Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Moves Like Jagger

1. Who makes the best moves in your life? My friend John. Though my best friend tells me he's a good dancer, I've never actually seen him move.

2. Tell us about a time where you had to be selfish with your time, and felt guilty about it (whether it was time taken from your children or a significant other). I have often pretended to be busy and then just stayed home. Once I begged off a picnic, pleading migraine, and then was busted when the hostess (a former coworker) saw me heading toward the movie theater when she racing to convenience store for a bag of ice. UH-OH! She was furious and never spoke to me again. I felt bad about it at the time, but I got over it.

3. Do you feel that you can create more sex appeal or that it's just a given? Yes. I believe some men are just so unbelievably gorgeous they take your breath. On the other hand, I'd rather do Bruce Willis than Brad Pitt, even though Mr. Pitt is more conventionally handsome. (Please don't forward this to Brad. The news that I don't want him could break his heart.)

4. Do your religious beliefs really influence your behavior? Yes. Of course.

5. Do you feel there are some things in a significant other that you can't change because of their sex? Yes. My shrink (a woman, btw) told me that it often seems that men have a finite number of words they can utter in a day and when they reach that number, they shut up. I have found that to be true. Men can hydraulically shut down in the communication department.

6. Do you see a younger less secure person when you gaze in the mirror? No. I see a pudgy middle aged woman.

7. If you have ever been pregnant, or have been with a woman who was, how did effect your sex life? As a heterosexual woman who has never been pregnant, I have no idea what to do with this question.

8. What would you like to work on to become a better person? I'm working on loving and supporting my friends without bossing or judging them. And, in response to Question #4, I try to stay on track by remembering a Bible passage: "We are the clay, God is the potter, and we are the work of His hands." Meaning those I love are exactly as they are supposed to be. It's not MY place to change them.

9. When did you think that you understood the sacrifices that people in the military make on behalf of their country? When my uncle told me what he went through in Vietnam. He was drafted, and he said nothing, NOTHING prepares a kid for being shipped to a foreign land where people are trying to kill him. There's also an awesome book about Sen. John Kerry's time in Vietnam called Tour of Duty (written by Douglas Brinkley, who also edited Reagan's diaries, in case you think the author brought political bias to the story). After reading this, it will wash over you just how unutterably ugly those 2004 GOP "Swiftboat" ads really were.