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These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
The "add to cart" edition. According to ecommerceceo.com, these were 13 of the most popular online retailers in 2024.
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1. When are you at your blogging best – a.m. or p.m.? I am at my blogging best when I feel like blogging. The impulse hits me at different times.
2. How many blogs do you have? Please include the links in your answer. In addition to this blog, I am part of the massive team that helps Crazy Sam with Saturday 9 and Sunday Stealing.
3. Do you prefer silence when you compose your posts and write your comments? No. I have tinnitus, and when there's silence I'm distracted by the whooshing. It sounds like I'm forever holding a seashell to my ear. I don't notice it at all if there's the TV or music on.
4. What's the grossest thing you've ever spilled on your keyboard? Let's see, it wasn't gross and, technically speaking, I'm not the one who spilled it. Years ago – I believe the statute of limitations has expired – my cat Reynaldo was jealous of the time I was spending on my work laptop and spilled a nearby margarita. I thought I got most of it before it reached the computer. I was wrong about that. About 12 hours later, when I was back at the office, it started to crap out. IT replaced it with no questions asked, which obviously made me happy.
5. Ever posted while intoxicated? Posted on my blog? No. Which is not to say I've never written under the influence. I was in advertising for 43 years. At my last job, we had a beer keg in the kitchen (our biggest client, a beer company, sent a new one regularly) and wine was served every day at 4:00. I had a bottle of vodka in my bottom desk drawer at all times and, well, there was the aforementioned margarita incident. But no, I have never posted to this blog while intoxicated.
Now that I'm no longer in advertising, I realize this is not de rigeur in other work settings. For example, we don't pound 'em back at the card shop. But watch Mad Men. It's just how it is. It's hard to come up with creative concepts on demand and work with a team to deliver them to a timeline. And once I agreed to a deadline, I never missed it. (I've been retired since 10/22 and almost three years later, I still have nightmares about the stress of that job.)
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Saturday 9: Jive Talkin' (1975)
Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
This month we're going to recall Summer Songs. These will all be records that topped the charts during August.
1) Number 1 on the charts in August 50 years ago, "Jive Talkin'" was originally called "Drive Talkin'," because it was inspired by the "chunka-chunka" sound the Bee Gees' car made as it rolled over the bridge from Biscayne Bay to Miami every morning. Tell us about a drive you make regularly. What do you love, or hate, about it? I don't make any drive regularly – no car – but I do walk 7 minutes to my job at the card shop. I enjoy going through the local business district as the stores are opening. It's neat to see awnings adjusted and A-frame chalk signs coming out. Before I had this job, I never paid attention to how retailers wake up to start the day.
2) Barry, Maurice and Robin Gibb always enjoyed singing together and as kids, practiced their harmonies in the bathroom because that's where the acoustics were best. Do you sing in the shower? Yes. Badly.
3) Early in their career, the brothers wrote and recorded a radio jingle for Coca Cola. If we were to peer into your refrigerator right now, would we find any carbonated beverages? Always. I allow myself two mini (7.5 oz) Cokes each day.
4) Though their sound depended on tight harmonies, all three Bee Gees were heavy smokers, which is bad for the throat. Do you smoke? Are there smokers/vapers in your life? One of the girls at the card shop says she is a "social smoker." My oldest friend vapes, even though she has heart trouble.
5) Robin Gibb agreed to perform on the CD Sesame Street Fever so his kids could meet Cookie Monster. Who is your favorite Muppet? Cookie, of course. Here he is singing the 7th inning stretch at Wrigley Field, to which I say, "Bravo!"
6) In addition to younger brother Andy, who also scored hit records, the Bee Gees have a sister, Lesley. Unlike her siblings, she didn't go into show business. Instead she became a dog breeder. Tell us about a dog who holds a special place in your heart. My late friend Henry's dog, NouNou, was very dear. He was a mixed breed black mop of fur and love. Henry also had two big dogs, and short-legged NouNou had to run so hard to keep up, but he did his best.
Let's look at the summer of 1975.
7) That summer, producer Lorne Michaels was auditioning talent for the Not Ready for Prime Time Players. This band of comedic performers would premiere that October in a new show called Saturday Night Live. In the days before DVRs and streaming, Saturday Night Live was considered "appointment television," a show you wanted to catch when it aired so you made sure you were in front of a TV to hear "Live from New York, it's Saturday Night!" Is there a show you go out of your way to watch when it airs? Or is most of your viewing either recorded or streamed? The only programs I have to watch as they air are the news, baseball and awards shows. Everything else can wait till it's convenient.
8) The top movie at the box office that summer was Jaws. Have you seen it? Yes. I think the real star of the movie is John Williams' score. I heard Speilberg say that all it took was two notes to scare us all out of our skins, and he's right. As you read this, you can hear those two notes in your head, can't you? Bum bum. Here comes the shark! Shudder!
