These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
Tuesday, October 20, 2015
Tired
I feel bad about how tired I feel. I mean, this wonderful Cub team, who have been such a delight all year, went down to such high profile defeat as a cold, steady rain fell on the field. It must have been so much harder on them than it is on me.
Those poor kids.
Monday, October 19, 2015
That was hard to watch
I woke up with Lenny Kravitz running through my head: "So many tears I cried/so much pain inside/but, baby, it ain't over till it's over ..."
Sunday, October 18, 2015
Yes, it's me
I've had so much fun with this clever promotion for the upcoming Peanuts movie. If you'd like to "peanutize" yourself, click here.
Sunday Stealing
Swiped
1. Did someone die in that last movie you watched? No. It was The Missiles of October, about the Cuban Missile Crisis, and no one died because of the wisdom, imagination and temperament of the man we were lucky enough to have in the Oval Office in 1962. Something to keep in mind when we vote in 2016.
2. Are the trees pretty colors outside for you now or at all? The tree outside my livingroom window is currently awash in brown leaves.
3. Have you ever made a bad first impression on someones parents? All the time.
4. When's the last time you video recorded something on TV? See Question 1.
5. What is a career you wanted to have when you were younger, and still kind of want to have now? When I was younger I wanted to be a reporter, but I don't anymore.
6. What are your views on sunflowers? They are good for feed in Farmville 2.
7. What is your favorite incense or candle scent? Cinnamon.
8. Caramel apples or candy apples? They're not the same thing? I've gotta go to Google and get educated.
9. Have you ever walked into a wall? I just did on Wednesday. At Pret a Manger, they are clear glass and yes, I mistook a wall or a door and made an idiot of myself.
10. Would you ever or do you make your dog wear a bandanna? I am not philosophically opposed putting a bandana on a dog.
11. Do you find dandelions when they're gone all white pretty? Yes
12. What makes you laugh? Ah, Lydia.
13. The scariest moment of your life? Seven years ago I was nearly hit by a cab. I remember it as though it was yesterday.
14. What’s the coolest thing you’ve bought lately? Three pair of jeans that actually fit.
15. What’s the worst you’ve had to do because of losing a bet? Nothing outrageous or bad comes to mind. Usually my bets involve $1 or candy from the vending machine.
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William Devane as JFK |
2. Are the trees pretty colors outside for you now or at all? The tree outside my livingroom window is currently awash in brown leaves.
3. Have you ever made a bad first impression on someones parents? All the time.
4. When's the last time you video recorded something on TV? See Question 1.
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My long ago career inspiration |
5. What is a career you wanted to have when you were younger, and still kind of want to have now? When I was younger I wanted to be a reporter, but I don't anymore.
6. What are your views on sunflowers? They are good for feed in Farmville 2.
7. What is your favorite incense or candle scent? Cinnamon.
8. Caramel apples or candy apples? They're not the same thing? I've gotta go to Google and get educated.
9. Have you ever walked into a wall? I just did on Wednesday. At Pret a Manger, they are clear glass and yes, I mistook a wall or a door and made an idiot of myself.
10. Would you ever or do you make your dog wear a bandanna? I am not philosophically opposed putting a bandana on a dog.
11. Do you find dandelions when they're gone all white pretty? Yes
12. What makes you laugh? Ah, Lydia.
13. The scariest moment of your life? Seven years ago I was nearly hit by a cab. I remember it as though it was yesterday.
14. What’s the coolest thing you’ve bought lately? Three pair of jeans that actually fit.
15. What’s the worst you’ve had to do because of losing a bet? Nothing outrageous or bad comes to mind. Usually my bets involve $1 or candy from the vending machine.
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Saturday, October 17, 2015
Saturday 9
Beyond the Sea
1) This song mentions golden sands. When do you think you'll next visit the beach? I'll be in Key West again for the holidays. My friend and I like to walk the beach on Christmas morning. Last year we met a lovely couple who had risen even earlier than we had and put this charming little Christmas tree on the sand.
2) Shortly after "Beyond the Sea" hit the charts, Bobby Darin met and married movie sweetheart Sandra Dee. Her squeaky-clean image is spoofed in the song, "Look at Me, I'm Sandra Dee," from Grease. Can you name another song from Grease? "Summer days, drifting away, but oh! Those summer nights ..."
4) Bobby was a Renaissance man: Grammy-winning singer, Oscar-nominated actor, Rock and Roll Hall of Famer and an excellent chess player. Are you good at chess? I'm terrible at chess.
