know what it has to do with my life, exactly, but the visual appeals to me.

12. What was the most important lesson you learned in 2014? That I have to push myself more, fitness wise. I got myself a personal trainer in 2014, and it was a good move.

13. Which mental block(s) did you overcome? Don't know that I did. Isn't that sad?

14.What 5 people did you most enjoy spending time with? Definitely my friend John. My oldest friend. Kathleen, because I've been worried about her. And Martha and Joanna, because they're not in advertising/marketing!

15.What was your biggest break-through moment career-wise? According to my boss and my performance eval, it was writing content for a website devoted to education savings. There were technical things about it that made it a challenge, but for the most part, writing for the web is just ... well ... writing.

16.How did your relationship to your family evolve? Less drama! And for this I am grateful.

17.What book or movie affected your life in a profound way? I really enjoyed The Patriarch, the massive biography of Joseph P. Kennedy. What a colorful, complicated man! As I read it, I kept thinking he was like the little girl in the nursery rhyme -- when he was good, he was very, very good and when he was bad he was horrid.

18.What was your favourite compliment that you received this year? See #4. "The most generous person" she's ever had the good fortune of knowing. WOW!

19.What little things did you most enjoy during your day-to-day life? As always, the Cubs. Especially during Wrigley Field's 100th season! I'm always happier when I have baseball. (Just 3 months from Opening Day!)

20.What cool things did you create this year? I really enjoyed my Nanowrimo novel.

21.What was your most common mental state this year (e.g. excited, curious, stressed)? Worried. I'm a worrier.

22.Was there anything you did for the very first time in your life this year? I can't think of anything.

23.What was your favourite moment spent with your friends? Toss up between my birthday in Vegas or John's birthday at Wrigley Field.

24.What major goal did you lay the foundations for? I'll have my bathroom renovation done in 2015. YEA! (Toilet, sink, medicine chest and lighting done; tiles left to go.)

25.Which worries turned out to be completely unnecessary? Every time I get on a plane I'm terrified. And every flight has been smooth.

So now I'm "the snobby and judgmental girl"

The only bad thing about "helping" Sam Winters with the Saturday 9 meme is that I feel a responsibility to those who play. I visit all their blogs and leave a positive comment because, well, "this silly little meme" was important to Bud and I want to keep it going.

Yesterday I got a bitchy comment back on this blog from one of the newer Sat 9-ers. She came over to call  me "the snobby and judgmental girl."

I don't know her. I don't see how I could have ever met her. I don't believe I've ever corresponded with her at any length through the cyberworld. And yet she came over here just to be mean. I don't get it. I scrolled down through her blog and found that the only comments I've made to her have been upbeat. Superficial, perhaps, but not certainly not mean.

I hate bullies. Most of all, I hate it when I find myself bullied. I guess the anonymity afforded her by the internet emboldened her and in her mind made it somehow okay to hurt my feelings.

However, the older I get, the more I enjoy being called a "girl."

Photo courtesy of "stockimages" at freedigitalphotos.net.

"Clean Me" update

A big, black lawn bag: That's how much stuff I took out to the dumpster last night, all from my bedroom. It took about 45 minutes, but they were 45 well spent minutes.

Friday I actually hauled the big box of stuff to Goodwill, which was a $12 cab ride (incl. tip) and did four loads of laundry, so while I didn't do a lot to improve my surroundings, I did at least do something.

I also think I'm on my way to eliminating the drain flies! Thank you, Earthworm! It's taken longer than I'd like -- a week of regular dosing -- but Earthworm is organic and safe for both my elderly plumbing and my elderly cat, Joe.

Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Kentucky Rain (1970)

Next Thursday, the 8th would be Elvis' 80th birthday, so we're celebrating The King. Here is this week's song.

1. In this song, Elvis hitchhikes across Kentucky. Have you ever hitched a ride? No! My mother drilled it into my head, over and over, that it wasn't safe.

