Saturday 9

 

Saturday 9: The One You Love (1982)

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

In memory of Glenn Frey (1948-2016). 

1) In this song, Glenn explores one of the great romantic conundrums. This week, Saturday 9 is confronting it, too. If you had to choose, would you prefer to be loved, or to be in love? I'd rather be in love.
 
2) The song describes an awkward moment: an old boyfriend calls when a woman is on a date with someone new. To whom did you last say, "I can't talk now?" I haven't done that recently, but just this week I walked up and down the hall while talking on my phone, trying to find a room with a door so I could have a little privacy when I talked to my doctor. This open-seating sucks.

3) The lyrics talk about heart vs head. When you find yourself in that predicament, which usually wins -- heart or head? I haven't ever tabulated, but I bet it's heart.

4) This song was from Glenn Frey's solo album, No Fun Aloud. What fun stuff are you looking forward to this weekend? Maybe eat a burger? Hopefully? I'm battling an intestinal infection and have been subsisting on a very bland diet. My doctor told me I should be feeling better "this weekend." God, I hope so! I actually dreamed of a hamburger this past week.

5) Glenn Frey was born in Royal Oak, a suburb of Detroit. The Motor City is known for car manufacturing. Is your car domestic or foreign? I don't have a car.

6) The popular 1990s sitcom Home Improvement was set in Royal Oak. Are you handy around the house?  Not even remotely.

7) Glenn Frey co-founded The Eagles in 1970. What's your favorite Eagles song? "Life in the Fast Lane"

8) The Eagles helped define "California Rock," but in recent years Glenn and his wife lived in Tribeca. Have you ever been to New York? If so, did you like it? Years and years ago. I loved it. I want to go back. After all, I'm a City Girl and New York is the ultimate city. But it's so damn expensive! So maybe smaller and more affordable Boston or Memphis are in my 2016 plans.

9) Glenn wrote "Smuggler's Blues" and "You Belong to the City" for the iconic 1980s TV show, Miami Vice. What else comes to mind when you think of the 80s? Big shoulder pads and Princess Diana. Here's a photo that combines them both. (I can't get over that she'd be a grandmother, twice over.)

"Please help."

My oldest friend shot me an email today. Just a couple sentences, letting me know that she put her cat to sleep. She closed it with, "Please help."

Naturally I picked up the phone and dialed. But what can you say at a time like that? I tried to cheer her up, reminding her that she gave that cat a wonderful life for more than 10 years. Someone threw Kal away, so she ended up at a shelter. The luckiest day of Kal's furry life was when and my friend and her family adopted her, loved her, gave her a forever home where she could feel safe. I told her she shouldn't think about the last moments, but be proud of the long, nuturing life she gave that girl cat.

And that easing someone out of life can be such a loving thing. She spared Kal pain and fear and confusion. If only we could be as humane to one another as we are to our companion animals.

I hope I helped. Not sure if I did. At least my friend knew there was someone on the other end of the call who takes petcare very seriously. That matters, right?

31 Days of Oscar Blogathon -- The Snubs

Roger Ebert often shared his Stanton-Walsh Rule, which stated that any movie that featured Harry Dean Stanton or M. Emmett Walsh couldn't be all bad. I'd like to amend that rule and make it my own by saying that any movie with Stanley Tucci can't be all bad.

Yet Stanley Tucci doesn't have an Oscar. More shockingly, he only has one nomination. But since he still has at least a decade of work ahead of him, I hope this awards oversight will be rectified ... and soon.

Karl

I first discovered Tucci when he played Karl Draconis, the advertising executive with a complicated relationship with our handsome hero, Michael Stedman, on thirtysomething. Draconis was always a little too rumpled and a little too intense to be likeable. It was a memorable role not because it was a "star turn," but because he disappeared so completely into character.

Tucci's TV work continues to be stellar. To borrow a cliche, he's one of the hardest working men in show business and appears on TV when the role feels right. He currently has two Emmys on his mantle. It's Oscar that eludes him.