6) Beyond the Sea
is also the name of the 2004 screen biography in which Kevin Spacey
played Bobby Darin. Who would you choose to play you in the story of
your life? Carrie Fisher.
8) In 1959, when "Beyond the Sea" was popular, Alaska became our 49th state. What comes to mind when you think of Alaska? The Alaskardashians -- Sarah and Bristol Palin.

2) Shortly after "Beyond the Sea" hit the charts, Bobby Darin met and married movie sweetheart Sandra Dee. Her squeaky-clean image is spoofed in the song, "Look at Me, I'm Sandra Dee," from Grease. Can you name another song from Grease? "Summer days, drifting away, but oh! Those summer nights ..."
3) Years earlier, Bobby had an ill-fated
romance with singer Connie Francis. According to Ms. Francis, Darin
wanted to marry her, but her father forbade it. Have you ever had a
relationship that your parents disapproved of? Yes, but it wasn't a romance. I had a girlfriend in high school who made my parents nuts. She was very arty and very smart. It sounds weird, but my parents objected to her because it's when I began hanging around with her, I stopped caring about being popular. My parents had been teens in the 1950s, and for them a daughter to be proud of was a daughter who was cute, dated a lot and had a lot of clubs listed after her name in the yearbook. I was a tremendous disappointment to them, and they blamed her.
4) Bobby was a Renaissance man: Grammy-winning singer, Oscar-nominated actor, Rock and Roll Hall of Famer and an excellent chess player. Are you good at chess? I'm terrible at chess.
5) A car buff, he drove a 1960 custom
car that was so unique and spectacular it's now in a Detroit museum. The
bright red paint was mixed with ground diamonds to ensure that it
sparkled in the sun. Each of the four bucket seats had its own ac/heat
control and radio speaker. The steering wheel was slightly squared for
easier handling. What features would your dream car have? A driver
7) When he was just 8 years old, Bobby
Darin was stricken with rheumatic fever, and the disease left him with a
dangerously weakened heart. Did you spend much time in the hospital
when you were a kid? No, but one summer did find me in the same ER three times. First I hurt my ankle jumping off a lifeguard's chair, second I tripped down the stairs and damaged my shoulder, and then I was jumping on my bed and cracked my chin on the headboard. That last one resulted in a lot of blood. My dad did what he could to stop the bleeding before bundling me up and taking me to the hospital. His shirt was still all bloody. As the doctor stitched me up, he and the nurse kept exchanging meaningful looks. Then the nurse took me to a separate room and a very nice lady came in with a file with my name on it. "Want to tell me what happened this afternoon?" she asked. "Your dad can't hear you." I was too young to understand it at the time, but clearly the hospital was suspicious of my injuries. My parents were desperately offended, but in retrospect I think it's great that the doctors and nurses were looking out for the children in my community.
8) In 1959, when "Beyond the Sea" was popular, Alaska became our 49th state. What comes to mind when you think of Alaska? The Alaskardashians -- Sarah and Bristol Palin.
9) In 1959, Conair introduced the first hair dryer developed for home use. Is there a hair dryer in your bathroom right now? Yup.
The world is treating me bad ... Misery!

A big part of the problem remains Christine the Mole. She is very good at getting things done and making the trains run on time, but she's not a strategic thinker. She's focused on accomplishing the task before her and doesn't understand the ramifications of some of the client's requests. When I raise issues, and explain that if we do as asked we aren't really serving our client, Christine's response is, invariably, "I don't agree."
So?
She's a freelancer! Why am I justifying myself to a freelancer? Her last day (God willing!) will be December 15. I have to live with the after effects of her short sightedness and resistance.
Thursday night, after a day of battle, I just felt so alone. I wanted to be distracted. I want to laugh. So I called my oldest friend.
She no longer has a landline and her cellphone voice mail was full. So I texted her. Hours later I got a text back -- she was at dinner with her daughter and would call me back if they didn't get home "too late." I never heard from her again.
I know that she's dealing with her own shit. She's in that program for bipolar disorder three days/week and back at work on Thursdays and Fridays. I am supportive of her efforts to get well and try to understand (as best I can) about her challenges.
But here's the thing: she expects me to be there for her, whenever. Like turning on the tap or flipping on the light switch. It is not reciprocal.
That hurts.
