tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post1784082110520915420..comments2024-03-28T13:23:30.718-05:00Comments on One Gal's Musings: I'm not reaching out this timeThe Gal Herselfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02566779726191649848noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-36250091294286541142021-04-13T08:01:42.278-05:002021-04-13T08:01:42.278-05:00It's so hard to watch loved ones in a state of...It's so hard to watch loved ones in a state of trauma who can't / won't ask for help. And it's equally hard to struggle with your own feelings which can include anger, helplessness, and concern. <br /><br />The question I use in situations where I feel helpless is this: "What is mine to do here?" because it helps me refocus on what I can and cannot do and what is needed (or not) from me.<br /><br />Seems to me you are doing and have done all that is yours to do throughout this entire ordeal. And that is all you can do, Gal. That is all you can do. <br /><br />Continue to send love and prayers (and the occasional gift card when you feel called to do so) and allow them to live their life as they choose, hard as that may be. <br /><br />Sending you so much love.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16010635183616220660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-72193169945993659562021-04-09T16:34:23.886-05:002021-04-09T16:34:23.886-05:00I am proud of you for keeping your boundaries. Yo...I am proud of you for keeping your boundaries. Your love for and friendshp with Henry and Reg need them. This is a difficult situation all the way around. Sending love to all of you.Kwizgiverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02030855903021576354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-18329709152355706042021-04-09T10:07:46.258-05:002021-04-09T10:07:46.258-05:00I am really sorry to read this. I know you care fo...I am really sorry to read this. I know you care for these fellows very much, but you have to take care of yourself. I didn't think anything you wrote sounded selfish. I could read your concern for them in your words. You have a good heart, but some things are beyond your control. It sounds like this is one of them. Take care.CountryDewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03243893531509380824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-15484975957035965792021-04-08T16:24:10.048-05:002021-04-08T16:24:10.048-05:00Oh, gal, this was so hard to read. My heart goes ...Oh, gal, this was so hard to read. My heart goes out to you...as a "helper" and a nurse, it is so hard for me when people won't or can't listen or get themselves out of a situation. There are so many great brain injury programs out there, and it's just terrible that your dear friends are so stuck that they can't find a way to a better place. There's a thing in al-anon called "detaching with love" and I think that's what you are doing. And it's ok. And good for you. Thinking about you.Me, Myself, and Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02053397608477232790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-15005213552608017332021-04-08T15:20:20.516-05:002021-04-08T15:20:20.516-05:00100% agree with you. 100% agree with you. VRPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04888223699358091714noreply@blogger.com