I suppose his most familiar movie role is Caesar Flickerman, host of The Hunger Games. With his brightly-colored hair and creepy pseudo-friendliness, he cut such an iconic figure that Stephen Colbert regularly imitates him on The Late Show.

Flickerman meets Flickerman

Entertaining though Flickerman is, it's not the kind of performance that is rewarded by the Academy. For this post, I'm going to concentrate on the four performances that could easily have put an Oscar in his hands.

Nigel

2006: The Devil Wears Prada. Nigel is a homosexual art director at a fashion magazine, and in other hands, could have easily devolved into stereotype. Tucci's Nigel is more than the lovable, loyal gay sidekick to the movie's two straight girls (Andrea and Miranda). He's alert. His eyes are always sharp, his attention is always focused, his intelligence and imagination are always engaged. His connection to Miranda may be emotional, but hers to him is strictly transactional. He's made himself so good at his job that he's useful to her. Early on we see him not just finishing her sentences but elaborating on her thoughts.

Miranda: "Don't you think it's too ..."
Nigel: "Last summer? I thought that, too! But with the right accessories, it could work."

He clearly loves his work, and he's a good coworker. The way he takes Andrea under his wing, sensing that he's the one who can help her before she can even figure out who to ask, is genuinely sweet. So when Miranda tosses him under the bus to save herself, we're appalled. Not because of what she did -- at this point in the movie, we know what Miranda is -- but because of who she did it to. By now, we care about Nigel, we appreciate how much the works means to him, and believe that the three-dimensional man Tucci created deserved a better fate. (Prada trivia: Tucci kept up with his costar, Emily Blunt, and was invited to her 2011 wedding. A recent widower, he met and fell in love with the bride's sister, who has since become his second wife.)

George

2009: The Lovely Bones. Tucci got his only Oscar nod to date for a role that's truly hard to watch. George Harvey is a child rapist and murderer. Part of what makes him horrifying is how bland he appears. He lives alone. He has his quiet hobbies (tending flowers, building dollhouses). He always smiles and says "hi." Even his sneezy idiosyncrasy -- he sniffles a lot -- is ordinary. In a brave performance, Tucci is unafraid to also show George's strengths. This man is driven and smart. Like Nigel (and this is perhaps the only trait George shares with dear Nigel), George is deceptively alert. It's what makes him a successful predator. For, while we and Susie's family know he what he did, he's never prosecuted. At least not by the judicial system. In one of the movie's best scenes, we see how George is living, years after killing Susie. He's still at it. Still looking for young girls to victimize. While stalking a girl, he is struck by an icicle and falls into a ravine, left to die in icy isolation. I didn't like this movie -- the subject matter is harrowing and the visuals are over-the-top and erratic -- but I admired Tucci's risky performance. Interestingly, he lost the Oscar that year to Christoph Waltz, who also played a monster in Inglorious Basterds.

Paul

2009: Julie and Julia. In this movie we see Tucci in love, and it's a sight to behold. He's paired with Streep again, this time playing Julia Child's husband, cultural attaché Paul Child. As portrayed by Tucci, Paul is so self confident that he can enthusiastically encourage and then revel in his wife’s pursuits. Considering that the "Julia" scenes take place in the 1940s and 1950s, the Childs’ marriage of equals is a romantic miracle. We believe that he sees this formidable, 6’2 woman as sensual and sensuous, as well as brilliant and capable. My favorite scene is his party toast:  "You are the butter to my bread and the breath to my life. I love you, darling girl. Happy Valentine’s Day.” You come away thinking Julia was a very lucky woman, indeed.