Greetings from the brink of disaster
I'm watching The Missiles of October, the 3 hour, made-for-TV movie about the
Cuban Missile Crisis. The production values aren't great -- it's basically a stage play shot on video tape. But the script, which is based on oral histories and news stories and notes by the men who were there, is literate and compelling. It doesn't sensationalize events because it doesn't have to. The stakes in this real-life drama were as high as they can possibly get.
William Devane does an exceptional job as JFK. He has the hair, the accent, the cadence and the mannerisms. More than that, he captures the intellect, the wit, and the curious but wonderful combination of detachment and compassion that made the real man so special.
Watching a TV movie about the world on the precipice of thermonuclear war makes me think of the reality show we're all currently watching.
"It is insane that two men, sitting on opposite sides of the world, should be able to decide to bring an end to civilization." So said JFK to his Cabinet in October 1962.
You know what else is insane? Voting Donald Trump as one of those two men.
Friday, October 16, 2015
Meet the Mets
Starting Saturday, my Cubs are gonna begin taking an up close and personal look at the New York Mets. As a lifelong Cub fan of a certain age, I can tell you that this series is positively BIBLICAL.
Because of 1969.
The 1969 Cubs are THE Cubs team. These are the players of lore, the ones whose numbers are retired, whose statues surround Wrigley Field. Ernie Banks, Ron Santo, Billy Williams, Fergie Jenkins. (And Glen Beckert, Don Kessinger, Randy Hundley and Kenny Holtzman, who pitched a no-hitter ... not that I'm a Cub geek or anything.) They were in first place from Opening Day, and come August they were 75-44.
Then they folded.
They lost 17 of their last 25 games and finished in second place. To the METS. The team that went on to win the World Series. The one that should have been ours.
I remember all this so clearly. When you're a kid, time moves differently and summers seem to last forever. All summer long, the Cubs won. Riding my bike up and down the street, I could hear the games coming through the screen doors and car radios. My guys were invincible. All they did was win. It was a way of life.
Then school started, and the world changed. I got home from school before 4:00 to see the end of each game (the Cubs still played only day games at home back then) and what the hey? Night games on the road were worse because my dad was home. Sitting in his recliner, smoking cigarette after cigarette, looking first tense and then defeated, right along with his team.
It was awful. Like attending the same wake day after day.
And now, Saturday night, it's the Cubs again on a tear and the team standing between them and the World Series is the Mets.
My dad is in heaven, watching.
They've got to win this for him.
I felt like a pioneer woman!
I was without the internet all day on Friday. Something went awry at my agency's New York and Chicago offices that knocked out something fiber optic and we were down. Not just Microsoft Office ... everything!
I stayed downtown for six hours, hoping the connection would be restored. After all, Friday is a big day in Farmville! My art director and I made revisions to two projects -- I put the new copy on a thumb drive and handed it to him -- but we couldn't send PDFs to the client because no internet. We offered to fax the work to their offices, but they declined. Our client explained that they have no procedure for routing work manually anymore, everything has to go electronically.
So much for roughing it. It started to seem so pointless, so at 4:00 I packed it in and went home, thinking that the internet is the biggest deal since movable type.
I stayed downtown for six hours, hoping the connection would be restored. After all, Friday is a big day in Farmville! My art director and I made revisions to two projects -- I put the new copy on a thumb drive and handed it to him -- but we couldn't send PDFs to the client because no internet. We offered to fax the work to their offices, but they declined. Our client explained that they have no procedure for routing work manually anymore, everything has to go electronically.
So much for roughing it. It started to seem so pointless, so at 4:00 I packed it in and went home, thinking that the internet is the biggest deal since movable type.
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Go, Cubs, Go!
The Cubs beat the Cardinals and it only took four games. Gulp! I barely believe this is happening.
I'm a Cub fan. My grandparents were Cub fans, my dad was a Cub fan, and so it is in my blood. It's so basic to my being that I don't remember becoming a Cub fan. That would be like trying to recall the moment when I first smiled.
I love the crack of the bat and the sound of the ball hitting the glove. I love a player's pants after he slides into third. I love the ivy on the walls and the beautiful old scoreboard. I love it all. The allure of a baseball game within The Friendly Confines of Wrigley Field cannot be overestimated. It's such a sensuous experience that winning seemed almost incidental. I'm not kidding. Win or lose, I've never had a bad time at the ballpark.
Tonight though, I can say, WINNING IS FUN! WINNING IS REAL, CRAZY FUN!
I'm a Cub fan. My grandparents were Cub fans, my dad was a Cub fan, and so it is in my blood. It's so basic to my being that I don't remember becoming a Cub fan. That would be like trying to recall the moment when I first smiled.