Photo by Florida Keys Travel Information

2. Elvis received his first guitar for his 11th birthday, even though he'd asked his parents for a bicycle. As an adult, how often do you ride a bike? The last time I pedaled a non-stationery bike was several years ago in Key West. We rode around a lush green public garden. It was a lovely day. I don't know why we haven't been back.

3. When Elvis was a child, his family was very poor, often living in rooming houses or public housing. His classmates teased him for being "trashy," which left him shy. Were you more shy or outgoing as a kid? First of all, poor Elvis and shame on all and any fuckwads who made him feel bad. They're probably all gone now, but I hoped they lived to see their "trashy" little classmate change the world. Secondly, I was rather outgoing.

4. While in high school, Elvis mowed neighbors' lawns with a push mower and a sickle. According to The Home Depot, one of today's most popular mowers is a gas-powered Cub Cadet with a self-mulching feature. Tell us about your lawn mower. You'd have to check with our lawn service.

5. In the 1950s, Frank Sinatra dismissed Elvis as, "deplorable." Yet by the time of Elvis' death, he had revised his opinion and said, "Elvis was the embodiment of the whole American culture." Tell us about something or someone you changed your mind about. I used to dismiss one of my coworkers as a terrible snob. And she is one. But she also has a delightfully subversive sense of humor and I enjoy her company more than I ever thought I would.

6. After Elvis was discharged from the Army, his first performance was on a Sinatra TV special, sponsored by Timex. Do you wear a watch?  Every day.

7. Coinciding with Elvis' 80th birthday, there will be an auction of Presley-related memorabilia at his home in Graceland. One item up for bid is a plush toy he gave to an Army buddy's wife in 1958 for the baby she was expecting. Do you know anyone who is looking forward to a baby in 2015? The coworker I mentioned in #5 is due next month.

8. None of the items being sold at the Graceland auction actually belonged to Elvis at the time of his death. Everything left to daughter Lisa Marie remains in her possession. Do you have something you cherish that was given to you by a close relative? A ceramic cable car. It wasn't given to me, but it belonged to my favorite grandfather. It was on his dresser and he used it to hold his cufflinks, tie clasps and licorice throat lozenges. Every time I look at it, I can almost smell the licorice.

9. The US Postal service sold more than 500 million of the Elvis commemorative stamp. According to the Census Bureau, that was two stamps each for every man, woman and child in the United States. When is the last time you visited the post office? Last Saturday I picked up my mail (it had been on vacation hold) and bought stamps.

"One of us is changing or maybe we just stopped trying"

So sang Carole King. And those lyrics went through my mind when I tried to re-read Gone with the Wind.

How I once loved this book! I read it for the first time in 1974, when I was still in high school and when Carole King was still heard through transistor radios. I reread it every summer for at more than a decade. The last time I can specifically recall carrying it around with me was the summer of 1986.

I have always understood Scarlett, more than I want to. I admired Melly and wanted to be more like her. I balanced the scales by recasting Ashley as Robert Redford. In the movie, Leslie Howard's Ashley was much too wimpy to be a credible alternative to Clark Gable's Rhett, America's first popular post-feminist hero. And I adored Will Benteen, the saturnine farm hand who marries into the O'Haras because he loved Tara as much as Scarlett did, even if he never made the movie.

Yet in 2014 (and now 2015), I found it unreadable

The attitude toward slavery -- specifically the glowing terms used to describe Gerald O'Hara's purchase of Dilcey and Prissy -- made my skin crawl.

I grew up in The Land of Lincoln. We are taught to revere Abe, as all right-thinking Americans should. Maybe that's part of it. Though I was a proud daughter of Illinois back in the 1970s and 1980s, too.

A lot of it has to do with my repeated tours of the Peyton Randolph House in Colonial Williamsburg. Seeing the way "good" masters treated the human beings they owned made me rethink the way the O'Hara and Wilkes families are portrayed in the Gone with the Wind.

