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These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
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1. Name five songs that you have completely memorized. I'm going to assume this refers to lyrics, since I play no instrument and have the music to no song memorized. "Pink Pajamas" (a Girl Scout song), "Go, Cubs, Go," "Hey, Jude," "Happy Birthday," "Jingle Bells."
2. What takes up too much of your time? This. (Farting around on the internet.)
3. What TV show or movie do you refuse to watch? Game of Thrones or anything else with flying dragons. I also don't like epics like Dr. Zhivago and Lawrence of Arabia.
4. What's worth spending more on to get the best? Steak
5. Share something you did last week. Spent some time with my old friends, The Crawleys.
My favorite-most ballplayer of all-time, Anthony Rizzo, is returning to Wrigley Field. He has signed a one-day contract with the Cubs so he can officially retire as a North Sider. He will remain with the team as "baseball ambassador," representing the Cubs at events. As he should. For with all due respect to Ryne Sandberg, no one but Ernie Banks personified the heart and soul of the Cubs more than Rizz.
To say I am verklempt would be an understatement. Yes, he made the final out of the historic 2016 World Series, ending the longest championship drought in American sports history. Yes, he was a three-time all-star with more than 300 home runs. Of course he provided elite defense at first base. And he did it all with such passion, such joy.
But more than that, Anthony Rizzo gave back. Continues to give back. Example: during the covid shut down, he catered hot meals for hospital workers. A wonderful gesture. To make it even better, the food came from struggling local restaurants that needed the business. He does stuff like this all the fucking time. They don't give out Roberto Clemente Awards and ESPN Sports Humanitarian nominations for nothing.
And there are the kids. He has spent endless hours with pediatric cancer patients and their families at New York's Montefiore Medical Center, Joe DiMaggio Children's Hospital in Hollywood, Florida, and most of all, Lurie Children's Hospital here in Chicago. When he visited the hospitalized children, he not only gave them his autograph (and let them wear the World Series ring), he asked them to sign his jersey because each child was a hero and a warrior.
This is what Anthony Rizzo will be wearing on Saturday when he steps onto Wrigley Field to officially end his career.
Anthony Rizzo makes me want to be a better person. I am so grateful for all he's meant to me on and off the field.
I hope his next chapter includes health, happiness and lots of time with his wife, new baby and dog Kevin.
I woke up Tuesday morning unable to move my left arm without great difficulty. This happened once before, at the end of 2024, so while I hurt I wasn't frightened. I knew it was a pinched nerve in my neck. Painful but not dangerous. As luck would have it, I already had an chiropractor appointment scheduled for today – Friday, three days later. Since this wasn't an emergency, I could see no reason to move the appointment up.
I am an idiot.
For three days I was uncomfortable. If I was still, my arm was fine. But I couldn't raise it without pain. Everything – showering, grocery shopping, feeding the cats, laundry – was arduous. I had a hard time finding a position to sleep comfortably. The nerve was not responding to OTC pain killers. So I was sleep deprived and hurt.
And from Monday morning to Tuesday afternoon we were without hot water, so there's that.
To say I was not at my best would be an understatement.
Chronic pain and lack of sleep made me stupid. Yesterday, instead of taking money out of my high-yield savings account and depositing it into my checking account, I did it the other way around. I was not paying attention as I clicked. I fucked up.
This morning I got an alert from bank that my checking account was overdrawn. I was terrified, afraid I'd been hacked. No, I just made a stupid, stupid mistake. (AGAIN!) After spending time on the phone with both banks, I finally got it ironed out and hopefully, by end of business Monday, all my funds will be where I want them.
I realize that working decades for big companies, I've been infantilized. Funds just appeared in my checking account twice/month. Left to my own devices, I mess up.
Just as I thought my self loathing had reached a fever pitch, I dialed it up to 11. I went to my chiropractor and she felt where my neck meets my shoulder.
"Of course you hurt!" she said. I got on the table and she twisted, pressed and popped and I was fine. No pain, full range of motion restored.
"You should have called me," she said. Duh, Gal. I went through 3 days of pain for no good reason. Really, she remedied the problem in minutes!
I'm such an ass.
Here's to an uneventful, enjoyable weekend. I need it!
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Brrr! Our water heater suddenly crapped out and I was relegated to cold showers for 2 mornings in a row. I hated it. But I learned that while uncomfortable, I was actually doing my body good.
