A woman I used to work with -- a sweet, generous girl -- had her first baby last weekend. I got an excited email, along with some photos, from her husband.
I wanted to send her something because she's that kind of person: You WANT to celebrate her happy times. This isn't a professional obligation, she's genuinely that nice. While farting about on the Internet, I found that she's registered at Toys 'R Us. However her baby registry was pretty picked over by the time her baby arrived.
I decided to send a $25 Toys 'R Us gift card and a "Welcome, Baby!" greeting card instead. Then I had a nice long, talk with myself. I really can't afford $25.
My friend John's birthday celebration is this Friday. I gave my niece money to help her buy cell phone minutes before she goes off to culinary summer camp at a nearby university. Last month I paid for everything when my nephew and I went to Springfield. Not that long ago I bought graduation gifts for another friend's children. Unforeseen things will undoubtedly come up. I have to start economizing.
So I sent the new mom a $15 Toys 'R Us gift card and a "Welcome, Baby!" greeting card. Somehow the $15 card looks significantly cheaper.
I am being silly. The new mom is such a nice woman, I know that she will be happy that so many people thought of her, and she won't waste her time monetizing the birth of her first child. I can be such an ass at times.
These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
It is the thought that counts...I am sure she can use it for diapers. AND they are a much needed item.
ReplyDeleteDon't beat yourself up!
I can completely relate. And I agree with Vivian. It is the thought that counts and any gift is appreciated.
ReplyDeleteYou have such a huge heart - and it truly IS the thought that counts. Every little bit helps when you have a new baby and I know she appreciates it.
ReplyDeleteYou know, I HATE giving gift cards but LOVE receiving them. I always feel like I'm handing them a sign that says "Here, I couldn't be bothered to think of anything for you. Have some money." yet when I get them, I'm always so excited, no matter how much it is.
That's me - confusion in a box (with a bow, even!).
You made someone happy. That's the bottom line.
It was a lovely gift. I wish she could know just how much you think of her generosity and kindness as well.
ReplyDeleteThese days $15. = $50. It's tough times for everyone. She will be touched by your recognition.
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