I've been sending my mind away to a new happy place -- the 1860s. But the West, not the antebellum South.*

I didn't include my hardcover copy of Gone with the Wind in my box of discards because I'm hoping that in another few years I can revisit it and enjoy it again.

But I'm a little sad. Because by losing Gone with the Wind, I feel like I've lost a friend. 

*Of course, the more I read about how the Indians were treated, the sadder I become about the West, too.

Too young!

I live next door to a children's home. The kids who are there are either waiting for placement in a foster home, or in sliding-scale affordable daycare while their parents are at work.

Today when I came back from brunch I saw an ambulance in the driveway we share. I saw a little kid of about 8 or 9 being helped onto a stretcher. Surrounded by smiling, encouraging adults, the wee one tearlessly clutched a stuffed bear.

I don't know what was wrong with the child. Clearly not broken bones and there was no oxygen there to help the kid breathe.

I do know that anyone young enough to get comfort from a plush toy is too young to be rushed to a hospital.

New year, fresh start

I spent about two hours today going through stuff. I filled a major cardboard box with books that didn't grab or hold my attention, DVDs I won't watch, cassette tapes that I'll never play again, glassware that I never use, and, just to fill up the box, a couple of t-shirts and a pair of pale (really pale) blue jeans that don't fit me and that I wouldn't wear even if they did.

It was really rather easy and not at all painful. I did most of it while on the phone, catching up with my oldest friend. She supported me by reminding me that stuff doesn't have feelings so stuff doesn't care that I'm giving it away, and by parting with the stuff, maybe someone else will be able to enjoy it.

The only downside to this adventure is that even without the box full of stuff, my home still looks overstuffed.

Oh well, it's a start. And a good one. Tomorrow the box goes to Goodwill.

Listening to the Snarkestra

SnarkyPants (Lisa) ends her Christmas Day post by asking: "If you could do what truly makes your heart sing, what would it be?"

I've been giving this, and Lisa's personal journey, a great deal of thought. I haven't been happy lately. It's not my job. My job -- though fraught with stress and difficulty -- is just that: a job. No, all my problems are far closer to home.

I've made a mess of life and I'm overwhelmed. I'm fat, I'm over my head in debt, and I'm such a terrible housekeeper that tenacious drainflies have taken up residency in my kitchen.

I'm the only one who can fix these things. Yet I'm frozen in place, like a cat tranquilized with acepromazine maleate. I'm not hypnotized, I'm not depressed, I'm not drunk. I'm just stalled.

So, to answer Snarkster's question, if I could do what truly makes my heart sing, I would straighten up my backstage. The area the audience never sees. I would get my world in order. My finances and my home. Then, I suspect, the rest will fall into place. I believe then I'll have the energy and enthusiasm to see the rest of my life and its possibilities better.

I'm the only one who can do this. And as we approach the new year, this seems like a good time to resolve to get off my fat ass and change things.

1) Every month, I will take one bag over to Goodwill. It gets stuff out of here and it helps others.

2) Every week, I will brown bag it at least once. This is the easiest way I can think of to save money, and I've got to start somewhere.

3) Every purchase will be scrutinized. No more just buying shit to make me feel better. It's stupid, and besides, it hasn't made me feel any better.

Looked at one way, these three steps are just a little spit into the ocean. Looked at another way, it's a start. And I've got to start somewhere. Wish me luck.

That wasn't so bad

On Saturday the 27th I celebrated Christmas with my family. I'd been dreading it -- my kid sister can be quite the drama queen about these things.

But when I got there at 6:00 PM, everything was fine. My niece's boyfriend was sick with strep and asleep on the sofa bed in the basement. The rest of the family was watching old VHS tapes of Christmases gone by. Seeing how easily I played with my now 14 year old nephew when he was little seemed to soften my sister's often hard heart.