I love the crack of the bat and the sound of the ball hitting the glove. I love a player's pants after he slides into third. I love the ivy on the walls and the beautiful old scoreboard. I love it all. The allure of a baseball game within The Friendly Confines of Wrigley Field cannot be overestimated. It's such a sensuous experience that winning seemed almost incidental. I'm not kidding. Win or lose, I've never had a bad time at the ballpark.
Tonight though, I can say, WINNING IS FUN! WINNING IS REAL, CRAZY FUN!
Sunday, October 11, 2015
Sunday Stealing
The Alphabet Thing
A: Accent -- I wish I had a classy English/Scottish accent. Like Mary Poppins, or Ducky from NCIS.
B: Breakfast -- My favorite meal to eat out. I love dining on eggs at a coffee shop while reading a good book. A great way to start my weekend!
C: Chore you hate -- All of 'em.
D: Dad's name -- Bill

E: Essential everyday item -- iPod Nano. Gotta have my tunes.
F: Flavor ice cream -- Mint chocolate chip
G: Gold or silver -- Silver
H: Hometown -- Sweet Home, Chicago
I: Insomnia -- Not recently
J: Job title -- Workhorse/Whipping Girl. (I'm feeling rather exploited at the office these days.)
K: Kids -- "Kids! What's the matter with kids today? Why can't they be like we were, perfect in every way? What's the matter with kids today?" Bye, Bye Birdie
M: Mother's birthplace -- The burbs. One particular one, in fact. She was born at home in a small town. She lived in a different suburb for about two years when she was in her 20s and then moved back. She and my dad bought her parents house, so she lived most of her life in the same house. She died in a nursing home in that very same town. On the one hand, I can't believe how small my mother's life was. On the other hand, I'm glad she was so content.
N: Number of significant others -- Zip. Zero. Zilch.
O: Overnight hospital stays -- Two. I am grateful for the quality of care I received both times.
P: Phobia -- I do not like air travel. I really don't.
Q: Quick at -- making decisions.
R: Religious affiliation -- A private affair. My faith plays a big part in my life, but I'm distrustful of evangelicals and those who infuse the townsquare with their religion. I don't believe you're supposed to use your relationship with God to gain power for yourself. Remember how Jesus dealt with the buyers/sellers in church?
S: Siblings -- Two sisters
T: Time you wake up -- 7:00-ish
U: Unnatural hair colors -- I had 'em in my younger, party girl days.
V: Vegetable you refuse to eat -- Raw tomatoes
W: Worst habit -- Sloth
X: X-rays -- Getting dental x-rays next weekend when I have my checkup/cleaning
Y: Yummy -- "Yummy, yummy, yummy, I got love in my tummy. And I feel like lovin' you!" An earwig recorded by the Ohio Express in the late 1960s.
Z: Zodiac sign -- I'm on the cusp between Scorpio and Sagittarius.
A: Accent -- I wish I had a classy English/Scottish accent. Like Mary Poppins, or Ducky from NCIS.
B: Breakfast -- My favorite meal to eat out. I love dining on eggs at a coffee shop while reading a good book. A great way to start my weekend!
C: Chore you hate -- All of 'em.
D: Dad's name -- Bill

E: Essential everyday item -- iPod Nano. Gotta have my tunes.
F: Flavor ice cream -- Mint chocolate chip
G: Gold or silver -- Silver
H: Hometown -- Sweet Home, Chicago
I: Insomnia -- Not recently
J: Job title -- Workhorse/Whipping Girl. (I'm feeling rather exploited at the office these days.)
K: Kids -- "Kids! What's the matter with kids today? Why can't they be like we were, perfect in every way? What's the matter with kids today?" Bye, Bye Birdie
M: Mother's birthplace -- The burbs. One particular one, in fact. She was born at home in a small town. She lived in a different suburb for about two years when she was in her 20s and then moved back. She and my dad bought her parents house, so she lived most of her life in the same house. She died in a nursing home in that very same town. On the one hand, I can't believe how small my mother's life was. On the other hand, I'm glad she was so content.
N: Number of significant others -- Zip. Zero. Zilch.
O: Overnight hospital stays -- Two. I am grateful for the quality of care I received both times.
P: Phobia -- I do not like air travel. I really don't.
Q: Quick at -- making decisions.