 

Garabedian

2015: Spotlight. This movie is filled with good performances. But still, I was surprised Tucci was overlooked by the Academy, because his is really the only character who evolves during the film. He's Mitchell Garabedian, the lawyer who represented so many victims of abusive priests in Boston. When we first meet him, he seems distracted, hostile and unwilling to help the warmer and fuzzier reporter, Mark Revendez (Mark Ruffalo, who did receive an Oscar nod). As the story unfolds, we realize that Garabedian isn't trying block the story, he's simply not interested in glory. As the only one seriously litigating what went on with the Boston archdiocese, he cared about his clients more than he cared about The Boston Globe. Contrast the prickly Garabedian with sunny and handsome  Eric Macleish (Billy Crudup), another Boston barrister. Friendly, available Macleish loves reporters and makes time to talk. But by the end of the movie, we come to appreciate Garabedian, the the little guy who takes on Boston's entrenched and powerful, giving voice to victims who had gone unheard for so long. Watch Tucci in the courtroom and dealing with his victims and you'll see a grumpy, solitary lawyer transform into Don Quixote, right before your eyes.

Read more about the Academy Awards through the 31 Days of Oscar Blogathon! Here are the topics:

February 6 THE ACTORS!
February 13 OSCAR SNUBS!
February 20 THE CRAFTS! (Music, Costumes, Cinematography, Writing, etc.)
February 27 PICTURES AND DIRECTORS!

... And here are the hubs:

Once Upon a Screen 
Outspoken and Freckled
Paula's Cinema Club

 

Enough!

I've seen this photo of David Bowie and La Liz a lot since his passing, and I don't understand the fascination. Yes, she's stunning and I've always appreciated her iconography.  But I find this photo profoundly disturbing. He died at 69 of cancer. As I understand it, life expectancy for non-smoking males is 83.

Isn't it time that we stop pretending smoking is glamorous? According to the CDC, "cigarette smoking harms nearly every organ of the body" and can cause cancer almost anywhere in the body, including but nowhere near exclusively the lung. When you consider that Miss Taylor died of heart-related illness, you realize that we're watching these two new friends bond over the very thing that will help kill them.

To me, looking at this picture is like watching Kurt Cobain cuddle a rifle, or Princess Diana getting into that dark blue Mercedes.

Have I ruined this photo for you? I hope so.

No, really

My 60-year-old boss actually just said, "Whatevs."

WWW.WEDNESDAY

WWW.WEDNESDAY is back! To participate, and to see how others responded, click here.

1. What are you currently reading? White Collar Girl by Renee Rosen. This fictional saga is set in the Chicago Tribune newsroom of the 1950s. It's fertile ground for a lot of topics: changing women's roles, a thriving newspaper business (at this time, Chicago had four major dailies), and the machine politics of Da Mare, Boss Richard J. Daley. So far I'm enjoying it very much. Ms. Rosen clearly loves what she's writing about. I appreciate her eye for details and the way she captures the spirit of a very young girl at the beginning of her career.

2. What did you recently finish reading? Cheap Shot by Ace Atkins. Happy to report it's written very much in the spirit of the late Robert B. Parker. Boston is a sports town and Spenser is a former jock, so a mystery with a Patriots backdrop works very well. There's a lot at stake here -- the welfare of a child -- which kept me riveted. If you like the Spenser series, you'll have fun with this book. All your favorite characters are here (and Susan manages to not annoy me). 

3.  What will you read next? Sinatra: The Chairman by James Kaplan. I loved, LOVED the first volume of Kaplan's epic Sinatra biography, which ended with the Oscar for From Here to Eternity, so I'm really looking forward to finishing the story.

This just in

View from the intrior

C. difficile. That's what I have, and have been battling for four weeks now. It's a pretty common infection … in people who are on antibiotics or have been in the hospital. Since I'm not on antibiotics and haven't been in the hospital in years, it's unusual that it took hold so tenaciously with me.

Oh, well. Tonight when I get home from work, I'll pick up a med called Flagyl and in a week (10 days tops), I'll be better.

And really, all things considered, I've been lucky. While my case is lasting longer than most, I suffered no fatigue, no vomiting, no fever, no chills.

Hopefully, my looooong and literally gut-wrenching battle will soon be over.

A moment in time

A long, long time ago, in the 1980s, I dated a completely lovely man. We shared a lot -- we both love movies, we could both recite dialog from Monty Python's Flying Circus, we were both politically involved (and it wasn't easy for liberals like us to keep our spirits up during the Reagan years). He was tall and had really great hair.