The kids got me good gifts -- my niece got me ginger beer and a bottle of Stoli so I can make my own Moscow Mules, and my nephew got me Cubbie blue gloves with special fingertips so I can work my phone/iPod without removing them.

I was home by 9:30. No snark, no hurt feelings. Color me relieved and happy.

The new purse enjoyed Christmas 2014

The best gift I got this Christmas was my holiday surprise -- the handbag from a coworker I barely know, along with her very sweet note: "To the most thoughtful person I've ever had the good fortune of knowing. You spread the holiday cheer year around." It meant a great deal to me because, though we seldom interact directly, she sits near me every day, all week, and sees the woman I try to be.


I'm not going to be carry the bag to work. The straps are a little thin and the material would show dirt/damage too easily. But I don't want her to not see the bag and then assume it doesn't matter to me, because nothing could be farther from the truth. So I made it the star of my Key West 2014 photos, which I'll share with her.

Here's my bag by the pool. My hotel was lovely. A white clapboard beauty originally built as a big, private home in the mid-1880s (which made me happy because that very neatly ties into my current fixation with the 19th century). It had three pools -- one small heated one, this one, and a jacuzzi. I swam both Tuesday and Wednesday.


My room was tiny. Just a bed, a chair, a couple of nightstands and a TV. Very slanted ceiling. If I was half of a couple, like most travelers, I'd have been cramped. But as it was, I was fine and I really liked skylight over my bed. It was a great way to start the day -- looking up at the sky.

Christmas Eve we went to worship at the little Methodist church. (Yes, that's my new bag alongside the Nativity.) It was very sweet -- a simple but profound sermon about momentary happiness vs. a lifetime of joy and carols about Christ. The congregation was very mixed in terms of age, ethnicity and economic strata, which (though I'm not a Methodist) is something I look for when I worship.

My friend is a proud gay man who was raised Catholic, so religion is a mixed bag for him. He enjoyed the ceremony of the service (or "mass," as he stubbornly insisted on referring to it) and the songs but he seemed so unwilling to hear what the minister said. The sermon didn't include even a mention of sin, nor punishment, and instead emphasized how following Christ's teachings can lead us to greater hope and joy. Yet somehow my friend believed the meaning behind the words was one of "sin" and "punishment." It's too bad that he couldn't get past his childhood training and listen. I think organized religion is something that's missing in his life, and regularly attending a prayer-based service in a welcoming congregation like this one might bring him comfort ... if he would let it.

Christmas Day was sunny and in the mid-70s, a little too cold to swim. So we walked the beach. It was awesome for this Midwesterner to wander up and down the shore, wading into the ocean, when for half a century I woke up on December 25 hoping for a white Christmas. I enjoy four seasons and look forward to snow, but this was very cool. We stumbled upon a couple from Ft. Meyers who come down to Key West and sets up their own little Christmas Tree on the beach. They were gracious enough to let my purse pose with it.

We had a delicious lunch at an outdoor bistro -- on Christmas Day! -- and then wandered around downtown Key West. My friend's partner unfortunately had to work and we went to visit him. He has the noon-to-8 shift every day at a small neighborhood bar, frequented by locals not tourists, and he hates it. I can see why. It's incredibly depressing. Smoky, filled with people with nowhere better to be. It's not like Cheers, there's not a lot of camaraderie or support. Just booze and cigarettes and loneliness. The hours are steady, the work is easy (mostly beers and shots) and the tips are good. But he wants out very badly. I hope he finds something soon. Some people can be surrounded by negativity and it doesn't touch them. My friend's partner is not one of those people. This is damaging him. 

One of the things keeping him sane is, ironically, Bonanza. He watches the reruns every day from behind the bar. We talked about my current 19th century obsession and it got me thinking about Captain Tony's.