R: Religious affiliation -- A private affair. My faith plays a big part in my life, but I'm distrustful of evangelicals and those who infuse the townsquare with their religion. I don't believe you're supposed to use your relationship with God to gain power for yourself. Remember how Jesus dealt with the buyers/sellers in church?
S: Siblings -- Two sisters
T: Time you wake up -- 7:00-ish
U: Unnatural hair colors -- I had 'em in my younger, party girl days.
V: Vegetable you refuse to eat -- Raw tomatoes
W: Worst habit -- Sloth
X: X-rays -- Getting dental x-rays next weekend when I have my checkup/cleaning
Y: Yummy -- "Yummy, yummy, yummy, I got love in my tummy. And I feel like lovin' you!" An earwig recorded by the Ohio Express in the late 1960s.
Z: Zodiac sign -- I'm on the cusp between Scorpio and Sagittarius.
Well, then!
So the Cubs prevailed yesterday amidst a sea of red. And a child led us. Kyle Hendricks, age 25, in his first post-season game, kept his head and went deep. Not easy, since he began the game by giving up a solo home run to the first batter.
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Why I want Michael J. Fox to appear at Wrigley Field this year |
Oh, and by the way ... I see a lot of movies, but one I missed was Back to the Future II. Therefore, I didn't know until recently that in 1989, audiences saw Michael J. Fox/Marty McFly discover that the 2015 Cubs won the World Series. How cool would it be if life imitated art?
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Saturday 9
Cheerleader
1) Homecoming and football make this an important time of year for cheerleaders. Were you a cheerleader, or did you date one? Ha! I don't think I ever even spoke to one. In high school I was into Sylvia Plath and Ms magazine, not "pep."
2) Beyond cheerleaders and the big game, homecoming is a time for parades. Have you ever ridden on a float? No. See above.
3) OMI sings that his girl is always there when he needs her. Who do you know you can always count on? I would say my oldest friend. But she's dealing with a lot of her own shit right now. So if something catastrophic went down, I'd turn to John. We've been through a lot together, too, and we're very comfortable together. That no-drama ease would help chill me through a rough patch.
4) This video features a sandy beach, a rocky shore and palm trees. What do you see outside your window right now? Well, it's after midnight as I answer these questions, so it's very dark outside. All I can see are streetlights and a few scattered houselights from the apartment building across the way.
5) In the lyrics we hear that his cheerleader girlfriend is "like a genie in a bottle." Who would rather hang around with? Jeannie from I Dream of Jeannie or Samantha from Bewitched? Definitely Sam. Jeannie was such an airhead. Plus, I'm in advertising and Sam had so much experience helping Darrin develop campaigns. I think she'd be a valuable friend to have.
5) In the lyrics we hear that his cheerleader girlfriend is "like a genie in a bottle." Who would rather hang around with? Jeannie from I Dream of Jeannie or Samantha from Bewitched? Definitely Sam. Jeannie was such an airhead. Plus, I'm in advertising and Sam had so much experience helping Darrin develop campaigns. I think she'd be a valuable friend to have.
6) OMI is from Jamaica. Have you ever visited that island country? Nope.
8) Queen Elizabeth is Jamaica's head of state. Her Majesty is now 89 years old and a great grandmother. Who is the oldest person in your life? My Aunt Jo (my dad's side of the family) just turned 70. My Cousin Rose (my mom's side) will be turning 70 in February. So 70 is the age!
9) Her Majesty was named Elizabeth Alexandra Mary after three of her relatives, who also were queens. Were you named after anyone? No.
Outclassed by our past
That's a lyric from "What Did I Have that I Don't Have?" This Broadway chestnut was running through my head as I replayed this afternoon's Cubs-Cardinals playoff game in my head.
We dropped the first game 4-0. Our team is young, loose and crazy talented. The Cards are older and injured ... and more experienced. This Cardinal team has been here before. This Cub team has never been anywhere together before. Both our bats and our bullpen were cold today.
As a franchise, the Cardinals have a history of winning. As a franchise, my Cubs do not. I think we were simply outclassed by our past -- both short and long term.
But it was one game in a best-of-five series. Friday's game is over, Saturday's game is the focus. As our manager Joe Maddon says, "Play for today." Joe's mantra has gotten us this far.
These kids are called The Cardiac Cubs for a reason. Unpredictable, energetic and with more talent than they quite know what to do with yet, they deliver thrills and chills.
I cannot wait until Saturday's game!
We dropped the first game 4-0. Our team is young, loose and crazy talented. The Cards are older and injured ... and more experienced. This Cardinal team has been here before. This Cub team has never been anywhere together before. Both our bats and our bullpen were cold today.
