I'm perplexed -- how can someone have it all and still be unhappy?
I have a coworker who is a beautiful girl. She really is. Good body, even better face. The men are none too subtle about inventing reasons to hang around with her. She dresses impeccably. Her husband is adorable and, since he's originally from New Zealand, he has the cutest accent. She has a good relationship with her parents. Her boss -- The Chocolate Covered Spider -- is on maternity leave, so she has an opportunity to show upper management what she can do on some high-profile projects. Earlier in the summer, that's exactly what she said she wanted.
So why isn't she happy?
She cuts corners because of the stress. She complains about the stress. She takes days off because of the stress.
She's always going for coffee "to vent" or sitting in one of the guest chairs at reception, looking sad and texting, texting, texting on her cell (presumably to her husband). This post is inspired by her confession that she keeps a "complaints" folder! What does she have to complain about?
Oh, but to be 30, beautiful and thin, with a great wardrobe, a cute husband and parents I enjoy going on vacation with! And to top it off, to have a golden opportunity to show my bosses just what I can do!
It's everything in me to not go up to her, slap her face and shout, a la Cher in Moonstruck, "Snap out of it!"
These are the thoughts and observations of me — a woman of a certain age. (Oh, my, God, I'm 65!) I'm single. I'm successful enough (independent, self supporting). I live just outside Chicago, the best city in the world. I'm an aunt and a friend. I feel that voices like mine are rather underrepresented online or in print. So here I am. If my musings resonate with you, please visit my blog again sometime.
My psychology class had a great discussion about happiness--what constitutes happiness, etc. Eye opening from the 18-year-old perspective.
ReplyDeleteA Complaint Folder? Sounds like the opposite of the Happiness Challenge! Maybe she is participating in the Unsatisfied Challenge!
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