This Key West bar was built in the 1851 as an icehouse and a morgue. There's a hole in the roof to make room for The Hanging Tree. It's legit -- at least 20 people were hanged from it, including more than a dozen pirates and The Lady in Blue, a woman who wore a blue dress when she axed her whole family (Lizzie Borden may be more famous, but The Lady in Blue did first). For people who believe in ghosts, it's significant that this old building has never suffered any serious hurricane damage, ever. They maintain that the souls who died here protect it still.

While my purse posed with the Hanging Tree, I like Captain Tony's because it's where both Ernest Hemingway and Jimmy Buffett both hung out when they were new to Key West. The Captain Tony's stage is where Jimmy gave his first performance of "Margaritaville." Christmas night there was a guitar player doing a creditable job covering Bob Segar.

And then my purse and I came home. It was a good, albeit unconventional, Christmas. I felt loved and free from stress. They made it clear I was welcome back next year. I am grateful that they are in my life.

Cat Scratch Fever

Reynaldo has reasserted his claim to the title Worst Cat Ever. As evidenced by the three scratches on my face. The worst is nearly an inch long and uncomfortably close to my eye.

This morning I left the condo at about 10:00 to run some errands. He sneaked out between my legs and I just didn't notice him. When I got back at 11:30, there he was with one of my neighbors. My neighbor was, naturally, eager to give Reynaldo back to me. So I was juggling my cat, my keys, 8.5 lbs. of prescription cat food and my fried chicken lunch and got scratched.

I cleaned it out with peroxide immediately and have been slathering antibiotic cream on it all day. I don't think it's deep enough to leave a scar but I fear it's going to be a red slash near my left eye for quite a while.

I'm so embarrassed.

Sunday Stealing

The New Year's Eve Meme

In 2014, I gained: A couple new friends. One through work, the other through my classic movie meet up.

I lost: the Chicago Cub earmuffs John gave me for my November 2013 birthday. I miss them.

I stopped: reading Gone with the Wind. The book moves more slowly than I remembered. I just couldn't get into it.

I started: working out with a trainer.

I was hugely satisfied by: the steps I've made toward remodeling my bathroom.

And frustrated by: my cousin Rose. It's hard to love someone, but not want to hang around witht hem.

I am so embarrassed that I: am such a bad housekeeper

Once again, I: enjoyed a peaceful holiday season with friends, rather than a stressful one with family

Once again, I did not: meet my financial and weight goals

The biggest physical difference between me last December and this December is: I feel healthier

The biggest psychological difference between me last December and this December is: I think I better understand how to reach my goals

I loved spending time: with my good old cat, Joey. He's a feline senior citizen, probably 18 years old, and I treasure the time we have left together. (He's cuddled up beside me as write this.)

Why did I spend even two minutes: checking social media?

I should have spent more time: on the exercise bike

I regret buying: this futon

I will never regret buying... even though with that money I could have ... any airline ticket/my debt

I ...way too much. drink Coke

I didn’t... enough.  exercise

 ... drove me crazy.  My cousin Rose, regrettably.

The most relaxing place I went was my birthday trip to Las Vegas

Why did I go to ... sorry, I got nothing for this

The best thing I did for someone else was fly out to Los Angeles to spend time with my oldest friend

The best thing I did for myself my birthday trip to Las Vegas

The best thing someone did for me ... I'm so lucky in my friends and the way they come through for me when I need them. It's hard to choose one thing.

The one thing I’d like to do again, but do it better .... there was a mistake I made at work -- an error in judgement -- that I'd love to take back.

Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Marshmallow World (1963)

1. This song likens fluffy clouds to marshmallows. What does the sky look like where you are today? It's pretty gray. Which amazes me, because I woke up yesterday morning in Key West, where I got a sunburn. The phenomenon of air travel still rocks my world.

2. The lyrics refer to snowballs. Have you ever been in a snowball fight? No. I've sledded and skiied and made snowmen, but I've never been in a snowball fight.

3. Chionophobia is fear of snow. What phobias do you have? Flying (just because it impresses me doesn't mean I like it) and squirrels and clowns.