But I didn't love him. He seemed a little too wimpy for me when I was into partying and coke and bad boys. So I threw him over for a much better looking, more charismatic and far more tortured bastard who broke my heart and was, without a doubt, the worst thing that ever happened to me.

I've remained in touch with the completely lovely man for all these years. I'm proud to report that I've been invited to the graduation ceremonies for each of his children and his wife and I are Facebook friends. This year's Christmas card included a photo of their first grandchild.

There are times that I wonder about the path not taken. What if I'd stayed with the completely lovely man and threw over the bastard? Would I now be a happy Wisconsin grandmother?

No. I might be a Wisconsin grandmother, but I wouldn't be a happy one. And he wouldn't be happy with me, either. Because I didn't love him.

Why am I writing about this today? Because I heard that Glenn Frey has died. He wrote and performed a song that was popular at the time, "The One You Love," and expressed exactly how I was feeling in those days. Hearing that song reminds me that I made neither the right nor the wrong choice because I had no choice at all. I didn't love him.

"Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you, or are you going back to the one you love?" The song captured that moment in time, and I'll always be grateful to Glenn Frey for exquisitely putting words to my feelings.

So I guess it's HIllary

I watched the Democratic debate last night and was very proud of my party. Proud to be a liberal. Happy to know I could easily vote for any of the three on stage last night.

Despite my respect for Bernie Sanders and the way he, like Gene McCarthy, has touched the hearts of the young -- I love, love, love listening to my 15 year old nephew rhapsodize about Bernie -- I'm ready for Hillary.

No, I don't especially like/trust her. I never have. But she's smart. She's capable. And she gets the gun issue. Bernie doesn't. Maybe it's because, as he keeps telling me, he's from a rural state. I live in a city awash in guns. Chicago doesn't have time to wait for Bernie to evolve to where Hillary and Obama already are.

Also, I like winning and one thing Democrats have on our side is demographics. I don't see us being able to take advantage of that with Bernie Sanders at the top of the ticket.  Perhaps this is anecdotal, but every one of my friends of color views Bernie with deep skepticism. He's simply not connecting. Again, maybe it's the rural/urban divide. I know the gun issue, combined with what sounds like lukewarm support for Obamacare (and, by extension, Obama), hurt him among my Black and Hispanic friends. At any rate it will be hard for him to reach 270 Electoral Votes without Chicago (and as goes Chicago, so go IL's 20 votes). I don't imagine Los Angeles is all that different from Chicago in this regard. California has a whopping 55 Electoral Votes.

This is how we win

(Of course, the GOP might be suicidal and actually nominate Trump, which means everyone who isn't both white and crazy will be out to vote Democratic. But we can' t count on that.)

If Bernie Sanders becomes my party's nominee, I will open my wallet and my heart to him. I'll phone bank, too. I won't feel I've horribly compromised my ideals. I'll proudly wear my "I VOTED" sticker. After all, Clinton/Sanders/O'Malley agree on much, much more than they disagree on, and this is too important to be childish.

But I hope it's Hillary I'm sending money to and phone banking for. Because I hate gun violence and love winning.

Ick

So I used my stool sample kit this evening. I hope to use it again tomorrow morning. I hate this.

First of all, my cat Joey decided he had to help me as I was doing this. Since 2001, when we first moved to this condo, he has eschewed the bathroom. And yet tonight, he had to be with me every moment. Rubbing up against me, giving me loving head bumps. This made a disgusting process even messier.

Secondly, I truly thought I was better this morning and that this wouldn't be necessary. I have been caroming between diarrhea and constipation and this morning the latter was in evidence. So I had my normal weekend breakfast and a regular dinner ... and than at about 8:00 my gut exploded. Damn. Damn. Damn.

Oh well, hopefully by tomorrow noon I'll have collected enough evidence for my doctor to reach a conclusion about what's going on with me. And hopefully it's something she can treat with just antibiotics.