1. Typically cold water out of the tap is between 45º and 60º. That may not sound cold, but trying showering in it.
2. Cold showers leave you alert. You relax in a hot shower or a warm tub, but you emerge from a cold shower with eyes wide open.
3. Regular cold showers can help fight acne, because cold water tightens pores.
4. It can undo the damage of the night before, because cold water reduces eye puffiness.
5. Some chronic skin conditions respond well to cold water. Patients with eczema and hives report that it helps.
6. If your hair tends to be dry, cold showers might help. It's believed that hot water can strip your hair of natural oils, while cold water doesn't.
7. Your hair will be shinier, too. Cold water helps seal the cuticle, or top layer of the hair strand. A flat cuticle more effectively reflects light and your hair will appear glossier.
8. Cold water gets your blood pumping. It's believed cold showers bolster your circulation.
9. Your muscles may thank you. Cold showers may soothe aches, the same way an ice pack does.
10. They can be a good choice during cold and flu season. Here's the theory: cold showers speed up your white blood cell count, and those white blood cells will help your body resist illness.
11. A cold shower can enhance your workout because it boosts your metabolism.
12. It can naturally increase your oxygen intake. A cold shower stimulates deep breathing, which can help with anxiety or depression.
13. Cold showers are good for the environment. They tend to be shorter – I know mine were! – and no gas or electricity is used to warm the water up.
All this is well and good, but I will forever prefer my nice long showers.
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I spent this sunny, mild weekend in the dark at Noir City Chicago, watching murder and mayhem. This film festival is presented by The Film Noir Foundation, and when it comes to town it returns to the gorgeous old Music Box Theater.
One of the founders is Eddie Muller of TCM's Noir Alley. He's my (sigh) TV boyfriend and I was thrilled to see him, live and in person, at Noir City Chicago and have him sign my copy of his book, Dark City Dames.
I saw four movies this weekend – two that we were rewatches and two that were new to me. It was exciting to see all of them restored and on the big screen with an audience of like-minded movie geeks.
Saturday was movie group day. I saw Detour and Gun Crazy with Will, Madonna, Bobby and Sherrie from our regular Monday night meetups.
Sunday was with Elaine, and I happened to see Bob and Patricia, who are my neighbors but we were surprised to run into one another at The Music Box.
I was exhausted today, though. I worked Friday at the card shop, then I hung out with people on Saturday and Sunday. That is, frankly, too much people-ing for me. I was very happy to spend all day today in silence until our movie group met tonight at 6:30.
I think about my old life, before I retired, and how I was surrounded by people Monday-Friday. How did I stand it? I know I always hungered for my alone time, but I don't recall that people exhausted me the way they do now.
I think maybe covid locked down changed me.
From A to F
Give yourself a letter grade (A, A-, B, B-, C, C-, D, D-, F) on the following. Just the letter grade is requested, but you're free to elaborate.
• Happiness: B
• Being a decent human being: B
• Being serene (calm, peaceful): C-
• Kindness: B
• Anger management: B-
• Creative thinking: A-
• Modesty: B-
• Being an original: B
• Knowing yourself: A-
• Being true to yourself: B-
• Getting along with others: B-
• Liking yourself: B-
• Admitting your flaws: C-
• Self improvement: C
Play ball! I watch a lot of baseball, and one of the standard shots is of fans in the stands enjoying tasty stadium fare. I admit that when I go to the park, I tend to stay pretty traditional: a hot dog and Cracker Jack is fine by me.* But that hardly reflects what's available at my beloved Wrigley Field, or other MLB parks.
As we enter the final month of the season, let's look at the fan favorites at the 13 most-attended ball parks.
1. Los Angeles Dodgers: Dodger Dog. A 10" hot dog that hangs out of the bun on both ends. Served with ketchup, mustard, onions and relish.
2. New York Yankees: Lobel's steak sandwich. Served on a bun, au jus. Yankee fans seem equal parts proud and outraged that their concession offerings are the most expensive in the MLB.
3. San Diego Padres: Quesobirria tacos. With braised short ribs instead of ground beef.
4. Philadelphia Phillies: Philly cheesesteak. Were you surprised?
5. New York Mets: Fuku chicken sandwich. A spicy chicken sandwich named for the restaurant where it originated.
6. Atlanta Braves: Cleanup Burger. A grilled hamburger topped with a fried egg and bacon and served between two waffles. (I admit I'm intrigued.)