As a franchise, the Cardinals have a history of winning. As a franchise, my Cubs do not. I think we were simply outclassed by our past -- both short and long term.
But it was one game in a best-of-five series. Friday's game is over, Saturday's game is the focus. As our manager Joe Maddon says, "Play for today." Joe's mantra has gotten us this far.
These kids are called The Cardiac Cubs for a reason. Unpredictable, energetic and with more talent than they quite know what to do with yet, they deliver thrills and chills.
I cannot wait until Saturday's game!
Friday, October 09, 2015
He'll always be family
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Today he would be 75 |
He influenced me. I loved the word play in his poetry. "No Flies on Frank" from In His Own Write still makes me laugh, even after all these years. "He took his head in his hands … and clubbed her."
I loved his political passion. "Power to the people, right on!" Some of his stunts for peace confused me then, and still do in retrospect, but I admired his commitment, anger and integrity.
I hated Yoko, and blamed drugs for their passion. I drink and I've done coke, but nothing more, because watching John and Yoko just get dirtier and messier and wackier had a greater impact on me than Nancy Reagan's "Just Say No" campaign.
So today he would have turned 75, if some crazy SOB hadn't been able to get his hands on a gun. And I miss him. I've been listening to my favorite John solo song, "Watching the Wheels." It speaks to me, more and more with time.
He might not have been my teen dream, but in my heart, he'll always be my family.
God bless you, John. Peace!
* My mom told me that while watching The Lads on The Ed Sullivan Show, I said of Macca, "He's so pretty it hurts to look!" I still feel that way.
Thursday, October 08, 2015
Wednesday, October 07, 2015
It feels like Christmas Eve!
October 7, 7:05 PM, Cubs vs. Pirates. One game, winner-take-all wildcard playoff.
I CANNOT WAIT!
I'll be watching from my sofa. I can't celebrate and party as I'd wanted because I have to do a client presentation at the office on the 8th. (UGH!)
But I don't want to allow that to harsh my Cubbie buzz. I am so happy.
Go, Cubs, Go!
Like a fever we all had
Rockingham ... Brentwood .... Mezzaluna ... "the white Bronco" ... "ugly-ass Bruno Magli shoes" .... Kato ... Ito ... It's all coming back. The vocabulary that was unique to us 20 years ago. The OJ Simpson trial was our national obsession. I'm watching a documentary about his crime and his two trials, and just hearing those phrases reminds me. I knew the facts of the case. I knew the timeline.
Twenty years ago I was working out by O'Hare airport and from my office window I could see the hotel where OJ was staying when the police notified him of his ex-wife's murder. I recall being surprised when I heard broadcasters refer to the nearby "field" where OJ was suspected of ditching the murder weapon. It was just a narrow, overgrown vacant lot. A tawdry and ugly patch by the highway.
"Tawdry and ugly" pretty much sums up this entire sad saga.
Yet it continues to fascinate me because of all the issues it raises. Race and gender. The nature of celebrity. The cruel vagaries of fate that put the Goldman family on a collision course with "the Juice." Memories of the abusive relationship I endured. The powerful, toxic mix of passion and codependence and sex and violence. If that relationship hadn't ended when it did, I wonder if I would have eventually met a similar fate. How karma finally caught up with Simpson and landed him in a Nevada prison.
In a way, it was the first reality show any of us ever saw. Fittingly, it was the Simpson case that introduced the word "Kardashian" to our vernacular.
Well, the OJ Fever we all had finally broke and we all went on with our lives. But Ron Goldman and Nicole Brown haven't had these past 20 years. I am sorry for that, and say a little prayer for them.
"Tawdry and ugly" pretty much sums up this entire sad saga.
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I use their photos here, not his |
In a way, it was the first reality show any of us ever saw. Fittingly, it was the Simpson case that introduced the word "Kardashian" to our vernacular.
Well, the OJ Fever we all had finally broke and we all went on with our lives. But Ron Goldman and Nicole Brown haven't had these past 20 years. I am sorry for that, and say a little prayer for them.
Tuesday, October 06, 2015
Look who's a fan!
The dinosaur in front of The Field Museum is decked out and ready for Wednesday's playoff game against Pittsburgh.
This city loves my team.
Saturday, October 03, 2015
Sunday Stealing
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1. What would you pick as a major, if you could go back to college and do it again? American history. Especially the Cold War, as taught by this man, Timothy Naftali of NYU. He turns up now and again on C-Span and The History Channel and I've developed a massive geek crush on him.