4. In 2004, Canadian school children raised money for charity by setting a new world record: the most snow angels made in 24-hour period. Have you ever participated in a fundraising stunt? No. Unless selling Girl Scout cookies counts.

5. When marshmallows were first introduced, they were used for medicinal purposes. Specifically to soothe sore throats. What do you take when your throat is bothering you? I start with cough drops and hope for the best.

6.  Marshmallows are an important ingredient in the Rice Krispies Treat recipe. If you were asked to prepare something for a bake sale, what would you make? Apple-banana cupcakes. It's a very easy recipe and hard to mess up.

7. Darlene played Danny Glover's wife in the Lethal Weapon movies. Do you enjoy action movies? I like the Die Hard movies. A lot. Because I like him. A lot.

8. Darlene's father advised her to always, "shoot for the stars." Share some good advice you've received. "The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining."

9. Will you be returning/have you returned any holiday gifts? No. What I was going to return I'm taking to Goodwill this week. Easier, better karma, and good for my tax return.

At least Joey is fine

Before I went to Vegas last month, my bedframe broke.

Yesterday, the day before I leave for Key West, I found myself starring in Return of the Drain Flies. I spent Sunday afternoon and evening dousing the kitchen drain with baking soda and boiling water, but the flies just keep on coming. I'll continue doing it until I leave. Then I'll pour organic drain cleaner down the pipe* and seal it off. Hopefully when I come back after Christmas, I will find a holiday miracle.

The good news is, though, I won't be worrying too much about my Joey cat. He's his old happy self. Naturally, every day when I come home to my 18 year old cat I'm relieved to see that he's OK. I mean, I know one day he won't be. But I leave for Florida knowing he's in good shape for a feline senior citizen.

While my home is still a sty, outwardly, for some reason on Sunday morning I was inspired to organize one of my kitchen cabinets. It felt good to throw so much crap away, and to realize how much stuff I have in there I forgot about (like I don't need to buy aluminum foil or Lysol for a while). Let's hope that I feel similarly motivated next week. Maybe I can make a dent in the clutter around here!

* It's called Earthworm. I worry about the damage the more corrosive drain cleaners do to my old pipes. The thing of it is, it needs to be used consistently every night for five-six nights and I simply can't do that right now.

Sunday Stealing

Sunday Stealing

1. Do you send Christmas cards?  Yes. I got them in the mail before December 1. I enjoy writing and sending cards.

2. How soon do you start shopping? I shop all year around.

3. Who do you shop for? My niece and nephew, my cousin, and four friends (two with significant others)

4. Do you put up a Christmas tree? No

5. If so, is it fake or real? It's a fake tree, but it's still in its box in the closet

6. Do you like tinsel? NO! Very bad for pets

7. Do you use homemade or store bought ornaments? Store bought

8. Do you put Christmas lights outside your house? No. I live on the fourth floor.

9. Do you put lights on the tree? If my tree was up, it would have lights. But it's not, so it doesn't.

10. How about popcorn and cranberries? No

11. Is there a wreath hanging on your door? Yes

13. Do you hang up your stocking? No


14. Does your family read "Twas the night before Christmas?" No

15. Christmas Movie? Mr. Magoo's Christmas Carol

16. Character from any Christmas Movie  Scrooge

17. Christmas Song  It changes. This year it's "In the Bleak Midwinter"

18. Christmas Memory The Christmas I was four, I got Blaze. I wanted him desperately, promised Santa I'd be good, and he magically appeared under the tree.

19. Give or Receive? Give!

22. Ham or Turkey? Turkey

24. White Lights or Colored Lights?  I don't have a preference

25. Blinking Lights or Still Lights  I don't have a preference

26. Were you Naughty or Nice this year? I was nice, with scattered naughties

27. What do you want for Christmas this year? Just a happy, stress-free holiday with good friends

28. When do you open your gifts? As soon as I get my greedy paws on them

29. What's the best gift you've ever gotten? The aforementioned Blaze

30. What's the worst gift you've ever gotten? I've gotten a lot of duds, but I don't think you can ever classify a gift as "bad" or "the worst." I mean, someone thought enough of you to get you something!