7. Chicago Cubs: Buona Beef. Italian beef with hot giardiniera and dripping in au jus. I won't argue with anyone who makes this choice, because it's delicious. But be warned: it's awful messy. You'll need lots of napkins, and your jersey will likely never be the same, no matter how often you wash it.
8. San Francisco Giants: Burrito bowl. Fans report that it's hot in every way, made with fire-roasted salsa and jalapenos.
9. Boston Red Sox: Fenway Frank. Grilled and served on a bun just the way The Babe liked it, with mustard and relish.
10. Houston Astros: McRBI. (Love the name.) A smoked pork rib sandwich on an onion roll.
11. Los Angeles Angels: Chronic Tacos. Mashed potatoes and cheese, topped with lettuce and sour cream, served on a crispy shell.
12. Detroit Tigers: Gyros and/or Greek salad. It's a tie. Apparently it's custom for fans to order both and share.
13. Milwaukee Brewers: Bratchos. Tortilla chips topped with a chopped brat, cheese and sour cream.
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*Though when it comes to my beverages, I'm not so old school. Jimmy Buffett was a Cub fan, so it feels only right to raise a margarita in his honor.

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1. What are you currently reading? Richard Nixon: The Life by John A. Farrell. Here's the thing about Trump: he's so awful that everyone else moves up a notch. Nixon served in wartime even though, as a Quaker, he didn't have to. He never disparaged veterans the way Trump mocked John McCain. He never splashed his visage on the side of federal buildings the way Trump (and authoritarians and dictators) do. He didn't ignore the sovereignty of governors by deploying federal troops onto residential streets. When faced with the end of his Presidency, Nixon somehow managed to avoid leading an armed insurrection on the Capitol. So there's that.
Since the Nixon era now feels like The Good Old Days, I figured it was time to revisit the man and his Presidency. I enjoyed Farrell's fair but unflinching view of Ted Kennedy's life and career, and I hope I'll learn a lot from this book.
This book and I have a conflicted history. My friend Henry bought it for me for Christmas 2017, the last holiday we spent together before his accident changed everything. His friend owned the bookstore and he supported her after Hurricane Irma by giving me a $100 gift certificate. What fun we had that day. Henry couldn't believe I chose a book about Nixon (among others). I finished the Grafton book and the Bobby bio and had begun to read the Nixon book when Henry had his accident and the book – which still had its Key West bookmark – made me too sad. I abandoned both books till now. It's time. I'm going to finish this one and, hopefully, get to Bruce before the year ends.
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2. What did you recently finish reading? Agatha Raisin and the Fairies of Fryfam by MC Beaton. My response to this addition to the series – #10 of 33 – is mixed. I read these mysteries for more than whodunit. I like Agatha, the deeply flawed, often grumpy heroine who turns to sleuthing because, frankly, she's bored after retiring from PR agency life in London. I like the country life as vividly painted in these books, filled with quaint names and eccentricities and customs and secrets.
In book #9, Agatha went on vacation to a small rural town. Beaton introduced us to a new setting a new cast of characters with affection and specificity, but Agatha herself felt a little "off." She not only didn't feel like the character I got to know, I didn't even like her anymore.
This time around, Agatha is back to being Aggie (God, how she hates being called Aggie!). I'm glad because I missed her. But the setting, the village of Fryfam, feels less charming than weird and goofy. There are too many new characters and none of them is memorable.
I hope when I return to the series for #11, Beaton will address both sides of the equation.
3. What will you read next? I don't know. Nixon is going to take a while.
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F. Film: What movie or tv show are you watching? Mostly I've been watching Cubs baseball, but I took time out for A Farewell to Arms (1957). I know it's not very good – Hemingway himself panned it – but the war scenes are heart-wrenching and the romance? Rock Hudson is so dreamy it's ridiculous. Really, Brad Pitt looks like canned dog food compared to Rock in this movie.
A. Audio: What are you listening to? Alexa has been playing 1970s-era Sir Paul McCartney for me.
B. Book: What are you reading? Agatha Raisin and the Fairies of Fryfam. This is the 10th book in the mystery series and I'm about halfway through. I'm happy to say I'm enjoying it. I wasn't crazy about #9 and it's a sad thing when a beloved cozy mystery series lets you down, so this turnaround is welcome.
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