Sunday Stealing

Why Do You Want To Know That Meme, part four

76. What is the best advice you’ve ever been given? Re: office politics. "Don't listen to what they say. Watch what they do."

77. Is it easier to forgive or forget? Forgive

78. First mobile phone? I don't remember much about it, except it had an antenna. It got very bad reception if I didn't extend the antenna.

79. Strangest dream? It's the dream I had way back in 2007. It involves an old lover, a steakhouse, and Frank Sinatra.

80. Best dream? I used to have vivid, romantic dreams about David Addison. Recalling this makes me want to dig out those Moonlighting DVDs.

81. Who is the smartest person you know? Different people are smart in different areas. Recently, when I was wrestling with a professional issue, I was impressed by my friend Kathleen.

82. Who is the prettiest person on you know? I have a former coworker who is completely darling. Not only is she very pretty, she is kind and very, very successful -- both professionally and personally. I love how she accomplishes everything she sets out to do, because she's so pretty, inside and out.

83. Do you miss anyone right now? Yes

84. Who do you love? Why? Right now, my friend John is #1 on my hit parade. Because he was so thoughtful this weekend, enduring (and perhaps even enjoying) the Cubs Convention, just for me.

85. Do you like sharing? Depends on what I'm asked to share.

86. What was the last picture you took with your phone? My cat, Joey. I had been so apprehensive about leaving him alone when I went out of town over Christmas. When I got home, I sent a photo of him being all happy and healthy to the friends who had patiently listened to me worry.

87. Is there a reason behind everything that happens? No

88. Favorite genre of music? Pop

89. If you had one word to describe yourself, what would it be? Autonomous

90. Describe your life in 5 words. Messy, quiet, nowhere near done

91. Craziest thing you’ve ever done? I had a vacation fling with a guy I met in San Francisco. I just met him and knew I'd never see him again. And yet ... sigh. It was fun and exciting and very not like me.

92. First three songs in your favorite playlist?  "Just a Little Lovin'," "Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?" and "I'd Rather Leave when I'm in Love." All Dusty Springfield.

93. Are you more creative or logical? Creative

94. Would you rather lie or hurt someone with the truth? Before I can answer, I need more information.

95. What are you most proud of? My aforementioned cat, Joey, is 20 years old. He's had health problems over the last year, but he's still here. Still affectionate, still rather lively. Someone else threw him away 17 years ago and I took him in and have given him a good life. He is not my first rescue. I am proud of the care I've given little furry souls that others people treated as disposable.

96. What personality trait do you admire in other people? Authenticity

97. When you imagine yourself as really, really relaxed and happy, what are you doing? Watching the Cubs

98. How do you usually start a conversation? Depends, of course, on the situation. But I've had a lot of success with, "What's the first record you bought and the last concert you attended?"

Shame on anyone who applauds this

99. What is the best news you could hear right now? That the good people of Iowa and/or New Hampshire have made Trump, to borrow his phrase, "a loser." I'm still staggered and disheartened that a man who openly mocked a reporter with disabilities is leading in the polls. I watched my favorite uncle battle Parkinson's for years and know how difficult it is for people who are challenged. It would be so nice if, as a country, we reconnected with our dignity and compassion and sent Trump from the national stage.

Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Let's Dance (1983)

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) In this song, David encourages his partner to "put on your red shoes and dance." When did you last dance? I don't even remember. Whenever it was, you're glad you didn't see it. I'm a terrible dancer.

2) Mr. Bowie recalled that he and choreographer Toni Basil developed a dance step now known as "the moonwalk" for his 1974 tour, nearly a decade before Michael Jackson performed "Billie Jean." Can you think of something you should have gotten credit for, but didn't? It happens at work all the time. Just this past week, in fact. I should be used to it by now, but it still bothers me.

3) Similarly, the band Roxy Music was upset because Bowie copied their "catsuit look" for his own stage wardrobe and made it famous. What do you usually wear, Monday through Friday? Jeans and a pullover of some sort.