31. Who gives you the most gifts? There's not a "most." I get one gift from each person.

32. Have you ever had a secret Santa? At a previous job. Once.

33. Do you like wrapping gifts? Sure

34. Do you put change in those red buckets? Only once this year. The bell ringers haven't been out so much.

35. Do you burn a yule log? No

36. Can you name all the reindeer? Dasher and Dancer and Prancer and Vixen, Comet and Cupid and Donner and Blixen, and the most famous reindeer of all, Rudolph

37. Do you bake cookies? I have, though not this year

38. Have you ever seen your mommy kissing Santa Clause? No

39. Have you ever gotten a kiss under the mistletoe? Yes. My second favorite Christmas memory. (She said, blushing)

41. Do you drive around and look at the Christmas lights? No

42. Have you ever left Santa cookies? Yes

43. Have you ever sat on Santa's lap? Yes

44. Who do you celebrate Christmas with? My friends in the Keys

45. Where do you celebrate Christmas? At their house and then a restaurant

46. Have you ever had a white Christmas? Yes. Love them and miss them. That's the only drawback to Christmas in Key West.

47. What part of Christmas do you look most forward to? I like the happy of the whole season

48. Have you ever had your picture taken with Santa? Not that I recall

Saturday 9

Happy Holidays

1. As you can see, Sam loved giving her annual wish list to Santa. Yet some children are reluctant to climb into Jolly Old St. Nick's lap. Did you enjoy the tradition or were you shy? Or did you by pass it altogether -- either because you wrote him a letter or because your family didn't celebrate Christmas? I was always very shy with Santa and would have preferred to send a letter. 
 
 
2. Are you currently on the Naughty or Nice list? How did you get there? I believe I'm on the Nice list. Though I guess only the big guy knows for sure.


3. Did you ship any gifts to friends and family this year? If so, which one traveled the farthest? I sent a pen-and-ink to my cousin in Tampa, which is 1100 miles from Chicago, and a mug and t-shirt to my friend in Beverly Hills, just over 2000 miles away.
 
4. Did you buy yourself a gift this year? Yes. I got myself a season of Bonanza DVDs. They help fuel my current love affair with the 1860s. I've mostly been watching these and holiday specials. I don't like reality these days and will only return to it when forced to. (I also got myself a package of 6 pair of Hanes white panties, but I don't consider anything that utilitarian a gift.)
 
5. What's your favorite holiday-themed movie? Mr. Magoo's Christmas Carol. It was on last night. I am happy.





6. Thinking of movies, Christmas is lucrative for Hollywood. Have you ever gone to a movie theater on Christmas Day? Nope. And obviously this year I won't be seeing The Interview. I wouldn't have -- not a big Seth Rogan fan and don't find assassinations inherently funny. But I hate, hate, hate it that the North Koreans can keep a movie from being released.

7. Have you ever suffered an embarrassing moment at the company Christmas party? Yes. And we're never speaking of it again.


8. What's your favorite beverage in cold weather? Bailey's. I haven't had one yet this year. Must rectify that this evening.
 
9. What will you remember most about 2014? I think I will remember my birthday trip to Vegas.

 

I almost cried!

Got in this morning to find a big giftbag on my chair. Inside was a faux leather tote, similar to this one, but in cognac. Huh? What? Who? Why?

It was from one of my coworkers. She left last week for India, to visit her parents and her in-laws, but left instructions with one of my officemates to give it to me today, my last work day before Christmas. Even better than was the note:

"To the most thoughtful person I've ever had the good fortune of knowing. You spread the holiday cheer year around."

No, really!

It feels like people often view me as hard or tough. And I can be when I have to be. But I do work at being a good Christian, thinking of others and letting them know I value them. Apparently this 20-something across the way from me at work sees who I strive to be, even if I often fall short.