9) In 1975, Jim Palmer of the Baltimore Orioles was having a career season and won the second of his three Cy Young Awards. In 2012 he put all three trophies up for auction. As proud as he was of the awards, he said, "My priorities have changed," and the money would help pay for college for his grandchildren. Think about your belongings. Is there anything you would never part with at any price? I treasure a ceramic cable car that belonged to my favorite grandfather. He kept it on the nightstand on his side of the bed. He used it for his watch, his tie clasps and cuff links and his favorite licorice throat lozenges. Every time I think of my grandpa, I smile. It can't possibly mean as much to anyone else as it does to me.
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Making laundry Real Simple. I wouldn't go so far as to say I enjoy doing laundry, but it is the one domestic chore I'm good at. Just because I'm good doesn't mean I can't get better, and I found these laundry tips on the Real Simple website.
1. Choose a top-loading washer and leave lid up between uses to help reduce prevent mildew.
2. Clean the lint trap after every dryer load. This will improve air flow, making your dryer more efficient. Never let the lint trap become full, because that can be a fire hazard.
3. Pre-treat stains ASAP, especially if you aren't going to wash the item for days. This way you won't waste time trying to remove a set-in stain.
4. Read garment labels. If it says "dry clean only," then take it to the cleaners. If it's "dry clean recommended" or "dry clean" without the "only," then you may be able to hand wash.
5. Always wash and dry your towels separately. They shed lint, which can cling to your clothes.
6. Always wash bras in a mesh bag. It's not only better for the bra, it's safer for the washer. If the underwire happens to come lose, the mesh bag will help prevent it damaging the washer drum.
7. Mesh bags are good for socks, too. It helps keep them together and helps prevent being stuck with those lonely single socks.
8. Change your sheets at least once/week – more often if you sweat at night. Even if they still look clean, your sheets and pillowcases are collecting sweat and oils from your skin and hair.
9. Wash blankets at least every other week. Heavier fabric retains food crumbs, pet hair, etc.
10. Wash your bath mat weekly. They can quickly become breeding grounds for germs and mildew.
11. Unless there's a visible stain on the lap or one of the legs, turn your jeans inside out before you wash. This will help keep your jeans looking better longer.
12. Wash your bathing suit after each use. Beach salt, pool chemicals and sunscreen can damage swimwear.
13. Wash mittens, scarves, and gloves at least 3 times each winter.
WWW. WEDNESDAY asks three questions to prompt you to speak bookishly. To participate, and to see how other book lovers responded, click here.
PS I no longer participate in WWW.WEDNESDAY via that link because her blog won't accept Blogger comments. I mention this only to save you the frustration I experienced trying to link up.
1. What are you currently reading? Dark City Dames: The Women Who Defined Film Noir by Eddie Muller. Eddie is TCM's Czar of Noir (and, sigh, my TV boyfriend) so it's hard to imagine a better host as we meet 15 of the most influential actresses in the genre of film noir.
When as a teenager I discovered film noir, I dismissed it as misogynistic. The femmes fatales were all so dark, so hostile. In my enthusiastic but unsophisticated feminism I missed an important point: the films themselves were violent and cynical by definition, and within the world created by film noir, these women had clear power, motivation and agency – dimensional qualities they often don't have in sunnier comedies and musicals of the 1940s and 1950s. Today I'm more receptive to learning about these actresses, their films and their lasting cultural impact, and not just because I'm in love with Eddie.
2. What did you recently finish reading? The Guest List by Lucy Foley. Oh, what a thrill ride this was! A rich, beautiful and ambitious publishing exec is about to marry her rich, handsome and ambitious reality TV star fiance in an exclusive wedding on a secluded Irish island. On the surface, it looks perfect. The closer we look, the more fissures we see, and the more dangerous the wedding becomes.
Someone has been sending the bride anonymous warnings not to marry the groom. Who? Why? The groom is concerned that his best man is a bit too much of a loose cannon and too fond of booze and coke for such a high-profile role. For his part, under his hard partying facade, the best man is jealous of the uber-successful groom. The bridesmaid is beautiful but achingly fragile and as she tries to overcome trauma in her recent past, she's afraid she could crack under the pressures of her wedding party role. The "plus one," her husband a close friend of the glamorous bride, feels miserably out of place in this fast company. The wedding planner is valiantly trying to keep this disparate group on track.
Then a storm hits. The generator goes out. It's hostile and windy outside, pitch black and maybe just as dangerous inside. One of the waitresses screams that there's just "so much blood." Is someone dead? Who? How? Is there a killer loose? So many suspects, so many motives.
I really enjoyed this worthy homage to Agatha Christie.
3. What will you read next? I don't know.
When I heard the news during tonight's game, I cried. The emotions stirred by Ryne Sandberg's death were powerful, but not all bad.
I was fortunate to see him play. He was so good, so reliable I took him for granted. MVP, 10-time All Star, Hall of Famer.
What's more, my favorite grandmother loooved Ryne Sandberg. He was not only her favorite Cub, he was one of her favorite people on the planet. I enjoyed watching baseball with her and when she would get started on her Ryno, I'd tease her. "You like me, but you love him." OR "If Ryno and I were both drowning and you could only save one of us, I'd be dead, wouldn't I?" How she'd laugh. "Oh, Gal!" she'd say. "But that's not a denial, Grandma." She'd laugh some more.