2. Who is the one celebrity with whom you would most like to have an indepth conversation? Kevin Spacey.
3. If you could make a living doing ANYthing, what would that be? I'd be a great pet sitter.
4. What’s your all-time very favorite dessert? Strawberry rhubarb pie
5. How many pairs of jeans do you own? Lots and lots. I've never counted.
6. What is your favorite flower, and why? I like carnations. I know they're cheap, but they're bright and they make me happy.
7. What book has most changed your life? Saving Graces by Elizabeth Edwards. She taught me what a gift it can be to allow others to help you. As Rhett Butler once said of a similar gallant Southern woman, "She was a great lady. A very great lady." May she rest in peace.
8. What is your least favorite vegetable? Is there any way you can be persuaded to eat it? Raw tomatoes. There's something gelatinous and unfinished about them. However, I will eat a tomato slice if you give me $1.
9. If you could take a nonstop first class flight to any destination, where would you pick to land? London. Let me know in plenty of time so I can get a new passport.
10. If your 15 minutes of fame included a stint on American Idol, what song would be your trademark solo?
11. If you could pick one former friend (who has remained elusive in this wild Facebook world) to reunite with, who would you unearth? There was a girl named Karen I hung around with at church when I was a teenager. She popped into my head not too long ago. I wonder what happened to her.
12. You have been awarded the time off from work and an all-expenses paid week anywhere in the United States. The catch is that it must be somewhere you have not been before. Where do you choose to visit? Mackinac Island. It sounds divine.
13. Name three of your guilty pleasures. People magazine, Braxton Family Values, Cheetohs.
14. The best kind of cookie is: Coconut chocolate chip
15. What do you value most in other people? Authenticity
16. Have you ever looked back at your life and realized that something you thought was a bad thing was actually a blessing in disguise? The end of a certain relationship was the best thing that ever happened to me, though it hurt like hell at the time.
17. What is the most beautiful place you’ve ever visited? Wrigley Field, of course!
18. Are you more of a thinker or a feeler? Feeler
19. Name three things you are thankful for right now. My 20-year-old cat, Joey, is doing just fine (every day feels like a gift); my nephew had a happy birthday; I don't have to do a damn thing all day today.
20. Have you ever participated in a three-legged race? I'm sure I have. I just don't remember the specifics.
21. When you are at an event that plays the National Anthem, do you place your hand over your heart? No. But I do stand.
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Better than Ambien
This is John Gavin. When I was a very little girl, I found him quite swoony. Not Little Joe Cartwright dreamy and certainly not Paul McCartney to die for, but swoony nevertheless. I didn't
know what he did, really. He just appeared often on the daytime talkshows
my mom watched between her soaps -- Art Linkletter's House Party and The Mike Douglas Show. When he came out to chat with the host, my first-grade heart went pitter pat. He always wore a tie with a bright white shirt that set off his bright white teeth, and his hair was just so perfect.
The only John Gavin movie I knew was Psycho. His part is really just a plot device and very little was required of him. I've read that Hitch thought him "wooden," but I never put much stock in that. After all, Hitchcock was dismissive of Paul Newman and Montgomery Clift, two actors who can break your heart with a glance and a line.
The other night, TCM broadcast Back Street. It's a lush Technicolor weeper where beautiful people wear gorgeous clothes and travel to exotic locales. The leading man is played by John Gavin! Finally my chance to see him in a major role.
He plays the heir to department store fortune, a man with a promising future and a high profile, and a drunk for a wife. Every time he tries to leave her, she tries to kill herself. He can't bring shame to his family, can't deprive his kids of their mother. So, when he falls desperately in love with Susan Hayward, they have to carry on their affair in the shadows.
Oh. My. God. He is awful. I know movies like this aren't high art, but with the right cast they can be fun. Rock Hudson would have been terrific, he owned these roles. I've also seen John Forsythe carry off such a part with panache. But John Gavin is unutterably bad. He's so low energy that, while watching his big death scene, I wondered whether the nurses would notice he had expired.
I kept falling asleep during Back Street. It took me three viewings to get all the way through it.
So what have we learned? Hitchcock was right, and we should never let first grade girls cast movies.
The only John Gavin movie I knew was Psycho. His part is really just a plot device and very little was required of him. I've read that Hitch thought him "wooden," but I never put much stock in that. After all, Hitchcock was dismissive of Paul Newman and Montgomery Clift, two actors who can break your heart with a glance and a line.