This unexpected present brought me so much joy today!

 
 PS This bag is going to Key West with me. I'll take a photo of it on the beach, to show my coworker how much I enjoy her gift.

The kindness of strangers

I had my annual mammogram last Saturday. The technician told me the results would be faxed to my doctors (my gyne and GP are in practice together now) and would be in their hands Monday.

Today is Thursday. I still haven't heard from my doctors. I started to get scared.

So just now I called over there. One of my doctors just came in today for the first time this week and hadn't had a chance to review any of his paperwork, the other one has been booked solid.

The woman I spoke to, who works for the doctors, looked up my mammogram, just to make sure that the report had been received. She could sense the nervousness in my voice and, basically, told me not to worry.

She made it clear that she's not qualified to give me the official word, that she doesn't read these reports as a living, etc., etc. But she also told me there was "nothing out of the ordinary."

It was a compassionate thing for her to do. I thanked her profusely. After all, I won't be around next week and it would be terrible to have the specter of breast cancer clouding my Christmas.

The allure of the 1860s

It started last summer when I was housebound with a cold. That's when I rediscovered Bonanza, which has become an ongoing obsession. Partly because it brings back childhood memories, partly because as an adult I realize why it was so crazy popular back in the 1960s: it's filled with attractive men in tight pants. The Cartwrights were so freaking capable. They're always fixing wheels and wagons and windows and fences and protecting people and property and just forever standing firm on the side of right.

It continued with my autumn viewing of Gone with the Wind on the big screen. The clothes! The hair! The romance! This inspired me to immerse myself in the 1860s when I began working on my Nanowrimo novel.

Now I don't want to come back to the 21th century. I like imagining myself celebrating the holidays in Nevada, ca 1865. I choose Nevada because it really wasn't involved in the Civil War, and I don't want that brutal conflict to mar my fantasy.*

Authentic greetings of the season

I want to ride my horse through the snow. I want to go Christmas shopping up and down mainstreet and put my parcels in the back of the buggy. I want to wear a cloak, not a coat. I want to enter rooms through swinging saloon doors and warm myself in front of the fireplace or the coal burning stove. I want to go to church on Christmas morning in a one-horse open sleigh.

This is where my head is, and this is where it's staying.

*Yes, I know that if I were to be realistic, I'd have to be worried about battle with the Shoshone and Paiute Indian tribes. But I don't want to be realistic. I'm enjoying my fantasy.

Disappointed

My holiday buzz has been harshed. There's an organization here in Chicago that does very worthy work, giving boys and girls in at-risk communities somewhere safe to go after school. They are, however, just one charity that performs this valuable function. There are others. I tend to support the others, because the organization I'm referring to in this post gets a great deal of support from Chicago's advertising agencies. Instead I give to Toys for Tots and a local childrens home. 

Yesterday, when I got into the office, there was a letter to Santa on my chair. Kia wanted nail polish so she could give her little girlfriends manicures during a sleepover. Every one of us had a similar letter. The kids from the organization this agency supported wrote very detailed, very heart-wrenching letters.

I was ambivalent about this. I felt I was being blackmailed into giving to this organization, just so my agency could enjoy bragging rights within the ad community. On the other hand, if I didn't participate, Kia wouldn't get what she asked Santa for.

I asked my coworkers if they were participating and offered to pick up the toys requested in their Santa letters. Then I went to Target and spent more than $110 on remote controlled cars, My Little Pony, Lalaloopsey and other brand name toys, because the kids requested them. (Yes, my coworkers reimbursed me.)

Then I found out that the letters were reproduced and at least three of us agencywide got the same letter. And that's just at this agency. I know of two others that are having toy drives for this organization this week.

I feel used and exploited.

I will never give to this organization again, no matter how much pressure my agency puts on me.

This doesn't feel at all like what Christmas should be about.