4) David Bowie was particular about the aftershave he wore,

and one of his favorites was by Guerlain. Do you regularly apply cologne or aftershave? Always. Right now my favorite is called Exceptional. I like it because it's an uncommon, rather crisp fragrance.

5) In school, David's best subject was art. Think back to your own school days. In which class did you excel? English and American history.

6) In addition to art and music, David Bowie displayed a keen head for business, leaving a fortune of more than $600,000,000. Would you describe yourself as "good with money?" Tee hee. No. Emphatically no.

7) Bowie also appeared in a variety of movies from The Man Who Fell to Earth to Zoolander. Who is your alltime favorite movie actor? Oh, goodness! Cary Grant and Robert Redford. Judy Garland and Katherine Hepburn. Of today's crop, I like Leonardo diCaprio and Rachel McAdams.

8) One of Bowie's hits is "Life on Mars." If you had the opportunity to travel into space, would you take it? No! Too vast and too dangerous.

9) The creators of SpongeBob Square Pants are huge Bowie fans and were thrilled when, in 2007, he appeared in an episode. Sam suspects that she may be the only person who hasn't seen that cartoon show. What about you? Have you ever watched an episode of SpongeBob, start to finish? Aye, aye Captain!

Surrounded by my people

I am a Cub fan.

I was raised in the Lutheran Church, but I converted. I was also raised to worship at the baseball cathedral on Clark and Addison, and that stuck. I can't remember a time when I didn't love the Cubs.

And so, Friday and Saturday, I was delighted to attend the Cubs Convention. It was terrific to find myself surrounded by others who love them as much as I do, talking baseball even as the Chicago River is frozen solid.

I wore my grandmother's Ryne Sandberg jersey. I wanted to get a photo of Ryno and me wearing it, but alas, that never happened. I did sit in an interview room where he and Sweet Swingin' Billy Williams talked about making The Hall of Fame. It meant a lot to me to be there, in her jersey, because I know how much she loved him and how happy it would make her.

I also saw Jake Arrieta, Anthony Rizzo, Kyle Schwarber and Kris Bryant, today's biggest stars. And manager Joe Maddon, who may be favorite person in the universe.

I was accompanied to all this by my friend John, who gave me this trip for my birthday. He was not as into it as I was, and at times that annoyed me, but I had to get over myself. First of all, he thought to deliver this to me, which was a big deal. Secondly, he was outnumbered. Even more than at the ballpark -- where you will frequently find yourself sitting near an out of towner who just wants to see Wrigley Field but isn't a real fan -- this sold-out convention is filled with fans. Real fans. Passionate fans. Fans like me.

He also said something very sweet to me. He said that the times in life he's laughed the hardest have been the times he's been with me. "You know, when your face hurts from laughing." And he said he that in addition to giving me this experience for my birthday, he wanted to spend the time with me. How cool is that?

Here's why I enjoy my annual mammogram

Because I'm elated when my doctor's office calls and tells me everything is just fine. And that's just what happened today. (Thank God.)

Thank you, Alan Rickman

I have often threatened my coworkers that we will make our client's deadlines, even if there's bruising or loss of blood, even if I have to call off Christmas.

This is not an original thought. No one has ever busted me, though, for stealing it from the inimitable Alan Rickman in Robin Hood, Prince of Thieves. If they haven't seen this film, it's their loss. For he managed to be a luminous villain in a completely average movie.



He was also Hans Gruber in Die Hard. I've seen that movie dozens of times, and always feel a little twinge of sadness when he falls to his death. Bruce Willis' John McClane is a hero that stays with us because he had such a charismatic, formidable foe.

So I'm going to miss Alan Rickman, and I'm grateful for the time I've spent watching his work.

My kingdom for a burger

My gastrointestinal tract is still rebelling. Which sucks. Every day I wake up and think, "This will be the day everything is fine!" And for more than two weeks, I've been disappointed.

I've been subsisting on poultry, crackers, soup, and rice. Oh, how I want beef! A nice, juicy burger with lettuce and cheese and thin-sliced pickles and lots of ketchup. Or a slice of deep dish pizza, gooey and cheesey. I want to wash it down with a chilled vodka and cran. But most of all, I really want a burger.