I love this memory. I love thinking of Grandma finally getting to meet her Ryno in heaven. And yes, I am certain both my Grandma and Ryno are in heaven. I know that just like I know the sun rises in the east and sets in the west.
I am a Cub fan. I am a Christian. I am lucky that I have things in my life I love this much, even if they make me cry once in a while.
Living in the World, Not on It
1) You're on a trip taking a tour through the jungle. You have a backpack with some food, first aid supplies, a pocket knife, a flashlight and a couple bottles of water. Somehow, you get separated from your group. By night fall you haven't found your group and haven't heard them looking for you. How long do you think you would be able to survive on your own? I struggle with hypotheticals like this because I promise you, there is no way I would ever be in this situation. This old gal is never going to hike through the jungle, dependent on the contents of a backpack. That said, I like to think I'd survive until my group finds me. I remember what they taught us at Girl Scout camp, "If you get lost, stay put because you're easier to find if you're not moving."
I like talking on the phone. It lets me hear inflections, so I don't need emoticons. It helps me feel connected. I had two nice, long talks this week and they made all the difference to my peace of mind.
Violet likes hexagons. My niece and I facetimed as she gave her baby a bottle. I was thinking about my niece a lot because her maternity leave is up and I wondered how she was transitioning from stay-at-home mom to working mom. She shares a warm relationship with her in-laws and she is happy that Grandma and Grandpa are providing loving – and no-cost – in-home daycare. I got to see 6-week-old Violet and listen to her mewl. Her eyes are very big, round and brown. She's lost some of the hair she had at birth. One of my niece's cats kept photo bombing and he looked so confused when I called out to him. "Where's that noise coming from?" Both Violet's parents and grandparents read to her all the time and she likes the high contrast books best. My niece says that black-on-white and white-on-black hexagons seem to appeal to her most. She's completed 70 books and earned her first-ever award from the local library for the latest, which was in both English and Spanish. It's important Violet be comfortable with Spanish because of Grandpa Marco. He's the birth mother's father and the only one of her family interested in having a relationship with Violet. Grandpa Marco was born and raised in Mexico and my niece and her husband want Violet to feel that connection to him.
My oldest friend sounds good. I am concentrating on the vibe of the call, not the content. She was friendly and engaged, which is good to hear. But her cognition is wacky. For example, when we were talking about my upcoming Paul McCartney concert and the demand for tickets. She told me that when she saw Ringo play Ontario, CA, back in 2023, the hall was completely sold out. I recall that particular concert made national news because no one showed up. There were several things she said that were similarly untrue, but I let them go. It disturbs me, of course, but doesn't really matter, does it? The important thing is that she wasn't drowning in the blues.
There's no real substitute for conversation, is there?
Every year I take the August Happiness Challenge. Here's a brief explanation of the Challenge: "Each day in August you are to post about something that makes *you* happy. Pretty simple. And, it doesn't even have to be every day if you don't want it to be. It's a great way to remind ourselves that there are positive things going on in our lives, our communities, and the world."
You're invited to join me. Visit
me with a link to your daily August happy, and I'll come read it. I've
found that experiencing other peoples' everyday pleasures is a great
mood lifter.
It
helps if your August Happiness Challenge posts are marked with an icon.
Just something that means "happy" to you. Here's a pair of my past
happys.
Thirteen Jackies. Next week, on July 28, we'll see the 96th anniversary of Jacqueline Bouvier's birth. No other First Lady has had her pop culture impact. 31 years after her death, she's still fascinates. Producer Ryan Murphy recently made news by announcing his Jackie, the actress who will play John Kennedy, Jr.'s mother, in his upcoming mini-series about JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy.
Murphy decided on Oscar and Emmy nominee Naomi Watts. Here are 13 other actresses who have also portrayed the former First Lady.
1. Jaclyn Smith. Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy (1981).
2. Blair Brown. Kennedy (1983).
3. Roma Downey. A Woman Named Jackie (1991). This mini-series got tepid reviews at the time, but I was pleasantly surprised by Downey's performance (if not the series' Lifetime/Hallmark tone).
4. Joanne Whalley. Jackie Bouvier Kennedy Onassis (2000).
5. Stephanie Romanov. 13 days (2000).
6. Jill Hennessey. Jackie, Ethel, Joan: The Women of Camelot (2001).
7. Jeanne Tripplehorn, Grey Garden (2009).
8. Katie Holmes. The Kennedys (2011). If you're watching for iconic hair and clothes, this is a good choice.
9. Minka Kelly. The Butler (2013).
10. Kat Steffens. Parkland (2013).
11. Ginnifer Goodwin. Killing Kennedy (2013).
12. Natalie Portman. Jackie (2016). I believe she did the best job. She also had the best script and the most innovative director.
13. Jodi Balfour. The Crown. (2017).
I close with the genuine article.
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