The other night, TCM broadcast Back Street. It's a lush Technicolor weeper where beautiful people wear gorgeous clothes and travel to exotic locales. The leading man is played by John Gavin! Finally my chance to see him in a major role.
He plays the heir to department store fortune, a man with a promising future and a high profile, and a drunk for a wife. Every time he tries to leave her, she tries to kill herself. He can't bring shame to his family, can't deprive his kids of their mother. So, when he falls desperately in love with Susan Hayward, they have to carry on their affair in the shadows.
Oh. My. God. He is awful. I know movies like this aren't high art, but with the right cast they can be fun. Rock Hudson would have been terrific, he owned these roles. I've also seen John Forsythe carry off such a part with panache. But John Gavin is unutterably bad. He's so low energy that, while watching his big death scene, I wondered whether the nurses would notice he had expired.
I kept falling asleep during Back Street. It took me three viewings to get all the way through it.
So what have we learned? Hitchcock was right, and we should never let first grade girls cast movies.
Saturday 9
Saturday 9: Straight Up (1988)
1)
In this song, Paula sings about being in a dream. Did you dream last night? Not that I recall.
2) When Paula enrolled at California State University, she planned on studying broadcasting and becoming a reporter. Think about your career aspirations when you were 19. Did you follow through and stay on track or, like Paula, did you veer off and find success elsewhere? When I was 19 I was a secretary at a major retailer. My goal was to make enough money to both pay my rent and go away on vacation. I lucked into the opportunity to become an advertising writer.
3) For a while she was a "Laker Girl" and performed at L.A. Laker games. Do you have a favorite NBA team? No. Because the Cubs don't play basketball, and I only have room in my heart for one team/one sport.
4) Paula was once married to Brad Beckerman of Stillhouse Spirits, a company that specializes in whiskey. What's your favorite alcoholic beverage? Vodka. It is my friend.
5) Paula has been dancing since age 8 and, as you can see from the video, Paula moves very well in heels. Tell us about your most comfy shoes. K-Swiss athletic shoes.
6) Paula admits it was her passion for jewelry and that inspired her to design her own line for QVC and Avon. What is your favorite thing to go shopping for? Books or sunglasses. Perhaps the edge goes to sunglasses because I get to try them on, which is part of the fun of shopping.
7) She advises young girls to "keep the faith and don't lose your gut instinct." How about you? Are you more logical or instinctive? Gut
8) In May, Paula traveled to Austria for The Life Ball, a fundraiser to help those afflicted with HIV/AIDS. When is the last time you left the country? I went to Toronto about 15 years ago. I don't really have any desire to leave the US of A. There are too many places here I want to see again (Boston, New York, Williamsburg, DC, Atlanta, Memphis, Hot Springs).
9) Paula Abdul is a spokeswoman for Avon's "Go Check Yourself"
campaign for breast health awareness. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Do you know anyone who has been touched by this disease? My favorite grandma was a breast cancer victim, my friend Kathleen is a proud breast cancer survivor. I suffered through waiting for the results of a suspicious mammogram. I love how supportive women are of one another on this subject. I know it's trite but it's true -- sisterhood is powerful!
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Playing hookey
I took Friday off. Because I'm tired and I hate everyone.
I spent the day sleeping in, going to breakfast, and heading to the mall. The same one I went to back in my high school days.(Fast Times at Ridgemont High, anyone?) I used my Goodwill coupons at Carson's to stock up on jeans. Gloria Vanderbilt Amanda jeans, in black, dark blue and blue. Enough to last me through till spring, and all on sale. I also got my favorite Clinique eye cream, also on sale with coupons. That was the best part of going on a weekday -- I didn't have to wait at the Clinique counter!
Today I slept in, took myself out to lunch, and did a little grocery shopping. Now I'm doing all my laundry. My movie club is meeting on Saturday nights throughout October, showing 1940s era horror movies, but I'm skipping tonight. I still don't feel like being around people.
At some point (like Monday) I've got to start being social again. But for now, I'm enjoying doing nothing and saying nothing.

Today I slept in, took myself out to lunch, and did a little grocery shopping. Now I'm doing all my laundry. My movie club is meeting on Saturday nights throughout October, showing 1940s era horror movies, but I'm skipping tonight. I still don't feel like being around people.
At some point (like Monday) I've got to start being social again. But for now, I'm enjoying doing nothing and saying nothing.
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