In the meantime, I'm going back to the doctor's office tomorrow. Not for a checkup, but to get the kit required to submit a stool sample. I'm disgusted by this. I'm sick of this. I want this to be done. Hopefully the lab will find discover something from my stool that was absent in my blood, and that's something that can be treated by an antibiotic.

Being sick is good for my budget

I've been eating a lot of soup lately. Mostly chicken noodle, occasionally chicken rice. (Never tomato; I hate tomato.) Always with Club Crackers. It's been my dinner of choice for almost a week now. Boring, to be sure. But very economical!

With this illness my food expenditures have certainly shrunk. Instead of my big,  Saturday morning coffee shop breakfast of Eggs Benedict or bacon and eggs, I had a spare, Sunday Belgium waffle brunch, no meat, which naturally cost less. I slipped away to the movies Sunday afternoon and had no sweets, not even Twizzlers.

I think I'm on my way back to healthy, but then I've thought that before so I have to take it slow. Over the last three weeks I've learned how important food is to me. My friend John is already worried that I won't be able to drink at this weekend's Cubs Convention. Naturally I'd like to have a beer (and, as the song says, peanuts and Cracker Jack), but not at the expense of my fragile gut.

I want to be better. I'm so tired of this. I really want to be better!

Sunday Stealing

Why Do You Want To Know That Meme, part three

50. What do you spend most of your money on? I spend too much on crap I don't really need. But I can honestly say that the biggest single bill I pay each month is my mortgage/assessment, and my housing costs are very reasonable for my budget.

51. Would you rather visit the past or the future? The past. I know I romanticize it would probably be disappointed, but I'd like to give it a try. (If I could come back if I wanted to.)

52. Favorite clothing store? Carson's. (It might be Bergner's or Yonker's in your neighborhood.)

53. What is the best advice you can give to those who are feeling down? This, too, shall pass.

54. How often do you think about your future? Does it scare you? I worry about getting old and sick. I watched my mom and my uncle go from healthy one day to very sick the next. OK, it wasn't that fast but it was fast.

55. What angers you the most? Bullies

56. When was the last time you got majorly angry? I wasn't happy at work on Friday. We have a new employee (not so new anymore; she started in the spring) and no one is training her and I have to clean up her mess.

57. When was the last time you got really sad? When I realized I was sick on vacation. No fair!

58. Are you good at lying? Surprisingly so

59. What foreign language would you like to learn? Spanish. Usted es un narcisista arrogante, el Sr. Trump. 

60. How many languages can you speak and what are they? Just English

61. How often do you go to parties? If you don’t, what do you do instead? Haven't been to a party, or even had a drink, all year. Instead I read, watch TV and fart around on the internet.

62. What books do you plan to read this year? White Collar Girl, by Renee Rosen. Sinatra: The Chairman by James Kaplan.

63. Do you have breakfast every morning? Usually I have something. Slim Fast or maybe some cereal. But I've been having tummy trouble lately.

64. Tell us a secret. "The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time. Any fool can do it. There ain't nothing to it."





65. How many concerts have you been to? Between 25 and 30.

66. Last hug? Amanda. She was suddenly transferred off our account and moved to another -- and, I suspect, toward the door, but I didn't want to tell her that.

67. Who knows you better than anyone else? Nobody knows all of me very well. Different people get different parts.

68. Baths or showers? Yes. Shower most mornings. Bath if I'm going to shave my legs or apply a mud mask.

69. Do you think you’re ambitious? Not anymore.

70. What song is stuck in your head? "Saturday Night Is the Loneliest Night of the Week." It's being played by the band in the background of this Fred Astaire movie I'm kinda watching. It took me a moment to recognize it, but now that I have it's burrowing into my head.

71. Countries you’ve visited? Canada, France, Switzerland (my favorite), Germany, Lichtenstein.

72. What do you most value in your friends? That they take me as they find me.

73. What helps you to sleep better? As I recall, romance used to help.

74. What is the most money you have ever held in your hand? A little over $7000. I had closed my account at Citibank and they were actually going to charge me for receiving my own money by check. This struck me as monstrously unfair, so I took it in cash. I was very nervous as I carried it up the street to Chase.

