tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post1174829457365578026..comments2024-03-28T22:58:27.320-05:00Comments on One Gal's Musings: I invited her in ...The Gal Herselfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02566779726191649848noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-31365683341919229512012-11-08T09:31:42.023-06:002012-11-08T09:31:42.023-06:00wow, what a ride. some towns cause one to live in ...wow, what a ride. some towns cause one to live in associations that are unforetunate. i tend to be harder-nosed with time and walk away from people. I guess that to be the lesson various people present to somone who clings and hopes for change. if you understood the motivational roots would that make her make more sense or just bond you with more empathy? Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05251168248457758117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-64329570552369703812012-02-22T15:18:01.986-06:002012-02-22T15:18:01.986-06:00I agree with menopausal mama. It's unlikely th...I agree with menopausal mama. It's unlikely that Kathy was ever your friend in the real sense of the word. What kind of friend constantly needles her friends with put-downs?<br /><br />The phrase "it's a Kathy thing" is familiar to me. I have no problem tolerating "Kathy things," if the Kathy in question is willing to tolerate my "things." Your Kathy isn't, and that's a problem.<br /><br />While there's some truth to "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery," it can also be intrusive.<br /><br />I hope that your time away from her will make her realize she's damaging your relationship. More importantly, I hope it's a healing time for you.I {heart} Rhodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15406255574945987752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-36479887959508414422012-02-19T21:15:45.641-06:002012-02-19T21:15:45.641-06:00You know it's time to let this relationship go...You know it's time to let this relationship go. And you'll do that when you're ready to release it. Clearly it no longer serves you (if it ever did) and it's time to release yourself. <br /><br />You are who you are and own it (in good times and not-so-good times). She's got her lessons to learn but you no longer have to be part of the class.<br /><br />You know what to do. Allow yourself to do it. <br /><br />Signed,<br />She who is who she is (also too) and respects you tremendously.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16010635183616220660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-78246494282092436562012-02-19T07:01:40.827-06:002012-02-19T07:01:40.827-06:00A 30-year relationship is not something to toss aw...A 30-year relationship is not something to toss away lightly. You also have an age difference to take into consideration. It might not be that much, but then again, a decade can be a lot.<br /><br />I feel sorry for Kathy. She's lost her home. That must have been tough and humiliating. That's my worst nightmare.<br /><br />But on the positive side - you converted her! She became a Christian - in your church! How fantastic is that? What an exemplary example you must be to her, that she would follow in those footsteps. I applaude you for this.<br /><br />By all means, take a break from your friend, but, after you have put a little time and distance between you, do go back and think about things in a different light. You owe yourself that. And then do whatever feels right to you.<br /><br />Good luck!CountryDewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03243893531509380824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-28233887860050805142012-02-17T17:54:28.698-06:002012-02-17T17:54:28.698-06:00This is quite a post. It must have been therapeut...This is quite a post. It must have been therapeutic to write. Her "Kathy things" makes me cringe. And I think you're right, it is time to take a break, as tough as it will be.Kwizgiverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02030855903021576354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27448101.post-7773444928672507222012-02-17T14:30:28.990-06:002012-02-17T14:30:28.990-06:00Personally, I wouldn't consider Kathy as a fri...Personally, I wouldn't consider Kathy as a friend. She sounds more like a user. I have no patience for anyone who treats animals like she did---it's very upsetting. Forget your "friendship" to this person---it's only one-sided. I have a sister-in-law who is just like this and it has taken me 27 yrs. of beating my head against a wall to please her, and yet it is never enough...so I'm finally done with her. People like Kathy and my sister-in-law spread negative energy---who needs that in their life? OK I'll get down from my soap box. on a lighter note, your blog is wonderful--really enjoyed reading your posts. Hop on over and visit me some time at http://Menopausalmother.blogspot.com Thanks for sharing your thoughts!menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.com