75. What makes you nervous? Carrying $7,000 cash.

Baby's First Uber Ride

I had a little tummy trouble (again!) and missed my traditional Saturday morning coffee shop breakfast. By the time I did a little grocery shopping and had my annual mammogram, the snow had begun falling in big, wet flakes. I just couldn't see hauling those bags of clothes to Goodwill on the bus. They'd be hard to handle and the clothes would get all wet.

And so I tried Uber. We have a good local cab company here, but there are places in the city where you can't just raise your arm and hail a cab. And so I downloaded the Uber app. Today was my initial run.

It was fine. It took 15 minutes for the car to get here, but it would have taken that long for a cab to arrive in the snow, too. It was nice to not have to deal with cash or a tip.

But I think that, for normal rides to and fro, I'll stick with the bus company or the local cab company. I like to support union labor.

Saturday 9

Saturday 9: Five O'Clock World

1. Think back to Friday. Did it fly by? Or did you find yourself checking the clock and wishing it was 5:00? This whole workweek went achingly slowly. It was my first week back after two weeks off, so I suppose that was to be expected.

 2. This song refers to the 5:00 whistle that signifies the end of the work day. What's the last whistle, alarm or buzzer you heard? On the train. There's a "beep-beep" noise and a recorded voice says, "The doors are about to close."

3. In the 1960s, the Vogues often appeared on TV variety shows to promote their record albums. Do you have the TV on now, as you answer these questions? Yes. It's a PBS documentary about scientists working on isolating some particle. I don't know shit about protons and supersymmetry, and I don't understand what they're looking for. But I enjoy their enthusiasm and teamwork. It's inspiring.

4. "Vogue" means "popular or fashionable." Tell us about something

I blame him

that you feel is in vogue today. Being politically incorrect. People say things aloud with a childish insouciance that they would have/should have felt guilty for even thinking a year ago. For example, right after Christmas I flew home from the Key West airport. It's got just one, tiny terminal and consequently no TSA Pre-Check row. As we were all putting our shoes and belts back on, this grown man said, very conversationally as though it was acceptable, "All this because of those damn towel heads." I've also heard adults dismiss people/things as "retarded." This is an unfortunate, ugly trend that I hope falls by the wayside, fast. Words can hurt, and this trend is making the world a more hostile, more painful place.

5. Vogue magazine reported that the big Fall/Winter trend was brocade. Describe the latest addition to your Fall/Winter wardrobe. I just bought these little Steve Madden boots, but mine are black. We've had a very mild winter so far, but I don't trust that our luck will hold and I want to be waterproof and ready.

6. Vogue editor Anna Wintour is such a difficult boss that disgruntled employees nicknamed her "Nuclear Wintour." What qualities do you think make a good boss? A willingness to walk a mile in his/her employees' shoes (or Steve Madden boots). The better a supervisor truly understands what the staff does and faces, the better the communication. And the better the communication, the better the relationship and the better the final work product.

7. Ms. Wintour was rumored to be the inspiration for the character of Amanda in the book and movie, The Devil Wears Prada. Did you receive any books or movies for Christmas 2015? Did you receive any gift cards that you then used for books or movies? I got this charmingly silly little book from my friend Kathleen. She tells me her husband picked it out for me, because this is where every one of my conversations invariably goes.

8. "Vogue" was also a dance, made famous by Madonna in her 1990 hit by the same name. Can you name another Madonna song?  "Take a Bow." It's a subtle and sophisticated break up song and she actually sings it quite well. I'm surprised by how much I like it, because Madonna has been making my skin crawl for decades now.

9. Random question from a Sat9-er: How organized are your clean clothes? (Stacked in piles, folded neatly in drawers, still in the dryer....?)   I love this question because it actually makes me sound neat and organized! As soon as my laundry is done, it gets folded and put away.